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Summerween 🎃 - June 22

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✧・゜ how to radiate confidence in social situations (even when you're screaming inside) ゜✧:・゜✧

hey lovelies! ✧

let's be honest - we've all been there. standing in a room full of people, smile plastered on, while our internal monologue is having a complete meltdown. that was literally me last weekend at this networking event where i knew absolutely no one and spent the first 15 minutes hiding in the bathroom (classic me behavior).

but over time i've collected some little tricks that help me appear confident even when my insides are doing gymnastics. thought i'd share in case any of you are fellow social anxiety girlies too!

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the body language hack ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

our bodies can actually trick our minds into feeling confident. before entering any intimidating social situation, i find a private spot (usually the bathroom, let's be real) and stand in a "power pose" for two minutes. arms on hips, shoulders back, chin up. it feels silly but it genuinely changes my nervous system.

another tiny thing: keep your hands visible, not crossed or hidden in pockets. something about this signals confidence to others and eventually to yourself.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ prepare your conversation toolkit ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

nothing makes me panic more than awkward silence, so i always have a mental list of conversation starters ready. not just "what do you do?" but questions that actually lead somewhere interesting:

"what's been keeping you busy outside of work lately?"

"have you read/watched anything good recently?"

"what's something you're looking forward to this year?"

the secret is asking questions that you genuinely want to hear answers to. people can sense authentic curiosity, and it takes pressure off you to be "interesting" when you're focused on being interested.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the "i belong here" mindset shift ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

this one changed everything for me. i used to walk into rooms thinking "i hope they like me" which immediately put me in a position of seeking approval. now i try to shift to "i wonder if i'll like them."

it's such a subtle change but it puts you in the position of the observer rather than the observed. suddenly you're not auditioning for acceptance - you're just seeing if this person/group is your vibe.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ embrace the awkward ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

the biggest confidence killer is trying to be perfect. there's actually something magnetic about someone who can laugh at themselves when they trip over a word or spill their drink.

i've started just naming the awkwardness when it happens: "well that came out completely wrong, let me try again!" people actually connect more with your humanity than your perfection.

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ the 5-second reset ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

when i feel myself spiraling into overthinking, i use this tiny reset: i take a deep breath, count to 5, and remind myself that most people are too worried about themselves to be analyzing me.

seriously, the same insecurity that makes you worry about what others think is the exact thing that prevents others from thinking about you as much as you fear!

⋆.ೃ࿔:･ aftercare is essential ･:࿔ೃ.⋆

confidence isn't just about how you act in the moment - it's also about how you treat yourself after. i used to dissect every interaction, cringing at everything i said.

now i have a rule: no social autopsies. instead, i celebrate that i showed up at all. sometimes i'll even buy myself a little treat on the way home as a "well done for being brave" gift.

remember, true confidence isn't the absence of fear - it's just the decision that something else is more important than that fear. and with practice, those screaming-inside moments get quieter and less frequent.

what about you? any confidence hacks that help you in social situations?

xoxo, mindy 🤍

[bunabi]

Users who can't tell the difference between a vent post with unasked-for reach and a targeted moral condemnation against them personally are like celebrities to me. Insecure and making it everyone else's problem. Imagine the freedom. Much to learn from this and I'm not joking.

[00youngod]

‘For My Last Trick’ moodboard

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𝑫𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒊𝒏𝒗𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒎𝒆 𝒖𝒏𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒗𝒊𝒃𝒆𝒔 ༄˖°.🍂.ೃ࿔*:･

[coaping]

Shoujo Specifics: Haruhi Fujioka

Where’s my host club

tips start here:

Studying

Haruhi’s main hobby is studying. I mean, it’s what got her into Ouran High! Even if you’re not aiming to get into a luxury school, it is always a good idea to study hard so you can accomplish your dreams.

Join clubs!

Ok, technically Haruhi isn’t in a club by choice, but she does enjoy herself at the host club. Not only is it a great way to make friends, but also enrich your life! So pick a club and have a good time!!

Watch how much you spend

Being a ‘commoner’, Haruhi tries not to spend much money on things she doesn’t need. Although it’s ok to buy yourself something every once in a while, try not to excessively buy things you don’t actually need. When buying something, question how much you’ll get out the item.

