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What you call self-sabotage might just be your body saying: "Familiar pain feels safer than unfamiliar peace"
What you call procrastination might just be your body saying: "I'm overwhelmed and everything feels too much"
What you call anxiety might just be your body saying: "I've been in danger before, and I don't know if it's over yet"
What you call neediness might just be your body saying: "I didn't get what I needed, and I'm still longing"
What you call overreacting might just be your body saying: "This feels like danger to me because it once was"
What you call emotional instability might just be your body saying: "I was never taught that feeling emotions could be safe"
What you call resistance might just be your body saying: "I don't feel safe enough to do what you want me to"
What you call laziness might just be your body saying: "I'm frozen because I had to work hard for too long"*
What you call numbness might just be your body saying: "I had to shut down to keep you safe"
What you call avoidance might just be your body saying: "Im not ready to face this yet. I need slower exposure to it"
(the.trauma.educator on ig)
*gentle reminder that body gets tired also after doing mentally draining work/job (which includes feeling stressed too, not just studying or working 9-5 in front of a computer -which holds responsabilities, anyway)
#words#healing#important#positivity#self healing#thoughts#self love#positive thinking#healingjourney#self care#self support#emotions#triggers#trauma#self help#self embrace#recovery#reminders
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headcanon that Telemachus, post-Ithaca, once jokingly called Odysseus ‘captain’.
after seeing the look in his father’s eyes, he never did it again.
#tw emotional damage#epic#epic fandom#odyssey#epic the musical#epicthemusical#odysseus#epic musical#epic the musical ithaca saga#telemachus#telemachus of ithaca#epic odysseus#trauma! Fun#whatchu gonna do about it champ
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adaine punching her dad to death "guess what bitch I'm strong now" adaine punching her dad to death "you never have to be afraid of being weak again" adaine punching her dad to death "your father hurt you and he hurt your sister and no matter what anybody fucking thinks about it guess what he never gets to hurt anybody ever again" adaine punching her dad to death ADAINE PUNCHING HER DAD TO DEATH
#adaine abernant#or more correctly#adaine o'shaughnessey#aelwyn abernant#this fucking actual play is actually playing with my emotions#my two favourite dimension 20 pcs of all time both killed their dads#that's so cool and fun and doesn't say anything about me or my relationship with my father#guess what bitch I'm strong now#the abernant sisters make me cry in a way that shouldn't be allowed#processing my trauma one d&d actual play at a time#fantasy high#dimension 20#d20#fantasy high sophomore year#fantasy high sophomore year spoilers#fhsy#fhsy spoilers#screaming crying throwing up rn#I've watched this so many times but it hits different post realisation that my family are fucked up
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Jason knew damian from the league BEFORE he knew he was his little brother and it is… so much worse
Okay so. listen.read.
jason todd. 17. freshly lazarus-pitted. feral. the human embodiment of “i lived bitch” with rage issues and a 72-hour insomnia streak. the league takes one look at this hot mess of trauma and goes “yes. this is exactly the energy we need in our murder boy band.”
enter: tiny baby assassin gremlin™ damian wayne. 6 years old. fluent in six languages, can kill you with a butter knife, has already named his sword and buried a man for disrespecting alfred the goat.
and someone. SOMEONE. in the league decides, “you know what would be funny? pair the murder toddler with the zombie disaster and see what happens.”
Heres how that went
ra’s: jason, your assignment is to supervise damian.
jason: you want me to babysit.
ra’s: guide.
jason: babysit.
ra’s: test.
damian (deadpan): i don’t need a babysitter. i need a better sparring partner. the last one cried.
jason: okay i like this kid.
they do missions together. which is to say, they cause crimes while technically completing the mission. jason teaches damian how to actually knock people out without breaking his own fingers. damian shows jason how to poison a blade using pomegranate juice and pure spite.
they bond over shared trauma and mutual hatred of everyone else. jason steals food for damian. damian teaches jason new ways to dismember people. it’s beautiful.
damian (6, holding a flaming knife): i’m going to defenestrate that man.
jason (17, holding a mango): hold on i’m eating.
damian: that’s MY mango.
jason: finders keepers.
[30 seconds later jason is bleeding and laughing]
but then jason leaves the league. rage. escape. redemption arc pending. damian stays.
and they don’t see each other for years.
until jason storms into the batcave like:
jason: not here to bond. just stealing med supplies. don’t talk to me or my trauma.
damian (offscreen): you dare show your face here, todd.
jason (freezes): oh my god. oh my god. i KNOW that voice. i KNOW that gremlin growl. there’s no fucking WAY
bruce (tired): jason, meet your little brother. damian.
jason (SCREAMING INTERNALLY): THAT’S MY EX-TINY MURDER ROOMMATE?!
damian (smirking): i see the pit didn’t fix your face.
tim (whispers): what is happening.
from that day forward: chaos.
damian starts following jason around like a very stabby duckling. calls him “akhi” in the most possessive tone known to man. sharpens jason’s knives without being asked. threatens the replacement on his behalf.
jason pretends to be annoyed but teaches damian how to make homemade explosives and saves him the last slice of pizza.
jason (grumbling): you’re still a brat.
damian: and you’re still emotionally unavailable.
jason (softly): shut up.
one day jason finds a drawing on his fridge.
it’s two stick figures. one has a red helmet. the other has a sword. they’re both labeled “BROTHERS – THREAT LEVEL: MAXIMUM.”
jason doesn’t talk about it. but he frames it.
bonus: group chat
dick: wait. you guys KNEW each other before this family?
jason: yeah. i babysat him once. worst two years of my life.
damian: i tried to stab him over a mango. it was glorious.
tim: that’s the most terrifying sentence i’ve ever read.
cass: ❤
bruce was like “you’re brothers now” and they were like “we BEEN brothers?? get on our level B/father”
#they were roommates#and they had knives#and now they have matching trauma#siblings who stab together stay together#they are each others emotional support war crime#batfam headcanons#siblings but make it knives#jason todd#damian wayne#league of assassins#the pit did not cool him down#feral children united#trauma bonding is real.
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DEAD BOY DETECTIVES | THE CASE OF THE VERY LONG STAIRWAY
Sorry. No version of this where I didn't come get you, is there?
