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ghost-bxrd · 7 months

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Prompt:

After some very eventful weeks of Jason’s debut as the Red Hood he takes a well deserved night off and decides to crash in one of his safe houses.

He did not count on one of the Bats finding him there.

So to keep his plans from being torpedoed entirely Jason goes with the split second decision of pretending he was held captive by the Red Hood.

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giantkillerjack · 1 year

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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cracklewink · 1 year

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hear me out: moose in mlp

#mlp #my little pony #my little pony friendship is magic #twilight sparkle #oakley the moose #any other oakley fans out there #one of my FAVORITE mlp toys ever #i wish they would reissue her oakleys go for like 250$ on ebay :sob: i guess it is a rare G1 toy #oh also i hc that in mlp some horned species like moose can make special carvings on their horns to “Access” magic #but they cant use uncarved horns to cast spells #unicorn and kirin horns have natural magical markings on them so they dont need to do it #my version of oakley's magic is blue like her leaves : )#i am also a huge truther about putting cutie marks on non pony characters

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egophiliac · 10 months

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I have SO many thoughts about everything and they are in no kind of order yet, so here's just some quick little bits in the meantime!

I am not normal about any of these characters!

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 part 6 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 part 6 spoilers #me just staring at the ceiling thinking about anime characters #if i start talking about the big stuff now it's going to turn into a huge rambling mess so in the meantime #i did not get sebek (yet) (i need to contemplate my gems...) but i did see his groovy #he is just full-on cinderella-sparkles bibbidi-bobbidi-booing into that armor! magnificent.#and i really don't have enough words for how much i love tiny malleus. he is perfect. he is precious. he is everything to me.#he knows who his dad is no matter what some crusty dead talking ectoplasm blobs say #(man no wonder lilia's got hangups if THAT was the general attitude he was getting)#('eww you got your dirty bat cooties on the prince' go sit in the corner with mrs. rosehearts you absolute garbage)#(...i did kind of love that lilia started to wake up because the senate said one nice thing to him)#(and he immediately was like 'this is not reality')#(sounds about right)#on a lighter note i was just. SO charmed by the little throwaway about ✨dragon lord consort esteemed diplomat revaan✨#who picks the vegetables out of his food and hides them under the tablecloth #everything i learn about this man makes me like him more. he was SO dumb.#now we know where malleus gets it from i guess #also unrelated but once again the fact that i named my mc tamago has had unintentional consequences #tamago take the tamago and tamago tamagao tamago #frikkin love that when yuu gives the egg back you can just be like 'i love him. this is my baby now.' 100% accurate.#also yuu continually referring to malleus as tsunotarou even to the senate = amazing. yuu really has NO self-preservation or awareness.#they fit right in with everyone else #<- see what did i tell you. huge rambling mess.#and i haven't even BEGUN to talk about MELEANOR -- (is dragged offstage by a hook)

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thebaldursmouthgazette · 3 months

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I’m sure Dumat being defeated the same year andraste was born means nothing

I’m sure this has nothing to do with the fact that andrastes mother was part of a tribe who helped the grey wardens fight and defeat dumat the same year she was born, meaning that she could have been a fetus affected by the taint in the proximity of a dying arch demon

And the fact that nobody knows which grey warden killed dumat, as seven wardens died from injuries from his death throes, and therefore we cannot actually identify a warden who absorbed his soul, means nothing

And I’m sure it is a complete coincidence that andraste had dreams and visions of the being later referred to as the maker her whole life, and behaved strangely, talking about hearing lost voices and seeing strange auras. That absolutely doesn’t sound like anyone else we know

#dragon age #hi I don’t know if these are hot takes anymore or if I’m actually going insane #this could still work with the maker being mythal #(as in the thing that spoke to andraste. claims unverified)#there’s a theory of an 8th old god struck from record #so there’s still enough old gods to account for mythal being dumat #(the 8th old god is associated with sea monsters so that would be Ghilan’nain if that were the case. which is probably one of the ones we #see escaping)#what doesn’t add up is only two escape but there would be three left if this were the case #unless corypheus’ dragon WAS an arch demon and was razikale or Lusacan (which I believe are most likely dirthamen and elgar’nan)#which seem to be the two candidates for the other escaped evanuris #so things could add up #in terms of mythal learning about the tainted fetus stuff she could have done that observing #but it would make sense for her to learn from practice #I’ve been feeling like there’s a huge piece missing in the deal with her and the evanuris because she talks about being denied justice #and like. solas locked up the evanuris for a good few thousand years. it might not be her idea of perfect justice but surely it would be an #attempt #but what if that’s not the betrayal she’s talking about #what if the betrayal is that solas accidentally locked her in there too #dragon age theory #tagging these so I can find them

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gojoest · 25 days

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they’re finally back together 🥹

but i am not going to lie, seeing them all gathered together feels like satoru will pop up anytime and take them on a mission, but he left letters instead…. :,)

#jjk leaks #jjk 268 #despite his ‘nah i’d win’ attitude he knew there’s a huge chance he won’t be there to see them like that #💔#i am happy the trio is back but their silly one is missing and it is felt more than ever 🥲

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odetokeons · 1 year

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congratulations to ineffable bureaucracy for being the first queer couple ever to plan to run away together and ACTUALLY succeeding at it!

