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It would be so nice if every few years queer tumblr didn’t do a, “this queer identity is more privileged than the rest of us and shouldn’t talk about their issues/shouldn’t even be in the community,” about another identity.
Since I’ve been here it’s been: nonbinary people, bisexual people, asexual and aromantic people, polyamorous people, pansexual people, people who only use the word queer for their identity, trans men/mascs, and intersex people. At least. I might’ve missed something.
We’re stronger together. We all need space to discuss our experiences and all deserve not to be spoken over.
#my post#transandrophobia#ace discourse#aro discourse#bi discourse#pan discourse#queer discourse#polyamory#intersex
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A lot of discourse could stop if y'all stopped approaching every situation with this idea that your experience is the default one
#queer#lgbt#trans#transgender#lesbian#gay#bisexual#pansexual#pan#bi#wlw#mlm#sapphic#achillean#transmisogny#transandrophobia#transfem#transmasc#ace#aro#asexual#aromantic#nonbinary#genderfluid#genderqueer#discourse#leftist#leftism
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i know they basically mean the same thing but i don’t care. it’s fine. plenty of words have similar, near identical definitions. not worth arguing over. have a nice day pansexual people and steer clear of the Discourse. it’s not worth our time
as a respectable bi person i don’t have a bone to pick about pansexuality. who give a shit
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recently encountered a post where someone said "gender is fluid but sexuality isn't". (they were talking about bi lesbians.)
my first thought was: does that person, like. hear what they're saying? how can you explicitly hold two beliefs that are so logically inconsistent and not see it? how can you simultaneously think gender is this fluid and complex thing, but sexuality, much of which is defined around gender, is simple and stationary and its boundaries need policing?
but like, fuck, why even argue against it, right? there is no internal logic because there is no logical thought behind it. these are not genuine beliefs. this person is repeating what is currently acceptable in their (small) specific social circle. this is the same person who, a few years back, would be excluding nonbinary lesbians, but nonbinary lesbians are cool and normal on queer tumblr now, so they'll exclude bi lesbians instead, and not even pause to reflect on the difference.
oh, and if you read this and thought "these people don't even actually accept nb lesbians either", ding ding ding! because it's not a real, deep belief, that acceptance is extremely shallow and conditional. so as soon as someone is an nb lesbian in a way these people find odd (like being both a man and a lesbian) they will exclude them too and find a way to justify it.
why do we have to endlessly go through this cycle with queer identities. can we not? can we just not. i'm tired.
#followers i am so sorry for posting discourse#had something to say on a topic i care about so i said it#og post#bi lesbian#mspec lesbian#bi#mspec#oh and it's always abt lesbians isn't it.#it's always the lesbian community being invaded#the meaning of lesbian being eroded#i wonder why!#lesboy#multigender#bigender#genderfluid#i am not putting this in the more general queer tags bc this is already likely to attract dipshits i'm not opening the door wider#inclusionist#rad inclus#anti exclus#tw discourse#lesbian#pan lesbian#txt
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reminder that being queer is not a medical condition and you don't have to fit in a specific set of symptoms to use certain labels. just call yourself whatever you'd like even if you don't fit in the commonly accepted definition.