#dead boy detectives#dbdedit#chewieblog#cinemapix#dailyflicks#dailynetflix#dixonscarol#flimtvcentral#televisiongifs#tuserlyn#tvedit#useraimz#userbarrow#userbbelcher#userdiana#userelio#usermaguire#userstream#usersugar#*edits#dead boy detectives spoilers#why didn’t dean winchester say this to cas#while rescuing him from the empty??#i have so much emotional trauma from supernatural 😭😭😭
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ppl are too quick to point to laios' disability as the reason his friends think he's a freak sometimes. so many instances of laios getting yelled at are, in my eyes, a case of "this guy had to emotionally mature very early in order to be there for his little sister" combined with "much older friends who never had to learn to manage their own emotions to the same degree"
a lot of the time he's right about needing to be more direct/deal with things in a way that may seem scary/needing to put your gut reaction aside. he tries not to make his friends uncomfortable and he puts up with a lot because he's trying to keep the peace, but he also pushes the others out of their comfort zones purposefully to try to get them to think more constructively. everyone else in the party is prone to acting on their gut instincts and avoiding uncomfortable situations even when facing them head-on is very much necessary. part of what makes laios such a great leader is the fact that he knows from experience how to put his own feelings aside to help someone else grow.
yes, he does make a lot of social blunders by accident and he does struggle to connect with others, but not all of his positive influence on others is accidental or "despite" making people uncomfortable. a lot of the time, I think it's clear he knows exactly what he's doing and he's trying to help the people around him process emotions in a healthy way as they all go through some truly harrowing shit. all the main characters support each other as well as they can with their unique emotional skillsets. laios' skillset just happens to be "gently talk child into eating her vegetables"
#deerchatter#dungeon meshi#laios touden#of course this IS also connected to his disability. bc having an iron grip on your own emotional reaction is often needed to survive#in an ableist society. and he wouldn't have had to parent falin so much if the two of them hadn't been ostracized growing up#but the point of the post is that laios is a lot more emotionally intelligent than his party (or many fans) realizes#he's not just stumbling ass-first into being helpful he is clearly applying a skillset that is direly lacking in his friends#marcille and chilchuck in particular haaaaate uncomfy situations and are under the impression that if smth Feels bad then it Is bad.#and senshi avoids so many situations and feelings because of his trauma that he's been unable to grow past it on his own#this post was particularly inspired by the griffin meat scene. everyone else suggests senshi just avoid his trauma forever#and they're absolutely shocked when laios suggests senshi try to grow and overcome his pain bc. That Sounds Scary. lol#so many of the story's themes revolve around overcoming your own impulses and biases#and laios is uniquely suited to leading that change.#r.i.p. laios/toshiro friendship you guys have so much more in common than you realize
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; Coming Full Circle



Part 1: here , Part 2: here , Part 3: here , Part 4: You’re here!
CW: Reader is pregnant BUT is gender neutral only being referred to as you, if you don't have the ability to get pregnant you do now (in this series). Neglected reader x (platonic.) bat family, Reader x Conner “Kon-El” Kent (romantic.). Reader is probably around in your 20s (21 - 25) and is the 5th(??) oldest
TW: Heavy Angst, a lot of crying, abuse in the form of neglect, pregnancy, Reader briefly expresses regret for existing
Theres a beat of silence after your husband came crashing through the window, minus the sound of your own sobs, you’re too overwhelmed to focus on the crash after all you just found out the people who neglected you, apparently they had done it all to protect you. Even when it wasn’t something you asked to be protected from. You missed out on so many things normal families did and now all it did was leave you scarred, untrusting with deep attachment issues and currently sobbing on the floor surrounded by glass that your husband shattered to get to you.
“CONNER?” Yells Tim in pure shock, which finally makes you finally look up and towards the crash. There, Conner Kent, your husband stood. He was clearly in shock, his soulmate who was pregnant with his child is kneeling on the floor, eyes a soft red and face all puffy as tears slip down. Meanwhile his best friend’s family is staring at said soulmate on the floor awkwardly.
When you see him you honestly cry harder, finally you’re not alone surrounded by people who supposedly loved you but someone who did truly care, and wouldn’t go fucking up your life, at least not without asking first.
“Please take me home Conner…” you sob choking on your own words as you stare at him desperately. Hearing you speak snaps him out of his shock, perhaps on autopilot he picks you up, making sure you are shielded away from your family. ���Sorry dude, I’ll… text later. Maybe.” He says solemnly speaking to Tim but he still only looks at you. Tim goes to say something but before he can Conner is gone instantly, leaving behind one stunned bat family.
Conner flies through the sky still holding a sobbing you as he gently whispers “hey.. hey, it’s okay I’ve got you now. You’re safe.” in an attempt to soothe you and himself as well.
He knew you were like him, had family issues and weren’t loved quite right. Perhaps that’s how you guys bonded so fast, shared trauma is a powerful bonding agent. But he never knew who exactly they were, he knew you didn’t want to talk about it and he respected that. When he met you, you had your mother’s last name before taking his, so he never even had the slightest idea Bruce Wayne was your father. Also didn’t help Tim never once mentioned your name, unlike the other siblings he’d call by name, Tim referred to you only as “My other sibling.” on the rare occasions he did allude to you existing.
If he could get a headache right now he would, unfortunately(?) due to Kryptonian things he can’t. As he’s flying he thinks briefly before landing at your shared home ‘Damn what the hell is going on.’
You don’t remember what happened the rest of the night when you got home, you only remember continuously sobbing and a worried Conner trying his best to soothe you all for it to fail. It was so bad when Conner put you down on the couch to get you some water, when you tried to stand you just fell to your knees only able to lean on the couch as support, holding onto it like it’ll somehow save you. Perhaps all the suppressed emotions came flooding, a life time of being strong to have it crumble.
the years of watching your supposed siblings hanging out but it almost disbanding when you tried to join,
the months of drawings about your supposed father holding your small hand left unlooked,
the weeks of wondering if maybe you prayed hard enough someone would hug you
and the days of wondering if you would’ve been better off at the orphanage, or better yet never been born at all.
Now suddenly they did it for your sake? All the missed moments? You want to laugh and scream. The irony of thinking it’s better to neglected a child than to tell said child the truth. You feel Conner put a reassuring hand on your back gently rubbing when he hands you the glass of water, you push it away. You just need to cry, not water. He seems to understand putting it to the side on the hard wood floor and instead choosing to be a comforting presence while you cry.
You cry and sob for hours, unable to stop. Even when it slows down enough for Conner to finally get you to drink some water, urge you to change into your pjs because it was close to dawn now and you hadn’t slept a bit, you can still feel the tears rolling down. You think you must’ve passed out from crying because the last thing you remember seeing was Conner’s worried face like he would’ve cried too and now you’re looking at the sunrise peak through the blinds.
You sit up and sit on the edge of the bed looking down you feel dull and empty, like the entire world suddenly decided to drain itself of all joy and leave you with nothing. As you get up you pass the shared floor length mirror, when you look at yourself, all you can think of is how you look like a husk of a person. To be expected, you did go through something emotionally taxing and you did cry a lot so it makes sense your eyes look empty.
You can smell burnt pancakes. It seems Conner is trying to bake again…
As you enter the kitchen you can see the pile of burnt pancakes on a plate he prepared. Conner gives you an awkward smile as he looks at you and the pancakes, “In hindsight it’s a lot different to use heat vision than the stove.” You pause staring at him and then at the pancakes again, he looks nervous before he clarifies “they’re still edible I promise…”
A smile spreads across your face before you begin to laugh. And laugh. And laugh. Somehow you laugh so hard it morphs into crying again when you threw your head back in a fit of laughter. Conner’s relieved face at you laughing turns to worry again as he floats over quickly to have you in his arms.
You cry your eyes out into Conner’s shirt as he holds you tight against him. “Hey, it’s okay, we are going to be okay.” Conner says gently rubbing your back supportively.