#a huge WIN for the gays and the niche rarepairs enjoyers #turns out that the 'quiet gentle and romantic' was about THEM all along #people who started shipping them YEARS ago when all they had was one canon interaction are the true winners of this season #blessed by agnes nutter with the gift of prophecy fr #ineffable bureaucracy #gabriel x beelzebub #archangel gabriel #lord beelzebub #good omens #good omens 2 #good omens season 2 #good omens s2 #good omens spoilers

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takemetodragonstone · 2 months

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*if your gender and sexuality brought on different feelings, vote for whichever you want. (whichever feeling was stronger, or first, or however you want to decide).

If you’re comfortable with it, put your sexuality and/or gender identity in the tags along with the feeling you experienced upon discovering it so we can see if any trends appear with correlations between certain identities and feelings!

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stormcallart · 11 months

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Saw the panel at EGX and I love them so much! this moment was so cute

#karlach #halsin #astarion #bg3 halsin #bg3 astarion #bg3 karlach #baldurs gate 3 #bg3 #bgiii #of course this is them talking about the bear scene #the faves in one spot how could i not draw them!?#also karlach and halsin are so huge idk how they fit on that sofa shakjf

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naturecalls111 · 1 year

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Sanji’s thoughts when he snorkels normal seas 🤿🌊

And when he does find the All Blue:

#one piece #fanart #sanji vinsmoke #all blue dream come true #bars #like baaaarrrrssss #like global top 50 hip hop level bars that I’m spitting #I love the idea of Sanji always fantasizing about finding the all blue whenever he snorkels normal seas #he thinks ‘well if it’s this amazing Here….’#comic inspired by when I went snorkeling a couple of days ago and saw a school of fish #huge. ginormous. insanely big. and when I swam through them they just… opened like a curtain #it was magical. like truly magical. I couldn’t believe I managed to see it #the all blue is Sanji’s stage #and he’s part of the ensemble cast #yes

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kagoutiss · 6 months

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pelican town, ‘72

#stardew valley #stardew valley spoilers #sdv #sdv spoilers #grandpa #mister qi #mr. qi #idk how dates work in stardew universe im just bullshittin #i love qi’s huge fucking eyebrows you dont notice them at first but theyre there #(gives our collective grandpa a ponytail) i think he had one. whatever #’why isnt mister qi blue’ my hc is he is blue from long-term iridium supplementation #and was originally just a regular person #but also it’s nice to see ur fav be like a normal human color #if u read tag essays tho consider this:#qi discovers secret to immortality (consuming iridium in a specific manner)#wants to share discovery with his farmer (player’s grandpa) and in that way. they will have all the time in the world to build #a perfect farming/business empire whose legacy will last forever and ever and theyll be 2gether forever #but it turns out. like a lot of normal people would. his farmer does not want to live forever #and obv he doesn’t #in an attempt to try not to ever lose the thing that means more to him than anything else in the world. qi inadvertantly ensures he will #because his farmer is dead. and he’s going to live forever #but. it’s kind of ok. because he has infinite money and was able to figure out how to talk to his dead bf #and now YOU help them fulfill their joint goal of making the farm’s legacy last forever #smile. heart #sobbing

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demigods-posts · 6 months

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i have this headcanon that percy and annabeth are raging accidental flirts. but not with each other. like. they'll go to the coffee shop on fifteenth street. and compliment the barista on his hair and clothes and tip really well. but only for him. and they have no idea this boy is absolutely swooning over them. or. each time they to go the bakery downtown. they take the time to converse with the waitress at the counter as they eat her homemade muffins. and are incredibly vocal about how she's their favorite server. and how much they enjoy seeing her. and suddenly they're the only two customers that can get her services for free. except, they just think she's like that with everyone.

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orange-coloredsky · 5 months

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a development team that looks like this could not possibly have any preconceived biases against Black people. noooo way. its just a mistake that all of the Black people in fo4 are slaves or named after fascist colonizers or murdered or stereotypical conspiracy freaks. there is no way that the reality of this team is reflected in the art they create over and over and over and over and over and over and

[ID 1: A photo of the Fallout 4 development team taken from above and forward, showing a large crowd smiling at the camera, made up apparently entirely by white people, and almost entirely by white men. End ID.]

#im sorry i cant fucking deal with this shit anymore #genuinely if youre white/nonblack and think that you can excuse the shit this team has done to Black characters with fanfiction ass excuses #i think 1: you should unfollow and 2: you should maybe fucking get more Black peopel in your life #but then again i wouldnt want to put them through that because its not our fucking job to make you realize that racialized violence in medi #made by white creators cannot be uncritically examined. that is Dangerous #and it is a privilege and a huge one at that to believe that fiction is a bubble outside of reality

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virtualtear00 · 18 days

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