#as long as your intentions are good then i dont care what you call yourself#queer#mspec gay#mspec lesbian#bi lesbian#pan lesbian#lesboy#queer discourse#cw queer discourse#yes this includes “cishet” men
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Don't make me tap the sign
#ace discourse#pan discourse#bi discourse#queer discourse#lgbt discourse#aro discourse#queer solidarity#bi lesbian discourse#transmed#truscum
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I'm just over here, being Bisexual and having immense overwhelming love for my Pansexual comrades, because the words other people use to define themselves are not about me <3
#bisexual#pansexual#bi pan solidarity#bisexual memes#pansexual memes#bi pride#pan pride#cannot imagine getting mad about how other people define their own sexuality#but I'm seeing The Discourse again so apparently that's still A Thing#this goes for all good faith identities#but i just saw the bi v pan garbage so i am reacting to that specifically
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”mspec lesbians and lesboys DNI” BOOOOO!! 🍅 BOOOO!!!! 🍅 🍅 🍅
#sorry for contradictorylabelposting on main but I saw some exclusionist nonsense and got mad about it so now you guys have to deal with it#Lesboy#mspec lesbian#bi lesbian#Pan lesbian#poly lesbian#Omni lesbian#pro bi lesbian#pro mspec lesbian#pro lesboy#Queer#Queer discourse#<- for filtering#Contradictorylabelposting
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"Homoromantic bisexuals are valid but bi lesbians aren't" so close! You are actually just Fucking Stupid
#bi lesbian#pan lesbian#mspec lesbian#mspec mono#omni lesbian#abro lesbian#queer discourse#< for the blacklist#please don't discourse on this post this is a support post for my sisters in arms
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BG3 Companion Sexuality Headcanons
Astarion: Pansexual. Has a slight preference for men. Has a complicated relationship with feelings of attraction and connection, so doesn't usually like thinking about his own sexual identity. Thinks Wyll is the hottest other party member.
Lae'zel: Pansexual, kind of. Doesn't really relate to sex and gender in the same way as the Faerunian companions. Githyanki socially de-emphasize romance, and all sex is generally for pleasure since Vlaakith decides who bears eggs. Lae'zel is alloromantic, but romance isn't generally at the front of her mind in a relationship. Neither is gender; ultimately Lae'zel is attracted to conviction and fighting prowess, moreso even than anything physical.
Shadowheart: Bisexual. Very slight preference for men. (EDIT: I've rotated this in my mind after people pointed it out and I think actually Shadowheart has a slight preference for women.) Remained closeted into adulthood, not because the other Sharrans would discriminate against her (they generally don't care about sexuality) but because she wanted to impress everyone with how well she could keep the secret. Also, excessively kinky.
Gale: Bisexual. Has more experience with women than with men, but that has more to do with circumstances than preference. Though physical appearance isn't not a factor, he would probably describe himself as a sapiosexual; he's attracted to knowledge, intellectual curiosity, and strong opinions. Had crushes on several teachers in wizard school.
Wyll: Bisexual. Realized he wasn't just attracted to women at a young age, and his father was very supportive. No preference between genders, but one of his favorite things to do is court gentlemen exactly the same way he courts ladies; he likes being the devoted chivalric prince to men since he knows it's less common for them to be flattered and told they're beautiful.
Karlach: Pansexual. Years of being unable to make genuine connections with anyone have made her horny for affection, kindness, and commitment. Maybe had some gender preference before going to Hell, but her time there has given her lots of time to consider basically any options. Has at least a slight crush on basically every other party member.
Halsin: Pansexual. No gender preference. Halsin has had centuries to explore his sexuality, and his robust understanding of nature gives him a non-binary perspective on gender and sex. Nothing is a casual fling for this dude, though -- if you show the slightest bit of interest in him he will dedicate his whole heart to you. And also anyone else who shows interest in him at the same time.
Minthara: I didn't actually have Minthara in my party, but from what I've seen she seems like a pretty traditional drow, and when I think of drow and sexuality I sort of imagine a reverse of ancient Greek customs; bisexuality is the norm, men are prized for their beauty and for marriagibility, but it's expected that women will also have flings with other women, and those relationships are often considered more meaningful. I imagine Minthara follows those lines, being bisexual and assuming she may one day marry a beautiful man but being more inclined to meaningful, affectionate relationships with women, due to her own prejudices moreso than preference between genders.
Jaheira: Thought she was straight for the first century of her life, but has more recently opened up to other possibilities. Isn't particularly interested in marriage or a deep interpersonal romance at this point in her life, but she has entered a state of questioning her sexuality -- she's just not super interested in experimenting with actual relationships. She's got more important stuff to do. Did have a fling with Ninefingers that neither of them tell anyone about.
Minsc: Doesn't like labels. Minsc isn't interested in finding a partner, doesn't really care about sex, and is enthusiastic about romance mainly when other people do it. He hasn't given a lot of thought to where he might fall on any sexual/romantic spectrum, but he definitely sees beauty in all of his friends. He will give you the most heartfelt and often embarassing compliments on your personality, style, and appearance. Does that mean he's attracted to you? Maybe, maybe not, but there's definitely something queerplatonic going on.