“I just can’t believe for such a stupid reason they shut me out!” You weep into your hands, the tears almost collecting in your palms as you finally start speaking. “But at the same time I.. I sort of get it? and it’s frustrating because… I don’t know! Cause it feels like now I don’t have the right to complain or just be upset anymore!” You shout frustrated by everything and all the emotions you’re feeling merging together to create one big storm. “Perhaps it’s somehow my fault—“ you mumble softly before you’re cut off by Conner.
Conner grabs you face and makes you look at him before you can finish, his face solemn as he speaks “You have every right to complain, even if they had good fucking intentions it still hurt. And that sucks.” His face scrunches a bit from sadness at frustration. “Don’t say stuff like it’s your fault. It’s not and I won’t let them demean the one good thing I have in my life.” He gently taps the side of your face before sadly smiling at you and your teary eyed face.
You chuckle softly. You want to cry more but you don’t feel like crying when you remember that Conner loves you and even if you don’t have a father or siblings like you wanted, you still have your adoring, handsome, funny, charismatic husband and an adorable child-to-be-born that’ll have your amazing looks and his personality. It may not have been the family you always wanted as a kid but it’s what you want and need now, and that’s all that matters.
“Hey, Let’s spend today in bed and order food the entire day.” You say smiling at him your face still feels a bit weird after all that crying.
“Sounds good… but are we not going to eat my pancakes?” He teases
“I love you, but not enough that I’d eat actual ash for you.”
“Oh wow so you don’t love me anymore?” Conner replies clutching his chest dramatically before taking a step back to lean himself the table like he’s dying. To which you roll your eyes.
“Okay that’s NOT what I said. Anyways I’m going to rest in bed, come join after you finished ordering breakfast and being dramatic.” You remarked before you walk away and into the bedroom to wait for him, you knew he wouldn’t be long.
Meanwhile the entire bat fam is FREAKING. Damian is arguing with both Tim and Grayson to which Barbara has to try and break it up, Bruce is sat on the couch (not having moved since last night) covering his face as he tries to ponder where it all went wrong, Stephanie is pacing around anxiously, Alfred is trying to repair the window which was supposedly shatterproof but unfortunately ‘shatterproof’ isn’t a concept that exists for the supers, Jason is shrugging and saying “I told you this would happen.” (He didn’t.) and everyone else is scattered about some watching the argument, trying to brainstorm to a silent brooding Bruce or trying to help fix the window.
Eventually they would all have to begin brainstorming on what to do next, how to repair it all and get you to forgive them. Right now is time for panic.
#🩷 ~ long fics || oddlylovingaddiction#tw emotional neglect#tw trauma#reader is gn despite being pregnant#x reader#gender neutral reader#reader insert#gn reader#x you#x y/n#batfam x reader#dc x y/n#conner kent x gn reader#conner kent x you#conner kent x reader#batfam x neglected reader
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#spiritual awakening#spiritual awareness#wisdom#good advice#emotional trauma#trauma#ancestors#emotional healing
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Yo I love hating Filbrick as much as the next guy, but you know what would bring a lot of angst?
If, after Stan leaves, Ford notices his father can't look at him anymore. Lets him do whatever he wants for the remainder of the year. Drives him around whenever he needs, is attentive to Shermie. Is silent – more than usual.
And Ford is still fuming over Stan's betrayal. Over all the missed oportunities. Over everything. He thinks that's what his father feels too. That now that Stan is away their father doesn’t have reasons to be angry anymore.
10 years pass and Stan takes Ford's place. He attends his own mock funeral where only Caryn shows up. He'd expected it, so it's fine. What he hadn’t expected is the reason. Filbrick doesn’t think he deserves to be there for his son's departure, not after what he did. So he takes Shermie somewhere nice instead while Caryn deals with the funeral.
And for the next 15 years Stan receives weekly phone calls from his Ma, and monthly ones from his Pa. Once, quietly, Pa comments about how 'Ford's' voice sounds like Stanley's. That it's funny how Stan already had a deep voice back then, and that he's glad Ford finally got it. It's like talking to the two of them at the same time. Stan cries like a baby before going to sleep.
Once, when he visits, he gives 'Ford' his fez. And then, a few years later, gives him his suit.
"You could use it for weddings," he'd said. "Or for your business. A good suit makes a good vendor."
He unwrinkled the suit once again, and said in the nonchalant voice that was the equivalent of crying for the Pines men before him, "I always thought this one would be Stanley's. He'd always been more of a salesman than you. But you turned out a fine one too."
Stan uses it every single day.
Filbrick dies suddently. With no farewells or secret letters or wills. But Caryn brings him a box with all the drawings from Stan and Ford's childhood. Even the Lil' Stanley comics.
Filbrick was a man shaped by his time, who did many wrongs and didn’t right them. His best was not enough; he was a bad man and his death only left Stan's chest hollow. But he'd loved his wife and his children, and he died a father and husband.
#i love complexing simple characters#specially if they make the emotions surrounding them even more complicated for my favorites#a simple villain? yeah you get trauma. its cool#but a complex man whose best was simply not enough? NOW we talkin. that's a walking tragedy#gravity falls#filbrick pines#stan pines#ford pines#stanley pines#stanford pines#caryn pines#caryn romanoff pines#shermie pines
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By 11 shit was already fucked up
So I would be still 5 I guess
#sadnees#tw depressing thoughts#depressing shit#i'm sad#tw depressing stuff#depressing life#childhood trauma#quotes#poetic#childhood#childhood ptsd#childhood truama#inner child#child abuse#tw abuse#emotional abuse#generational truama#truamacore#wound tw#tw ptsd#ptsd vent#complex ptsd#toxic parents#i am in pain#this is a cry for help#abandoned#kill my life#daddy issues#is it too much to ask#just why
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🖤 Sylus – Five Years Later
The first in a series of stories exploring MC’s return after five years of silence. Others are coming soon — links will be added as they’re published.
Original ask that sparked this continuation.
CW/TW: emotional whiplash, estranged parent dynamics, mentions of past abandonment, grief & regret, yelling / intense arguments, emotional manipulation (mild-to-moderate), parental guilt, references to alcoholism (brief), weapon mention (non-violent context, antique firearm), implied past trauma While inspired by the original characters and lore of the game, this is a personal interpretation. Some aspects of character behavior, relationships, or world-building may differ from canon — especially given the five-year time gap and the impact of traumatic events. Consider it an alternate emotional timeline, shaped by growth, grief, and what-ifs.
Rafayel | Caleb | Zayne | Xavier (coming soon)
(He never lets go. Not really. So when the world bends just enough for their paths to cross again—he grabs the thread like a man who’s been drowning for five goddamn years.)
The scent shouldn’t have hit him like that.
Bergamot and peach — too specific to be coincidence, too cruel to be real. It lanced through the mall’s artificial air, slicing straight into the part of him that had learned to rot in silence.
He stopped mid-step, black gift bag swinging at his side like dead weight. He hadn’t meant to be here. Just killing time before a meeting, maybe grabbing some pointless toy for Kieran’s son.
But that scent.
