#Aro stuff

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[glitchedcosmos]

* Danny phantom theme playing* he’s an ally~

[breaking-news-the-aroace-has]

After a brief sexuality crisis, the aroace has remained firm in their identity while renewing their aesthetic appreciation of titties.

Broadcaster's note: There was supposed to be a pun with identity and iden-TITTY, but the aroace has butchered it, much to their disappointment :(

[feelingthedisaster]

reblog/like if you love aromantic people

edit: wrong word choice, reblog/like if you care about aro and think are valid and just aros are so cool we rock

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Sometimes it makes me so sad when I’m on the aspec Reddit pages. So many people say they hate being ace because they ‘want to be loved’ and it breaks my fucking heart because it implies the only ‘real’ way to be loved is in a romantic and/or sexual way. Does it not count when it comes from your parents? Your friends? Your siblings and your cousins? Your neighbours? Your teachers? Your pets? Does my love for someone not count because it’s not romantic?!? I get wanting a romantic and/or sexual relationship but stop conflating it with being loved in general I’m begging

[chrishangry]

Let me just say as someone who hides a lot of myself in public how nice it is to see aroace and gender flux folks like me being unapologetically proud of expressing their nonbinary attraction and identity. I’m proud of you and I want to be like you when I grow up….even though I’m 35

[bizarreaizen]

me before realizing i'm aroace: why is everyone so obsessed with romance? sex sounds so gross. i don't want to have kids or marry anyone. why do people my age care so much about crushes? i don't want to date anyone.

me after realizing i'm aroace: it all makes sense now Σ(゜゜) /gen

[ambriel-angstwitch]

Ok does anyone else constantly hear that “A girl and a guy can’t just be friends one of them is going to catch feelings at some point.” Because I hear it all the time and that can’t possibly be true because that would mean that every single one of my guy friends has had a crush on me. Because I can tell you I did not have a crush on them, I’ve never had a crush on anyone I’m aroace

[flamingogreen]

Hi!, I’ve noticed something strange, the queer representation has been growing the last few years, but the aro-ace community don’t have the same amount of representation than other sectors of the queer community like gay or sapphic couples, and when we have representation is not always explicit sometimes the character just don’t have love interest and the author says that it’s aro-ace, but as an aro-ace person I’ll like to see the process when you realize that you are aro-ace like in the heart stopper series with Isaac.

[hello-im-queer]

I wanna tell my friends how much I love them and that I wanna hang out with them constantly and talk to them the whole time and tell them they look great and tell them that I have a deep platonic crush on them but

They'll think I'm a weirdo

[shiutsu]

like be glad that at least u have someone to talk to 💀 when ur friend list is larger than mine from the last 6 years 💀

Edit: ppl got mad over this in the meme aro subreddit & how those things aren't related. Suddenly y'all not putting 2 different types of attraction on the same level,hm?..🤡

[l3m0nteeth]

So bout that friend from a while back who kept making sexual jokes about me even though she knows I’m aroace and has been explicitly asked multiple times to stop!!!

yeah she hasn’t stopped. Instead she’s been blowing the comments off and saying I need to take a joke and that I’m overreacting :(

anyway today was finally the breaking point. She said “you seem like the kind of person, where if same sex marriage was ever illegal, you’d marry a gay man(implying he would secretly date a guy and I would secretly date a girl)” I replied to her saying no I wouldn’t do that because I’m aroace and that would have literally no benefit for me and she decided to respond by saying “well yeah but maybe you’d fall in love”

…

I’ve bee open about being aroace with her for about 3 or 4 years now. Until now she’s been making mostly sexual comments and jokes and I guess I never really felt to bad about them and was able to make myself forget it because anything involving sex kinda feels fake to me but idk this was the breaking point. Her implying that I’m wrong about myself and that I will fall in love someday (Ik it’s not exactly what the quote said but based on our past and other factors I know this is what she’s thinking)

what really broke me tho was afterwards another friend came up to me (she said this at our lunch table in front of many other people who also know I’m aroace and didn’t react at all) and talked to me bout it. I’m actually so so grateful they came up to me and told me what she did wasn’t right and that they’d noticed all the other times she’s said things like this. And idk I was holding back tears

Up until now no one has ever really acknowledged what she’s been saying or anything so having someone actually do that and agree with me that she should not be acting like that… idk it meant a lot to me. They hugged me and asked if I wanted them to talk to her about it and I just felt so cared for ig? Idk I’m really grateful for all they said

Anyway the point of this post was to say I’m going to try and talk to her one more time tomorrow and try to explain why I don’t like these comments and how she’s being homophobic and try to explain more in depth ig that I’m not only aroace but also romance and sex repulsed

So wish me luck and if you have any advice pls share ty for listening to my ranting <3

[melovibes57]

When people treat being single as an insult or a problem, it makes me so irritated. There’s nothing wrong with being single.

[enderpearltv]

Do any other aroaces ever feel left out?

Like don’t get me wrong, I don’t wish I was allo and I generally enjoy being aroace but

Sometimes I get asked what my ‘type’ is or who my celebrity crush is

And I’m reminded that it’s not an experience I can relate to

[feelingthedisaster]

aromantic stopped being trending

lets fucking change that

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

You don’t even have to lie to allos. They will assume you’re dating and having lots of sex anyway. If one of them badgers you about your dating/sex life, literally just say something vague and general af and they will fill in the blanks however they want to. You really don’t gotta do shit