Believe in yourself

Haruhi pretty much always believes in herself. She has no doubt when it comes to whether things will be ok or not! One easy way I’ve been able to believe in myself is affirmations. Things like “the universe works in my favor” and whatnot

Eye contact

Haruhi canonically has very good eye contact! Now this is one I really struggle with, but with time and practice, it’ll gradually become more comfortable and natural.

take care of yourself and your home

In her spare time, Haruhi does all of the housework. To take after this try learning some healthy food recipes, set up a cleaning routine, and helping out around the house if you don’t live alone.

(P.S. if you’d like to see me doing any other Shoujo girls, tell me which ones and I’ll see what I can do!)

[being-addie]

Let's talk about friendships.

Company matters. If your friends are out smoking during work, bunking classes and partying, you will either

a) break under peer pressure and follow them

b) be miserable if that isn't the lifestyle you want

I want to say I've never been in that situation, but I was. This is why I can empathize with you, and tell you that you need to leave friendships like these ASAP.

My "friends" did not respect me. Because I let them. They would talk over me, make plans without me, leave me behind at gatherings, had absolutely NO boundaries. It took me a painful experience to wake the fuck up and leave them.

In my room, I cried. I screamed. I raged about how unfair all of this was. But the issue wasn't them it was me. I was the one who didn't set the boundaries. I was the one who let them disrespect me over and over. The moment you do not stand up for yourself, it's over. Its hunting season, and people will tear you to shreds.

It took me a while to heal, but when I did end up making new, better friends, I realised the vast difference between my friend groups. When I was with my old friends, I was constantly stressed, I had incomplete assignments, I would go out all the time, and I'll be honest I was really bitchy. With my new friends, my god how things changed. New study habits, healthier choices, laughter, love.

I didn't realise how long I hadn't been myself. The people who you surround yourself with have a huge effect on you and your life. And trust me when I say if you feel the need to hide parts of yourself and fake shit to be around them, you will NEVER be happy around them. True friendship flourishes around authenticity and confidence.

Company matters. Know who your real friends are.

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home finally euuugh my ribs hurt

[angels444yuri]

and at the end of the day my favorite part of kissing anyone will always be hearing them talk about how much lipgloss i've left on their lips

[glowettee]

HIIII. i literally love your blog to death. it's so cute. and it's so informative.

Do you have any tips for making friends? i struggle soooo much with making friends! thank you mindy!

hi angel! 🌸 thank you for your sweet message about my blog! making friends can be super challenging, especially when you're focused on big dreams like med school and business like me. (trust me, i totally get it). let me share my detailed guide on making meaningful connections !

a guide to making friends (for ambitious sweethearts) ♡

understanding the basics of friendship: friendship is like a dance between two souls. it requires patience, understanding, and genuine interest in others. as someone who loves psychology, i've noticed that the strongest friendships are built on:

mutual understanding

shared values

consistent communication

emotional safety

reciprocal support

where to find friends (places i've had success):

academic settings

honors/ap classes (found my study buddy in ap bio!)

study groups (perfect for combining socializing and academics)

library study sessions

academic clubs (pre-med society changed my life)

business club meetings

extracurricular activities

volunteer work at local hospitals, clinics, animal shelters

business competitions

leadership workshops

student government

entrepreneurship clubs

psychology-backed friendship tips: (combining my psych knowledge with real experience)

first impressions

maintain soft eye contact

practice open body language

speak clearly but softly

show genuine interest

remember names (psychology trick: repeat it 3 times mentally)

conversation skills

ask open-ended questions

practice active listening

share relevant personal experiences

validate others' feelings

use "yes, and" technique to build on topics

maintaining friendships

schedule regular study dates (if you're a student)

create shared goals

celebrate each other's achievements

offer emotional support

respect boundaries

balancing friendships with ambition: as someone pursuing both medicine and business, i understand time management is crucial. here's how i maintain friendships while staying focused:

study together

share academic resources

create accountability partnerships

schedule friendship time like meetings

combine social time with productive activities

common friendship challenges and solutions:

feeling too busy solution: integrate friends into your routine (study sessions, lunch breaks)

social anxiety solution: start with one-on-one interactions in comfortable settings

fear of rejection solution: remember that everyone feels this way sometimes

maintaining boundaries solution: be clear about your time constraints and priorities

different interests solution: find common ground in shared goals and ambitions

red flags to watch for: (important)

friends who don't respect your academic goals, career goals, life goals etc..