He followed it — not fast, not frantic. Just... pulled. Like gravity had shifted without asking his permission.
He rounded a corner. Walked past the blinding colors of a candy kiosk. Ignored the buzzing arcades. Stepped into the glow of the children’s department, bathed in too much light.
And then he saw him.
White hair, soft and unbrushed. Crimson eyes.
Staring down at a plastic capsule, tiny fingers struggling to pry it open, cheeks puffed in sheer, adorable defiance. The boy looked up and grinned at someone just out of view.
And then—there you were.
Crouched beside him, arms around your knees. That necklace still at your throat. Your hair longer. Your posture calmer. But it was you.
He didn’t move. Didn’t breathe.
You looked up. Met his eyes.
The world didn’t fall apart. It just... recoiled.
Your lips parted. He couldn’t tell if it was shock or guilt. Maybe both.
He took a step forward. Controlled. Precise. Like walking through fire and pretending it didn’t burn.
“Well,” he said, voice rough, cool, razor-sharp. “Isn’t this adorable.”
You didn’t answer.
He tilted his head, gaze dragging from the boy to you.
“You got taller,” he added, tone almost conversational. “I always said you needed better posture.”
Still, silence.
He smiled — the wrong kind of smile.
“And here I thought you were dead. Would’ve sent flowers. Or a bottle of wine. Maybe danced on your grave. Depends on the day.”
You stood slowly, one hand resting lightly against the child’s back. Protective. Subtle.
“I wasn’t hiding from you,” you said.
“No?” he murmured. “Just... the rest of reality?”
You didn’t answer that.
His eyes dropped again. To the boy. Then back up. He didn’t ask. Not out loud. Didn’t have to.
Your expression answered for you.
He exhaled once, slow, through his nose. Then laughed. Just a little.
“Of course,” he muttered. “Why not. Five years of silence, and now I get the full soap opera.”
He took another step, voice dipping low.
“Tell me something,” he said. “Was it worth it? The running? The silence? Did it help you sleep?”
You stared at him, steady.
“I did what I had to do.”
“Sure,” he said, nodding, the sarcasm now soft, silky. “And now you’re back in broad daylight, in my city, with my blood standing in front of capsule machines. Very covert.”
His fingers twitched slightly at his side. Not from rage — from restraint.
The boy turned.
“Mom?”
Your breath hitched.
“Come here, sweetheart.”
Small feet padded over. A tiny hand found yours without hesitation. Sylus watched it like a punch to the ribs.
The boy blinked up at him.
“Who’s that?” he asked.
Your voice was quiet. Even.
“Someone I used to know.”
Something in Sylus’s jaw clicked. He crouched down, not too close. Not yet.
“Hey,” he said.
“Hi,” the boy replied.
“What’d you get?”
A capsule was held up proudly. “Tiny raven with red eyes!”
Of course. Sylus stared at it, almost amused.
“Good taste,” he said. “I used to have one just like that.”
The boy beamed.
Sylus rose to his full height again, gaze flicking to you — sharp now, cooled over, dangerous.
“This conversation’s not over.”
Your grip on the boy tightened, imperceptibly.
“I know.”
He didn’t linger. Just turned. Walked away like it cost him nothing.
But you saw it — the slight tremble in his fingers. And for the first time in five years — you knew: he wouldn't sleep tonight. And neither would you.
***
He doesn’t sleep. Not because of nightmares — those he’s made peace with years ago — but because of you. Because you were real again. Present. Breathing the same air. And now the silence he once ruled feels like a cage made of your absence.
He paces his study like an animal too big for its den, the whiskey glass untouched on the desk, sweating against the dark wood. The documents in front of him blur, ignored. His body is wired, restless, his mind clawing at thoughts it doesn’t know what to do with. He used to find solace in this room. Now it’s just another echo chamber.
You came back. Just like that. No warning. No apologies. As if you hadn’t torn him apart and scattered the pieces across five fucking years. And you didn’t come alone. You brought his son.
His son.
The words twist inside him like a blade. Rage flares hot and sharp — not just at you, but at himself. At the way he still aches for you. At the way his hands trembled the moment your eyes met his. You don’t get to come back like this. Not after he worshipped you. Not after he handed over every part of himself — the power, the silence, the vulnerability — and let you keep it like it was nothing.
You, who once ruled him with a smile and a whisper. You, who made the most dangerous man in the city gentle. You, who he let in so deeply that even now, after everything, his instincts still tilt toward you.
He should hate you. He wants to.
But all he can think about is the boy’s eyes — his eyes — and the fact that he didn’t know. You hid it from him. You stole that from him. And yet, the second he saw your face, all he wanted was to feel the warmth of your body again.
No. This can’t be impulsive. He tells himself that. Over and over. He has to be careful now. Strategic. This isn’t just about you anymore. There’s too much at stake. A child. Blood of his blood. If he moves wrong, if he rushes this, he could lose everything before he’s even had the chance to hold it.
You came back so openly, so carelessly — as if you knew. As if you were daring him to act.
But this isn’t a reunion. It’s a chess game. And he intends to win.
Still, all the logic in the world can’t stop the pull. His body moves before his mind can catch it. He throws on his jacket, crosses the hall in long, deliberate strides. He ignores the way his pulse hammers, the way his breath shortens. He tells himself this is reconnaissance. Observation. That he won’t knock on your door, won’t say your name, won’t touch you.
But he’s already walking to the car, and he knows — he’s lying.
Because it’s already too late. You’re a gravity he never escaped. And he’s hurtling back toward you like a star on its last, burning descent.
***
You hadn’t heard the door. You were sure you’d locked it — triple-checked, in fact. But when you stepped barefoot into the living room, the shadows shifted. And he was there.
Sylus.
Sitting in the armchair by the window, so still he might’ve been carved from shadow. His face half-hidden in darkness, but his eyes — those eyes — watched you with the slow, dangerous heat of banked coals. As if he were waiting for something. As if he’d already decided what it was.
You clutched your son’s sweatshirt to your chest, still warm from sleep, still soft with safety. Your fingers curled into the fabric like it might shield you from the inevitable.
Your throat closed around a breath you forgot to take.
“I should’ve known you’d find a way in,” you said. Not angry. Not even surprised. Just… tired. But not the kind of tired sleep could fix.
The silence stretched. And then—
“Why.” His voice was low. Steady. But there was nothing calm about it.
“Why come back?”
You hesitated. Sat down at the edge of the couch, careful to keep distance between you. Close enough to feel the tension, far enough to pretend it couldn’t touch you. Your grip tightened on the tiny sleeve in your lap.
“I didn’t have a choice,” you said quietly.
A lie. And you both knew it.
He didn’t move. Didn’t speak. Just watched.
The air between you hung thick with everything unspoken — all the years, all the damage, all the silence that had grown teeth.
You tried again, voice thinner now. “Money was running out. And I didn’t want him to grow up in places that... don’t let kids be kids.”
Still no answer.
You looked down, as if the floor could save you.
“But that’s not really why I came back.”
There was a shift in the dark — barely perceptible, but enough. A muscle in his jaw, maybe. Or the faintest tilt of his head.