#baldur's gate 3#bg3#dungeons & dragons#original content#minsc#jaheira#shadowheart#wyll ravengard#karlach#halsin#minthara#gale of waterdeep#lae'zel#astarion#surprise they're all bi/pan#playersexual discourse is the devil to me and it can get out of my house#bg3 headcanons
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Just discovered the term les4les. Are we really trying to make biphobia cool again
#it was on a blog with sapphic in the username too 🙃 but les4les in their about and tagged on every one of their posts#like you realize sapphic includes bisexual women right?#went to the tag just to make sure i wasnt insane and half the posts were also tagged with wlw#like you realize that ALSO includes bisexual women right??#some dumbass was like 'the discourse around les4les is insane how come we cant say that but bisexuals can talk about#how they wont ever date women' like ??? where are all these mythical bisexual women who hate dating women#someone else was bragging about being gold star#what the hell is happening. is this 2014? we're returning to 'women who date/have dated men are tainted by them' discourse#but this time asking people to pretend its not hateful#and also reappropriating all the terms we created specifically to build community between lesbians and bi/pan women?#(bc of course none of them even acknowledged the existence of pansexuality as a label either)#first blog was also like 'i need butch mutuals 🥺 why do no butches follow me 🥺'#well idk about any other butches but IM not going to follow anyone whos biphobic to my friends and partners#and as someone who identified as 'old fashioned' they should EXPECT me to protect my femmes anyway right?#anyway. probably shouldnt even bother posting this but that was such a stupid thing to wake up to#rambling
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Sorry but you're not a "totally progressive radical queer" if everytime you see a gender or sexuality you don't understand you become a fucking Conservative about it.
#queer#lgbt#discourse#queer discourse#gay#trans#lesbian#ace#asexual#aromantic#aroace#aspec#transgender#nonbinary#genderfluid#mspec#pansexual#bisexual#bi#pan
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People who try to define lesbian solely by the exclusion on men and men aligned people are weird and come off as kinda immature to me
And I'm not just talking about the "nmlnm" people, I'm also talking about the people that will question a lesbian's sexuality if she idolizes a male celebrity, because no lesbian could ever like a man enough to put pictures of him all over her wall unless she wasn't really a lesbian
Apparently????
It's the people who make it a point that they have a distaste for or hatred of men, and they've tied that into their sexual orientation
Then they go "can we have something that's not all about men for once?", not realizing that by using the exclusion of men to define a certain identity they still are making it all about men
And talking about bi-lesbians with people like this always comes down to what is basically "well bisexuality can include attraction to men and I don't want boy cooties on my sexuality!"
Literally grow up
#queer discourse#lesbian#mspec lesbian#pro mspec lesbian#sapphic#anti exclusionist#fuck exclusionists#bi lesbian#pan lesbian#lesboy#he/him lesbian#hating men is not a valid reason to invalidate others#fuck off safequeers#exclusionists need to grow tf up
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btw if any cute bisexuals who are also sick of discourse wanna meet up and take a pic where we're kissing and i'm holding the pan flag and you're holding the bi flag. this is a service im willing to provide
#bi#bisexual#pan#pansexual#anti discourse#mspec#multisexual#m spec#bi/pan solidarity#queer solidarity
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One of the stupidest things in queer discourse is posing of bi and pan as oppositional. Like pan folks deal with all the same issues as us and are trying to solve them just like bi people and you’re trying to convince me they’re my enemy?
#This applies to poly and omni too#panphobia#pansexual#tw discourse#queer discourse#bi pan solidarity#Mspec#m-spec#Panromantic#bi#pan#bisexual#biromantic#Janus’s Corner
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Something that always got me about specifically exclusionary-type queer discourse is how often I would see the people doing the excluding saying things like, “stop treating the community like it’s an exclusive club,” as though that wasn’t exactly what they were doing by trying to gatekeep queerness.
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