#LGBTQ discourse

[fite-club]

i genuinely think mogai discourse and a fixation with microlabeling (and therefore, a focus on internal identity rather than shared issues and experiences) is partly to blame for where we're at now in terms of how tumblr users [mis]understand oppression. because the concept of "queerness" deviated away from "the lived experiences of people marginalized by misogyny/homophobia/transphobia" and towards "the feeling that you, personally, are different from everyone else", it's twisted people's base perception of what things like homphobia and transphobia even are. the focus for labels now is on "who is affected" rather than "the systemic forces at play", which is where you get weird shit like "panphobia" and "exorsexism", and why so many TME people try to argue that they're actually TMA because "all trans and intersex people are hurt by transmisogyny". these labels for "oppression" aren't based on underlying institutions of power and privilege, they're based on the idea that every group deserves their own special language. so, i genuinely think this is the crux of "is transandrophobia real" discourse-- it's why people read "transandrophobia doesn't exist" as "trans men aren't oppressed" instead of "oppression against men doesn't exist", and it's why people argue over whether or not "transandrophobia" implies misandry/androphobia/etc exists. no idea what to do about this tbh! especially when so many people actively refuse to read theory or educate themselves about the origins of marginalized groups' language

[textk4kira]

I've noticed a trend behind the use of the label "transsexual" vs. "transgender".

Oftentimes transmedicalists use transsexual to differentiate themselves from the rest of the trans community.

It's disheartening and quick frankly, appaling.

You will not achieve acceptance in a cisheteronormative society by distancing yourselves from the "bad" or "confusing" trans folks.

Transsexual is a wonderful label, and we cannot allow transmedicalists to take ownership of it.

[elle-girlylesbian]

As a femme lesbian, I feel that right now is the time to address the fact that me, as a straight passing woman, and everyone of us who can, should protect our community. The masc women, the butches, the trans people, the gay men, the queer couples are all in a dangerous situation due to the rise of conservatism.

I often talk about how as a femme it's annoying to not be seen as a lesbian, and it is. But it is most importantly a privilege, and it's my, our responsibility to protect non straight passing members of our community.

Let's not forget that.

[chaos-in-one]

Need more people to realize that "this thing wouldn't be healthy for me" or "this thing makes me uncomfortable" or even "this thing actively upsets or triggers me" does not make that thing inherently harmful, and in labeling something as inherently harmful based on your own personal experiences with it, you will end up hurting, silencing, and/or dismissing many people who do not share said experiences or even have completely opposing experiences with said thing.

Before you label things as morally wrong based on personal experience with it, take the time to consider if that experience applies to other people who have interacted with that thing by default, if the harm is actually inherent, or even has a high correlation, or if it is on an individual level.

[justsomeskullkidhater37]

lesbian: “i don’t think lesbians can be attracted to men, cis or trans”

some chronically online 14 year old self diagnosed transmasc lesboy: “YOURE LITERALLY HITLER YOU EXCLUS DYKE WHORE TRANSPHOBIC BITCH YOU DESERVE TO DIE YOU BIGOTED SLUT, LESBIANS CAN LIKE TRANS MEN BECAUSE THEY STILL HAVE PUSSIES”

[totally-ikea]

There’s nothing in the world that makes me as angry as when a person says “I’m lgbtq and I agree with you” when someone says neopronouns are disgusting or ruining the kids.

Like. Shut the fuck up?? Actually stop talking. I don’t want to hear you’re voice.

[icarianlibrary]

This may just be me, but trans men (Not transmasc, trans men) identifying as lesbian is so weird to me. I think we; as the queer community have put this bad omen on being straight, which is not at all true. If you're a man (Trans or not), and are exclusively attracted to women, you're straight.

Now, it isn't my place to police someone's identity, but from my understanding, being a lesbian is WLW (Women love Women), not MLW.

In no way am I trying to police how people identify, but I am genuinely confused here, it does not add up for me.

-Sincerely, a bisexual trans man

[lgbtransgirl]

Labels are descriptors, not rules.

[here-2-help]

Hey everyone! I'm here to make a callout post for @aroallothoughts . They have been policing others identities, been inherently acephobic, spreading misinformation, encouraging discourse, and supporting negative stereotypes. Please find a better aroallo blog! This user has been incredibly rude and illogical. Block him! I would reccommend @aroallo-corvid instead!

Edit: This account has been harassing multiple people and spoke behind @unhingedauthor8 's back: here

[inana-gets-political]

Legitimately, we have to talk about the most insidious kind of transphobic argument I have heard: "Gender is a social construct"

No, gender is a neurological characteristic with social constructs linked to it. It is that simple.

Saying that gender is only social means it is mutable, and that thus trans people can be made cis and viceversa.

It is a transphobic idea. Trans people exist due to in utero fluctuations of hormones from when out brains are made to when the body is made, there isn't a social reason. Social constructs are LINKED artificially to gender, but gender comes from brain structure.

Also, saying we're a byproduct of an oppressive social construct means that we're a symptom of a disease in society. It means that in a perfect society we wouldn't exist, so... Yeah, transphobic as fuck.

[justsomeskullkidhater37]

some c1sbians will really see a trans women and be like “ewww” but then will turn around and start thirsting over a whole ass trans man because they really only think that anyone with a pussy can be a lesbian

[sagegreenyaps]

Me, holding a microphone up to all the people who equate being sex-repulsed with being a puritan: Um, okay, and how do you feel about romance-repulsed people?

[sparkystarlight]

anyway forcing ppl to conform to the exact description of the orientations/identities they choose is completely against the spirit of queerness

[whumpster-fire]

If I hear one more argument about how the Pride flag needs to include a separate design element for every single possible permutation of gender / sexual orientation / race / genitals / baldness / weight / MBTI type I am going to begin a dark ritual to make the new Pride flag a seal on a navy blue background. Then you jackasses can fight over the design of the seal all you want. Make it like the Virginia state flag but with Marsha Johnson throwing a brick or something and throw as many colors and symbols into the seal and its border as you want. Go wild.

[springonmytraptillicomeback]

just saw a poll debating whether or not cishet aro men are lgbt… yall… yall… cis, heterosexual, AROMANTIC, men… I can’t with this shit

[thespiritualmeatgrinder]

im genuinely curious but how many of you guys actually find contradictory labels "disrespectful"

like half of the discourse surrounding labels is people going "its disrespectful for people who actually go by that label to do xyz!!"

but like do you guys actually think its disrespectful or not