“I kept dreaming,” you said. “That he’d start asking questions. About who he is. Where he came from. Why he can hear footsteps down the hall before they happen. Why his teachers can’t meet his eyes. Why he knows when I’m lying, even when I don’t.”
You paused. Swallowed.
“I didn’t know what I’d say.”
For a long, breathless moment, there was nothing. And then:
“Thought maybe I was dead?”
You laughed — bitter, small, nothing like real humor.
“No. That would’ve been easier.”
He still didn’t move, but something in the room recoiled anyway. Maybe it was you.
You turned toward him, carefully, like stepping toward a storm you once loved.
“I thought if I stayed gone long enough, you’d forget. Or hate me enough not to care.”
He leaned forward slowly, like something waking up. The light from the hallway carved across his face, catching the sharp edge of his cheekbone, the faint scar at his jaw. He looked older. Not in his body — in his bones. In the way ruin settles behind the eyes and builds a kingdom there.
“Do I look like a man who forgets?” he said.
God, the way he said it. Like the last bell before a burial.
You didn’t answer.
“You ran,” he said. “Took my son. Hid him from me. For five years.”
“I had to,” you said, a little too fast. “You know I had to.”
“Say it.”
You met his eyes, barely.
“I didn’t want to raise him in your world.”
There was a pause. Then:
“He is my world.”
That broke something in you. The sweatshirt slipped from your lap, forgotten.
“I know,” you whispered. “I know.”
You stood before you meant to, took two small steps forward before you could stop yourself. A mistake. A betrayal of your own walls. Still, your hand lifted — hesitated — and reached out. Just barely. Fingertips grazing the side of his.
He didn’t flinch. But he didn’t hold you back either.
Not yet.
His breath caught, brushing your wrist like memory.
“I could’ve loved you softer,” he said. “But you were never meant for soft things.”
Your eyes burned. You couldn’t speak for a moment. And when you did, your voice was almost gone.
“Maybe I’m not. But he is.”
And still, beneath all of it — the guilt, the weariness, the regret that howled behind your ribs — you waited for the part that scared you most. The part where he would turn cold. Where he would say the thing you feared since the moment you left.
The part where he would take your son from your arms and never look back.
You knew he wouldn’t hurt you. Not you. Not the boy.
And still, that fear clawed at you like a curse.
So you did what fear makes people do — you attacked. With silence, with half-truths, with distance you didn’t want. You kept the mask on as long as you could, clung to it like armor, because if it slipped — if he saw how badly you still wanted to crawl into his arms and sleep like you used to, when he would whisper in that deep, velvet voice and stroke your hair until the nightmares went quiet — he might use it against you.
He might leave.
And you… you had no idea how to survive that again.
***
The night he left, you didn’t sleep.
You just lay beside your son, one hand curled protectively around his small, warm frame, the other pressed to your chest like it might keep your ribs from collapsing inward. Every breath felt like it came with splinters. He slept soundly, unaware. Safe in a world that you had built with trembling hands and stubborn silence.
By morning, Sylus hadn’t returned.
But Luke and Kieran had.
They didn’t knock. Didn’t speak. Just entered with the quiet precision of men who used to be part of your life — before you made them ghosts.
Their arms were full. Boxes, bags, toys, medicine, books. Clothes in every size. Food you hadn’t even realized you needed. And a black card, placed on the kitchen table like a detonator.
“From him,” Luke said, voice clipped, eyes avoiding yours.
You opened your mouth. To say thank you, maybe. Or I’m sorry. Or how have you been.
But Kieran was already turning away.
“Don’t,” he muttered. Not cruel. Not cold. Just done.
And it hit you, like it hadn’t hit you until that moment — not just guilt, not just regret.
You didn’t just run from him.
You ran from them too. The only people who had ever stayed. The only ones who’d held space for you when you were nothing but sharp edges and unfinished grief.
Now they wouldn't even look at you.
You stood there, frozen, surrounded by things you didn’t ask for — abundance you hadn’t earned — while your son laughed on the floor, tangled in a new toy, as if the world wasn’t cracked beneath your feet.
You didn’t cry. You didn’t scream.
But something broke. Quietly. Deeply.
Your pride was already bleeding. Your shame had nowhere left to hide. And still, it wasn’t the card that pushed you over the edge. It wasn’t the gifts or the silence or even the anger simmering in Luke’s shoulders.
It was the absence.
It was the fact that he didn’t come himself.
That he sent others. That he kept his distance — like you were already something to be managed, not faced.
And it shouldn’t have hurt. You’d told yourself a thousand times you didn’t want to see him. That this wasn’t about him. That you didn’t need his money or his empire or the echo of what you used to be.
But the truth — the ugly, humiliating truth — was this: you didn’t want his wealth.
You wanted him.
His voice. His arms. The way he used to pull you close and whisper things that made the dark quiet. The way he used to tuck you in like a secret, like something too rare to risk losing. You wanted him. And you hated yourself for it.
So you moved before you could think. Before the fear, the shame, the rational voice could stop you.
You grabbed your coat. Your keys.
Tara, bless her, had shown up just minutes before, arms full of groceries and soft reassurances, promising to stay the night if you needed to rest. You told her you’d be gone for a few hours. That everything was fine.
You kissed your son’s head — maybe a little too long, maybe a little too tight — and walked out the door without another word.
And then you drove.
Not because you knew what you were going to say.
But because if you didn’t see him now, if you didn’t make him look at you — you might shatter into pieces too small to ever come back together.
***
His estate was still the same.
Too grand. Too silent. Still heavy with ghosts you left behind.
The guards moved aside the moment they saw your face. No hesitation. No questions. Just doors opening like jaws — welcoming you back into the mouth of a beast you once dared to call home.
You didn’t knock.
You didn’t hesitate.
You stormed into the room mid-meeting — a rupture in the polished calm — slicing through tailored suits, cigar smoke, and the tight, brutal quiet of dangerous men interrupted. Every head turned.
Including his.
Sylus sat at the head like a monarch grown colder with time. Glass in hand. Eyes unreadable. And that stillness — the kind that wasn’t calm, just leashed violence.
He saw you. Took you in.
And didn’t blink.
“Out,” he said.
Just one word. Soft. Absolute.
And the bosses of N109 — men who’d burned cities, bled kings, slaughtered empires — obeyed without a sound.
The door clicked shut behind the last of them.
You stood there. Just the two of you now. Five years of silence between your ribs. His name lodged somewhere behind your teeth.
You stepped forward, fists clenched.
“So this is how it’s going to be?” you snapped. “You send your men with toys and blank checks and think that counts? You think that makes you a father?”
He arched a brow. Slowly. And then — God help you — he laughed.
It was low. Mocking. Bone-deep with disbelief.
“You’re angry?” he said, with a cruel sort of wonder. “That’s rich.”
“I’m serious—”
“Oh, I can see that. Look at you,” he gestured to you with his glass, casual, vicious. “Marching in here like I haven’t been erased from his life. Like you didn’t take a scalpel to the past and cut me out clean. And now what — two days after a chance encounter, suddenly I’m not doing enough?”
