#demiaroace

[matcha-milo]

I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.

[rosewashereyt]

I know it's like- a day early. But Happy Pride!!

Ramble about my recent discovery under cut if ur interested lol

Discovered I'm not just aroace, but demiaroace as well as panromantic (confused it with pansexual before)

Just recently, I realized that, while I'm not the biggest romantic or affectionate person irl, I feel like if I had a close enough bond with someone, I'd be willing to be more open with them, but it would just take a lot more time with someone like me. I'm a comfort and trust kind of person as well as very nervous and awkward, lol.

Love that it's a spectrum cause it makes things so much easier, lol. I feel like if I were to have a partner, my feelings would be just out of platonic, and I'd be a more openly affectionate (but still within comfort zones ofc).

I've also already known that gender does not matter to me. I care more for how the person acts/behaves (in terms of respect and decency). I'm just more of an emotionally affectionate person than anything else. Or even a gift giver.

But, as of now, I still have no interest in finding a partner. This is more of an "if I were to" kind of thing. I'd much rather try and take care of myself first before I'd even begin to think of that kind of stuff.

And, of course, I've known for a while I'm genderfluid. Despite leaning more on the masc side of things lately, I'm still very comfortable with either she/her, he/him, and they/them pronouns. I don't often have a specific preference (maybe on occasion) but I'm more of a "whatever you see me as/want to call me" kind of person because you'd be right either way lmao.

Anyway- not a big change to my identity, but it's more comfortable nonetheless and makes me feel better about how I identify myself ^^

[inkcomposer]

⿻ Cat Pride Pixels Pt4 ⿻

[ Demiaroace + Deimromantic + Demisexual flags ]

♯ F2U with or without credits! Reblogs and likes appreciated

↳ Gift for @catpawsstuff ⨾ no reposts ×

[sincerecinnamon]

Someone on reddit described the difference between romantic and platonic love using chemistry terms and the periodic table, and not only do I love the analogy as a science nerd, but it's one of the first times that an explanation on the topic has fully made sense to me, so I figured I would share it with all of you ^^

[it-couldbe-worse]

Appreciation post for this lineup of flags that is fuckin rad and now lives rent free in my head

[transonlyspace]

[sleep-deprived-mf]

made a bunch of pride boykisser memes :3

dies

[aspec-helpless-romantic]

I wish there was a dating app/site that focused on people on the aroace spectrum.

Like, not a full-on dating app.

Just somewhere where it'd be normal for me to come on and say "Hey, I'm demi-aroace, so I don't like you like that right away, but I'd love to meet new friends, and have a chance to develop deeper feelings while the other side is aware that it's a possibility and something I'm looking for!"

Somewhere for other aspec people to come to look for platonic/queer-platonic life partners.

Somewhere where it wouldn't be weird to look for purely platonic relationships with sex and relationships that are romantic but without the sexual aspect.

Somewhere where being open about being queer (with a focus on the aroace spectrum), being disabled, or any other thing that isn't "normal" and accepted in the typical dating pool, y'know?

Maybe we should all go back to making and being active in forums so it wouldn't be tied to someone having to work for hours to create a functional and marketable app :/

[eatingramyeon]

ok so i got it aroace people love to eat garlic bread, but what do y'all like to drink ? i'm curious

for me I prefer iced coffee or iced matcha latte. anyone else ?

[smiscee]

Yall ive been mislabeling me and Wilted Ivory Cuphead, we're actually demiaroace 😭

I literally discovered this term while doing MATH of all things

Have some art about it because I have never been this euphoric about a label

[boygirlfemme]

꒰ ೀ‧₊˚ emobian ೀ emocian !!

emobian •｡ꪆৎ ˚⋅ when one is exclusively attracted to people who are not men, but can feel attracted to men they have formed a very deep emotional bond with. / demiromantic specifically towards men.

emocian •｡ꪆৎ ˚⋅ when one is exclusively attracted to people who are not women, but can feel attracted to women they have formed a very deep emotional bond with. / demiromantic specifically towarss women.

emobian was coined 4/21/24, emocian was coined 4/23/24 both by me on my twitter morutefawnn

[meltedwaxwingsneverfly]

Aros of Tumblr, I need quotes from you!!

Currently, my partner and I are working together to write about aromanticism, and we would like to include some of y'alls experiences with that. Your stories are important to us and to the process of spreading awareness of aromanticism.

With this book, we plan to focus less on scientific studies and moreso the personal. I am not a scientist nor will I ever try to be.

We want to focus mainly on what it's like being aro in an allo world, and so I encourage all types of aros to participate, regardless of your experiences. We won't be able to include everyone, but I'm hoping to quote a variety of you all.

I especially encourage non-aces to participate. I understand the struggle that comes with having our identity co-opted with asexuality while still being misunderstood.

Recently, I came to the decision to identify with the non-SAM aro label for this reason. We deserve to have the focus on us.

Now, that doesn't mean that I will turn away anyone who identifies as ace for this. That's not the point. I just wish to encourage people who may feel anxious about this book being focused on asexuality to feel confident in the possibility of having their aromanticism be the focus.

If you wish to participate, the form is linked below.

LINK

(Note: By filling out this survey, you are consenting to the possible use of your words and experiences in our writing. If you ever wish to rescind your answers, please DM me. We will not be using your quotes without contacting you first, with an excerpt of how it has been used. Thanks!)

I hope you are willing to share your experiences with us!

[willowshimmer]

I'm confused on how there are homophobes on Tumblr when it's the gayest website on Earth.

[lenabeas1904]

I love the aro and ace communities here so much. They’re so validating and helpful.

But as someone who recently discovered they’re not actually aroace but demi-aroace, I wish there was more of a demi community here too.

I’m really struggling to figure out how to be romantic and sexual in the sense that I’ve never experienced any of this attraction before and I don’t know what to do with it. I don’t know what I like or am comfortable with and I don’t know where my boundaries are when it comes to sexuality and romantics.

Luckily my boyfriend is super supportive and willing to work with me as we discover what I like and what works for both of us, but I do wish there were people outside of him that I could talk to or relate to.

I feel like a fish out of water and I’m also simultaneously drowning. I feel like a lovesick middle schooler who knows nothing about what it means to be in love but I’m actually in my 20s and should know these things about myself by now (at least by an allos standards).

And I can’t exactly turn to the allos for explanation or help because they don’t understand what it feels like to not know yourself because they’ve had all this time to explore and come into their own.

I need other demis to talk to.

[dropletsofraine]

I’m on the aroace cole agenda now sorry not sorry

[asteriskdisasterisk]

Pokemon Mystery Dungeon Explorers of Feelings

...do you think they've explored each others bodiesjhbkgh--*walks into electrical fence*