people who make you feel bad about your ambitions

toxic competition

inconsistent support

emotional drainage

green flags to look for: (important)

mutual encouragement

respect for boundaries

genuine interest in your success

emotional availability

consistent communication

note:

quality over quantity always

true friends support your dreams

it's okay to be selective

friendship takes time to develop

your academic goals matter too

personal note: i've found my closest friends through shared interests in medicine and business. we study together, support each other's goals, and understand when we need to focus on academics. these friendships are extra special because they align with our future paths.

i'm naturally an introvert and i tend to isolate myself a lot, but the friends i have are super understanding and support me, and i couldn't ask for better friends <3

sending you the sweetest vibes and hoping you find your perfect friend group! remember, the right friends will celebrate your ambitions, not dim your shine. ✨

love always, mindy

p.s. feel free to message me anytime for more specific advice! we're all in this together. 🤍

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Gonna go trick or treating !!!!!

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pre-show rituals on the 'for my last trick' tour 🕯️

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how to be the sweetest you’ve ever been!!

I’m back everybody!! Sometimes I look back at who I used to be, and I genuinely miss her. Innocence, the sweetness of being young and bright-eyed. Instead of yearning for that once more, I’ve decided why not just make a guide about how to retrieve it?! lol☆〜（ゝ。∂）

tips start here:

•Knowing when to not speak

I’ve always had an issue with that, speaking whatever comes to mind without a second thought. Think before you speak means taking things slower and listening more actively, to me at least!(・・;)

•practice kindness

ok, I might’ve just stole this from Sawako, but I try to do at least one kind thing everyday!

•Monitor what content you take in

less bad content ! I have personally never had TikTok, but I’ve been tempted! it’s good to stay away from it and other doomscrolling types of apps. I try to watch stuff that’s innocent and makes me happy! AKA get off bad/inappropriate content(● ˃̶͈̀ロ˂̶͈́)੭ꠥ⁾⁾

•Get rid of toxic people!!!

you and I have heard it a million times, but it really is important. I am yet to do this, because I’m scared of hurting their feelings. In all reality though, you are more important in this situation, so avoid that toxic person!!

•Fake it till you make it!!

Fake being nice. :-| it sounds bad, but you’ll eventually just become nice. This means no more making fun of people, learn manners, help out, smile at strangers, before you know it, it’ll all natural to you!

[being-addie]

Do you know how to fake a smile?

If you don't, learn.

The biggest lesson I've had in 2023 was to learn how to pretend everything was perfect with me when it wasn't. I had to go to class with two girls who had completely isolated me and then hurt me. I had to sit next to them and work and pretend as though I didn't care, when really, I was burning up with anger.

Learning how to present a calm and happy front is incredibly important. People don't like to see your messy feelings. That's for your mom and your best friend to see. The moment you show an ounce of weakness, especially to someone who has it out for you, they pounce on it and use it to their advantage. You'll be labeled hysterical, emotional, too sensitive because you can't take a joke Rachel made about you to everyone in class including your crush.

There are places where you cannot give any cutting replies to the people who bully or hurt you, like your workplace. You have to smile, and sit down, or plot revenge where nobody can blame you (my favourite tactic).

But in situations where if you try to show how you were hurt and it's only going to backfire for you, learn to make peace with the fact that all you can do is make the situation better for yourself.

So,

Big smile. Keep the peace. Take your revenge in silence.

[tangledlines-shadowedminds]

So I'm kind of sick and part of being means I have to drink a lot of water, which I suck at doing. Usually to get around that, I have a water bottle with a straw, but I have misplaced that water bottle so for now I have a fancy little cup that I've been drinking my water out of. I fill it with the water from my normal water bottle(cuz need the filtered stuff & when I add my extra mixes its easier to use). It has been working so well that I've had like three water bottles worth of water so far today, which is a lot for me.