His smile was the kind that used to make people flinch.
“What exactly were you expecting? Balloons? A welcome-home banner? Me groveling for the right to meet the child you kept hidden like some dirty secret?”
You flushed. Heat crawled up your throat.
“That’s not what I—”
“No?” he cut in, voice quieter now, colder. “Because from where I’m standing, you vanish for five years, show up with a son that wears my face, and get pissed when I don’t instantly fall into step like nothing happened.”
You stared at him, stunned. But he wasn’t done.
“You don’t get to paint me as the absentee,” he said, each word deliberate, venomous. “You built that absence. You enforced it. You chose it.”
You swallowed, but your voice cracked anyway.
“I didn’t have a choice.”
He laughed again, but there was no humor in it. Just razor-sharp ache.
“Oh, come on, kitten. You always had choices. You were the clever one, remember? The strategist. The girl who read people like maps and always knew the way out. So tell me—what part of your master plan involved disappearing with my son and calling it love?”
“I was protecting him.”
“From me?” His voice dropped, dangerously soft. “Because you thought I’d do what, exactly? Teach him how to hold a knife? Make him my little monster?”
You didn’t answer fast enough.
He stepped forward, eyes burning now.
“You don’t get to disappear, reappear, and accuse me of being a bad father in the same breath. You don’t get to bury me in silence and then demand I dance the role you left me.”
And then, softer, darker:
“You think I wanted this? To send strangers to the doorstep of the boy I didn’t even know existed?”
Your mouth opened. Nothing came out.
He stared at you — not with hate, but with something worse. Hurt twisted so deep it no longer bled. It just settled.
“You think I wouldn’t have taught him to live?”
Your lips part. No sound.
“I would’ve taught him how to breathe in a world that eats soft things alive,” he says. “I would’ve taught him how to survive it. How to carry your laugh like a shield. How to fight for it. How to protect it.”
He’s not shouting. But each word cuts deeper than a scream.
“I would’ve laid down my empire for him,” he says. “I would’ve bled for every step he took.”
He pauses — just long enough for the weight of it to hit — and then:
“But you didn’t just take him from me.”
His voice lowers, rough and hollow.
“You took me from him. You took you from us. You didn’t just rewrite the story — you burned the whole fucking book before we even had a chance to open it.”
He steps closer, and you don’t move.
“You didn’t trust me with him. Fine. But you didn’t trust me with you either. And you—” his voice catches, jaw tightening, “you didn’t even give yourself the chance to know what it could’ve been like.”
His eyes are glass now. And every word is a knife he’s too tired to stop from falling.
“You robbed all three of us.”
You try to speak, but the words catch somewhere in your throat. A hard knot of guilt and grief you can’t seem to swallow. You want to say his name. Just his name.
But before you can, his voice changes.
It’s no longer cold. No longer composed.
It’s blistering.
“Do you know what I did the day I realized you were gone?” he says — and now it’s breathless, like the memory itself is suffocating him. “Do you?”
You don’t answer. You can’t.
So he does it for you.
“I drank,” he bites. “I tore the city apart. I hunted ghosts. I played the organ until the walls bled. Until the sound felt like your scream in my skull.”
You sway. He sees it. Doesn’t care.
“I sat in your chair,” he hisses, “and begged it to creak. Just once. Just once, like you were still in it.”
Your knees buckle.
Still, he doesn’t move to catch you.
“I watched videos of you sleeping,” he says, hoarse now. “Kept that ugly little mug you always hated — because your lipstick was still on the rim.”
You cover your mouth with both hands as your breath shatters open.
“I slept in our bed fully clothed,” he whispers, “because I couldn’t let the sheets forget your shape.”
He finally takes one step forward — and then stops. Something in him splinters.
With a growl pulled straight from his chest, he turns and hurls the whiskey glass into the fireplace.
It explodes in flame and glass, the sound like a gunshot, like a scream. Fire licks up the wall as the liquor catches, dancing high and fast.
You flinch. Cover your face.
But not from fear. From shame.
You drop to your knees, hands shaking uncontrollably, sobs raking through your ribs. You can’t see through the tears anymore, and your voice is barely there when you whisper—
“I didn’t know how to love you without losing myself.”
There’s silence for a beat. The kind that hurts worse than screaming.
Then his voice — softer now. Almost gentle. Still raw.
“Kitten,” he says. “Was I really such a monster that you had to vanish with a newborn? Cage yourself in pain and loneliness for five years?”
You can’t look up.
“Did it help?” he asks. “Did it ever help?”
Your voice comes out choked.
“No... no,” you cry. “It felt like I was dying every second. I called for you every night. I prayed you’d come.”
He exhales sharply through his nose.
“Maybe your pride didn’t let you call loud enough.”
His words hit like lashes — and they’re meant to. You hear the fury under them. The wound he’s trying to cauterize with cruelty.
“And now what?” he snaps. “You think I’ll just let you use me again? Let you touch me again? And then vanish with my son all over again? Is that the plan?”
“Sylus, please...”
Your voice cracks as the sobs take over. The panic. The helplessness. You’re unraveling at the seams.
“Please don’t do this. Please—” You clutch at your chest, as if trying to physically hold your heart together. “You’re cutting me open— You’re cutting me alive— I made a mistake— so many mistakes— I didn’t know how to come back— I was scared— I was so scared— I didn’t know how to fix it, I didn’t— I never— I never—”
You can’t breathe. The words collapse.
But one thing pushes through.
“I never stopped loving you.”
Everything halts.
His expression breaks. Not shatters — breaks, quietly, like a fault line slipping beneath the surface.
And then he’s moving.
Down to the floor. To you.
His knees hit the marble hard. He doesn’t feel it.
His arms are around you in the next second, pulling you in, wrapping you up like a shield against everything — even himself. Even your shared grief.
You sob into his chest, into his collar, into the hollow beneath his jaw that still smells like night and memory and danger and home. Your body convulses with it, trembling like the child you once were in his arms.
And he holds you. Tight.
Because there’s nothing else left to do.
And now, with you in his arms again — trembling, broken, real — something in him gives way.
Not all at once. Slowly. Inevitably.
You feel it before he even realizes it’s happening: the way his muscles start to loosen, the way the sharp lines of rage soften, his breath slowing against your temple as his hands begin to move. Hesitant at first. Then helpless.
He’s touching your hair — slowly, gently — like he forgot what softness felt like. His fingers slip through the strands, curl at the nape of your neck, anchor there. One hand presses against your spine, the other strokes up your back, down again, grounding you with each motion like he’s trying to memorize the shape of your grief against his skin.
Your sobs soak through his shirt, seep down to his chest, dampen his collar and slide down his neck. And he lets it happen. Welcomes the burn. Because after five years of silence, your tears feel like the only thing real.
You cling to him like the world’s collapsing again — but this time you’re dragging him into the rubble with you. Your arms around his shoulders. Your knees curled against his sides. Your legs wrapping around him like instinct. Like survival.
He doesn’t flinch.
He welcomes the ache of it. Every breathless grab. Every tremor in your limbs. Every desperate mark your body makes against his.
Because it means you’re here.
Because it means he still feels something.
And then your voice — a wrecked, shaking thing — finds its way through the ruin:
“I came back… because… because I couldn’t give him what he deserves. I tried. I tried so hard to be everything. But how can I show him joy, or love, or hope — when I live in the ashes of something beautiful I destroyed?”
Your voice cracks.
“How can I teach him love, when the only thing left in me is the bitter taste of everything I ruined?”
His arms tighten around you.
Your voice drops to a whisper.
“I know I don’t deserve forgiveness. Not now. Maybe not ever. I don’t even know how to fix myself. Let alone… heal you.”
You press your face into his chest, as if that could protect you from what you’re about to say.
“But please,” you whisper. “Please help me find the path back. What do I do? What do I say to make you stop hating me?”
There’s a pause.
A long, dangerous pause.
Then he exhales slowly — like the weight of your question cracked something inside his chest.
His lips find your temple.
Tentative. Testing.
He lingers there, breathing in the scent of you, like he’s not sure if he’s allowed to want this.
Then he moves. A little bolder now.
Your hairline. The crown of your head. Your forehead. The slope of your cheek. His lips brush over each point like it’s a litany. Like he’s not kissing you, but praying through you.
He kisses your nose. Your brow. Your eyelids.
And then—your lips.
Or almost. Just close enough for his breath to mix with yours.
Each kiss a scar he’s trying to erase with his lips. Each touch a memory he’s begging not to lose again.
He doesn’t say your name.
He devours it.
“I hate that I still love you like this,” he breathes between kisses. “I hate that even now, after everything, all I want is you.”
You gasp. Half-sob.
“I hate that just being here… makes me want to forgive you.”
And then he’s kissing you, not like before. Not like memory. Not like longing.
Like a man drowning. Like someone trying to inhale every second he lost, burn it into his lungs before it’s torn away again.
You kiss him back — shattering into him, against him, with him. Arms tight. Mouth hungry. Breath wrecked.
Because this isn’t peace. This is survival.
When he finally pulls back, it’s only just enough to breathe.
His forehead presses against yours. His voice shakes.
“I’m not ready to forgive,” he says. “But I can’t go another day without trying.”
Your eyes stay closed. Your lips tremble.
“That’s all I want.”
He exhales — broken. Guttural. Human in a way he never lets himself be.
“I missed you so much it ruined me.”
And you say it — softly, clearly, the last shard of your heart finally offered:
“I came back to help you rebuild.”
***
A month later.
The dining room is too big for three people.
The chandelier still glitters like a threat. The long table could seat fifteen warlords. The silverware looks like it costs more than most apartments.
But tonight, with one small boy seated on a velvet cushion, feet not even reaching the chair rung, and a half-eaten pile of mashed potatoes in front of him — it somehow feels… livable.
You watch him with a kind of cautious awe.
He’s trying so hard to be proper. Sitting straight. Using both hands to hold the fork. Stealing glances at the towering ceilings and flickering wall sconces like they might come alive. Every now and then he glances at you — checking if he’s doing this right.
And then there’s the raven.
Mephisto — jet-black, silent, elegant — perched on the edge of a nearby armchair, watching your son like a curious god. Your boy is enchanted. He keeps whispering questions at him, occasionally offering a green bean as tribute.
Mephisto doesn’t flinch. Just cocks his head like he’s listening.
You’re barely touching your food. Too busy memorizing.
The way your son laughs softly at the bird. The way the candlelight flickers against the long mahogany floors. The quiet.
God, the quiet.
You don’t realize you’ve zoned out until footsteps echo down the hall.
Sylus appears in the doorway — sleeves rolled, collar undone, a worn copy of Somewhere in the Sky in one hand.
“He’s out,” he says, voice low, warm. “Fought it like a gladiator. I barely survived.”
You smile.
He crosses the room, setting the book on the sideboard. Loosens his shoulders like someone still unused to relaxing.
“Apparently,” he adds, deadpan, “the only thing he truly cares about in this mansion is the antique rifle mounted over the fireplace.”
Your blood runs cold.
“You didn’t.”
“I did,” he replies, reaching for the wine. “I told him if he managed to fall asleep on his own tonight, he could hold it — under supervision.”
You stare.
“Are you insane?”
He pours. Slowly. Deliberately. A touch of amusement in his eyes.
“He fell asleep in two minutes.”
He passes you a glass. You take it like it might explode. He clinks his own against yours and sits beside you.
There’s a pause. The kind that tastes like something new, but gentle.
And then, without looking at you:
“I like being a father.”
You glance over.
He’s staring into his glass. But the corner of his mouth twitches, like he almost doesn’t believe he said it out loud.
“It’s because it’s still new,” you say softly. “Still shiny.”
He shakes his head.
“No. It’s because he’s mine.”
A beat.
“And because when he runs into a room, he doesn’t hesitate. Like he belongs there.”
Your throat catches. You take a sip of wine just to avoid answering.
He leans back, drapes one arm across the back of the chair, and looks at you like he’s about to say something dangerous.
And he does.
“So.”
You blink.
“How do you feel about making a daughter?”
You choke on the wine.
He doesn’t laugh. Just smiles — that smile. The slow, calculated one that used to mean someone was about to lose a war.
“You’re not serious.”
“I’m entirely serious, kitten” he says. “We could use someone to balance out the chaos. She’d keep him in line.”
“She’d own you in three weeks.”
“I’d let her,” he says, completely unbothered.
You shake your head, laughing into your glass.
“You realize we’re barely functional as it is?”
“And yet, here we are,” he murmurs, “functioning.”
The silence that follows is soft. Safe. Domestic in a way neither of you knows what to do with.
You lean your head on his shoulder.
And for the first time in years — no one is running. No one is bleeding. No one is apologizing.
Just this: Candlelight. A boy upstairs dreaming of ravens and rifles. And the possibility — for once — of something beautiful not ending in fire.
#love and deepspace#lads#sylus love and deepspace#sylus lads#sylus x reader#sylus and mc#sylus x you#storytelling#fanfic#fanfiction#angst#hurt/comfort#emotional#trauma#conflict#grief#second chances
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The thing is, it's not about the Therapy Speak. It's not that everyone who disliked DAV hates healthy communication as a dynamic in fiction. It's not even about only being allowed to be a good guy, really, because most of us did do that anyways (though the option not being there is a loss I grieve even if I never chose it myself, but that's another rant for another day).
It's that DAV does all that stuff at the expense of being believable. At the expense of characters being permitted to have personalities. At the expense of emotions behaving the way emotions actually work for people. At the expense of letting the plot build tension through the stakes we're forced to grapple with.
Half the fics out there take the conflicts between the characters in the previous games and resolve them. I do it myself ALL THE TIME because I like to find a path to resolution through just about any conflict, that's what fascinates me about telling these stories. But the higher the stakes, the harder a conflict is to resolve. You CAN resolve any conflict, you CAN communicate healthily through any emotion, but you can't skip the time it takes to process it all to even be able to communicate it. As someone whose got CPTSD and recovered from many Traumas, I can tell you that the TIME it takes to work through it is not something you can fast track, and the ups and downs of your emotions on that journey can't be skipped. It doesn't matter if you know exactly how to do it, exactly how it's going to feel, or exactly what the end state will be, you CAN'T speedrun it.
DAV has stakes that are astronomical, but nobody treats them that way. Nobody experiences denial - a common psychological reaction to being presented with information that shatters your worldview. Nobody expresses any distrust in the establishments handing out this information - something common among cultures that have at times been at war, even if those wars are "resolved" in the present. Nobody really ever breaks down - something that any person is capable of under extreme circumstances, especially when facing multiple crises of faith that challenge everything they thought they knew about themselves. Nobody blows their lid because they've been repressing the hell out of everything. Nobody grieves for southern Thedas, the entire thing dying off screen and giving you, the player, NO way to engage with it in any way.
Not to mention there are barely any inter-party conflicts, when there should be a lot more. Why is everyone (except Spite) fine with it if Emmrich sacrifices Manfred to become a lich? Why is everyone fine with Illario potentially being set free if he was working with the venatori and Elgar'nan, two sources that have actively attacked everyone in the party? Why doesn't Neve resent Lucanis if Treviso is picked? Why doesn't Harding get pissed off at Nevarra for having a secret society of liches that never helped during the Inquisition's war against the breach and corypheus? Why doesn't Harding feel ANYTHING about Ferelden and the rest of the south? Shouldn't Harding resent the fact that she's stuck in the north while her home dies?
All of these conflicts ARE resolvable, but not easily. And it's not believable that they're never brought up. It's not believable that these characters skip through everything that happens with like, barely a frowny face most of the time. In DAO, Alistair leaves if you don't treat his conflicts with respect. In DA2, your party members try to kill each other if you don't pay attention to their conflicts/emotional needs. In DAI, people can leave or betray you, Cassandra throws a chair at Varric and tries to body him out a window. ALL of these can be resolved but it takes effort, and the characters get to SHOW that they're bothered by them and struggling the way a person would when faced with those emotions.
The problem isn't the therapy speak, or that everyone is loyal and won't leave, or that they aren't mean to each other enough. It's that it's toxic positivity. It's toxic as fuck to imply that anger or grief should be smiled over or else you're giving up, and it's damaging to people to avoid engaging with their own negative emotional responses to extremely negative stimuli. It's pasting optimism over very real, very weighty issues, sweeping it all under the rug, and you keep waiting for the lid to blow off the pressure cooker that creates, but it never does. It never becomes anything that emulates real emotions, which is why the whole damn thing feels hollow. Everything's dying and nobody cares, not even about themselves, and that's NOT healthy communication.
It's bullshit, half-assed storytelling that didn't tell us the actual story, just the vague idea of what it could have been.
#zombolouge writes#dragon age#dragon age spoilers#DAV#DAV Spoilers#DAV critical#veilguard critical#been rolling this one around in my head for a while because I know it wasn't “healthy communication” that was pissing me off#I write healthy communication all the goddamn time and people seem to enjoy it#but I also treat the trauma and the problems with fucking respect#ignoring your negative emotions is a form of self-destruction#it's just not how psychology works#and this is indeed not even addressing all the lore conflicts that they want us to think got fixed in the last ten years off screen#or the erasure of the complicated parts of some of the factions *cough the Crows cough*#but like JUST as a baseline JUST the emotional handling of the narrative is wack as fuck
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"You always have a choice"
Drawing based on my favorite scene from Sonic 3.
#my art#sonic the hedgehog#shadow the hedgehog#sonic the hedgehog 3#this scene makes me emotional#two hogs trauma bonding#sonic 3 spoilers#sort off???#sonadow#illustartion#sonic fanart#sonic art
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Autistic and ‘Over-reacting’ to the Little Things









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#autism#actually autistic#over-reacting to little things#demand avoidance#emotional regulation difficulties#trauma#difference in communication#detail oriented#the world can be unpredictable#neurodivergence#neurodiversity#actually neurodivergent#feel free to share/reblog#neurodivergent_lou (Facebook)
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In case you were wondering how deep down the Batfam fixation hole I am, it's something I've actually been talking about in therapy a lot.
Not like, in a worried way, more just when my therapist asks me what I'm doing in my downtime, my answer always used to be either "sleeping" or "I don't have downtime. I have too much work to do."
Now my answer is "playing my Batman game" or "watching Batman show/reading comics/writing unhinged Batman x Muppet fanfic."
And my therapist is delighted. She's fucking ecstatic. She's like, "You have interests again!" and I'm like !!!! Because here's the thing.
Almost dying in 2019 kinda irrevocably fucked up my brain, like, a lot. Like a lot, a lot. And I've been grieving over that for the last few years as well as recovering from the physical aspects of it. And to cope with it, I threw myself into work even though I wasn't physically or mentally well enough, and that made everything worse, and well, if you've been here, you know.
My brain has not been kind to me for a long time. It still isn't. But I do the work. I do multiple types of therapy a week. I piece myself back together on the daily and try to remember what it means to be human and not just this numb static void that sometimes sounds like shrieking if you listen too closely.
And then randomly, a few months ago a friend bought me Gotham Knights on Steam, and it was like a light turned back on. The engine that'd been refusing to turn over for years suddenly sputtered back to life, and something in my brain went, "Hey, I remember this... this is fun?"
And then I started tentatively searching the tags here on Tumblr, and yeah, actually. I remember this. I remember enjoying this. I can dip my toes into this. This is safe. This is a childhood interest from Before the almost-dying-trauma. And besides, it won't get in the way of my work. This isn't going to consume me. Nothing consumes me like it used to. I'm too broken for that.
Except, haha, jokes on me because, for some fucking reason, Brucie fucking Wayne and his gaggle of chaotic crime-fighting children is what reached into my brain, picked up my trauma, and started shaking it loose like a category 7 earthquake.
I actually laughed about that with my therapist a few weeks ago. Of all characters, of all pieces of media, it's Batman that's helping me process a significant chunk of my emotional trauma in a healthy way.
The most emotionally constipated vigilante in superhero existence, and I'm weeping like a child every time I get an achievement in Gotham Knights, and it says some bullshit like this:
ID: a purple steam achievement icon that says: He'd Be So Proud Of You. Reach the maximum level as any member of the Batman Family. 6.3% of players have this achievement. /end ID.
(for context, Batman is dead in this game, and you are playing as his emotionally devastated children trying to keep it together. Wailing, gnashing, crying, throwing up etc, etc.)
And my therapist, who has sat with me through EMDR sessions and a multitude of other shit designed to rewire your brain, just shrugs and says, "Sometimes we need to externalize our emotions through safe media. For you, right now, that safety is Batman having a relationship with the Muppets."
And like... okay, yeah. I'll take the win on that one.
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I’ve always hated “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger” - it’s so much more complicated than that
#spiritual awakening#spiritual awareness#wisdom#emotional trauma#trauma#self empowerment#abuse survivor#trauma survivor
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