#trans man in drag

[thecryptidcalls]

I beg queer people this pride month to remember butches, he/him lesbians, transmascs, trans men, drag kings, multigender people, intersex people, unlabeled people, and really anyone else who has always been here but is often erased.

[anti-des]

[genderqueerdykes]

as someone who has been scarred for life by experiences at gay bars, i need people to understand it's beyond tacky to mock people who want queer spaces beyond queer bars- it's dangerous.

let me explain. i went to 2 of my local queer bars a lot last year, as much as i was able to despite being poor. i witnessed a fist fight that was so bloody that ended up with a transmisogynistic drag queen getting hit in the head with a metal baton. the sight caused me to uncontrollably throw up in the bathroom of the club because of how gruesome it was. they had to close down the club and forard people out the back door because of how out of hand this person got- he was screaming transmisogynstic slurs and phrases at the bouncers were were transfem.

i was also sexually assaulted at these places, i was repeatedly groped by several people who i was not interacting with in the first place who found me attractive and decided physically grabbing me on numerous occasions was the way to get my attention. being femme in a queer bar is dangerous even if the people groping you are gay men.

i am also a recovering addict who dealt with alcohol issues in the past and could be considered a recovering alcoholic. i don't want to be around alcohol. i don't want to smell it. it triggers awful memories and also sometimes makes me consider getting a drink, but i can't have one, because the medications i take will cause a fatal reaction- i don't want to be tempted to drink, because it will kill me.

it's not right to mock someone or call them childish or whatever for not wanting to go to a club. whenever alcohol is involved, people's inhibitions are gone and they will do whatever. this includes fighting. i witnessed several other fights. just because it's a queer bar doesn't mean there won't be fights. and it especialyl doesn't m ean that you won't get groped or assaulted because, like i said, since alcohol is involved and it's a bar, there's a high chance this can and will happen.

queer people are not inherently safe angels to be around by virtue of being queer. there are still transphobes in queer bars. tranny chasers come to these bars. homophobic lesbians show up and lesbophobic gay men show up. drag queens and performers bring their cishet friends and family to support their shows. these are not perfect havens. they are not safe. we should not force other queers to interact with inherently dangerous spaces if these are supposed to be our safe spaces.

also these spaces are not friendly to people with disabilities; wheelchair users have nowhere to go especially when it's very crowded. other mobility aids get kicked and knocked over. neurodivergent people can get overstimulated by the deafening music very quickly. photosensitive people can have seizures due to the strobing lights. people with emetophobia like me run the risk of running into those types of triggers. people who are overstimulated by intoxicated people have no choice but to deal with it. dancing is one of the only activities to do other than drink and not many disabled (or even abled) people can dance for extended periods of time comfortably.

not to mention these spaces are not geared toward aromantic or asexual people at all, either. there is a long list of reasons why bars should not be our primary venues of interaction with one another. they serve a specific purpose- for people who want to cruise- but for the rest of us, it's really crucial that we have spaces that provide meaningful interactions with other queers on other levels of our identities.

some people just want to hang out with other queers in a quiet environment and craft, or shop, or drink coffee, or read books together, or just about any other activity on planet earth, and that's not "lame" or "cringy" or bad in any way- these are extremely normal and necessary parts of human interaction that we all require and crave and it's normal to want to do healthy, domestic things with other queers. we need this in our lives.

please take it seriously when people attempt to create queer spaces that don't involve alcohol and bars. it's necessary for our survival and well being as a community.

[midwestemokilledmygrandma]

i do think for the world to be a better place that is more accepting of trans people that we have to stop assuming people who are gnc are automatically trans/going to realise they are trans/going to grow up to be trans.

not even in a gatekeeping being trans way because anyone can be trans and if you say you are trans then.. you are.

but acting like trans people are the only gnc people in society really reinforces both the sex and gender binaries when it is truly not that serious.

normalise exploration of gender idk... bcs also not all cis crossdressers or cis gnc ppl are our allies and putting them byproxy into trans spaces is quite dangerous 4 us as well

not to be like "let cis ppl be gnc!!" bcs obviously this is a very internetification of an issue bcs in the real world cis gncness is obviously way more accepted than transness but in trans spaces online I do rly think we need to stop equating being gender non conforming with being trans

[justdavina]

Farrah Moan! SO HOT!

[kiyana-viii]

Begging for your cock daddy… 😈 

[mychemicaltriptothezoo]

Gerard as my little guy Saul in his usual surroundings (pride flags I got from some block party thing on the end of my bed)

[dkettchen]

PSA in honour of whatever the fuck Lorde is up to: Reminder not to bind with tape unless it's special binding tape (cause it'll fuck up your skin) and also to push the boob toward your armpit/put binder on while lying on your back, not just straight down let alone to the middle

[vagathathegreat]

As we wind down with pride month, let's not forget the original Queen Freddie Mercury!

[scurvyboy]

fiddlestan au except its just the birdcage movie. stan and fiddleford own a drag club

That movie is kind of problematic by today's standards though rip

i'm assuming the casting you're implying is stan as albert, fiddleford as armand, and tate as val, which is funny to me because they're not like them literally at all. though the idea of stan opening a drag bar as a grift is fun, neither him or fiddleford possess the homosexual passion required to take it seriously. they're not queens in love, they're bisexuals sleeping with each other. it simply would not work.

also that movie isn't problematic

[yourdailyqueer]

Ashley Hans Scheirl

Gender: Transgender man

Sexuality: Queer

DOB: Born 1956

Ethnicity: White - Austrian

Occupation: Artist, drag artist, director

[genderqueerdykes]

i love the sheer variety i see when i meet trans men, trans boys, transmasc butches, ftms and the transmasculine community. no two transmasculine people you meet are the same. you'll meet tough boys, soft men, guys who love makeup, people who dress like they're from a specific period in the past, proud butches, dudes who dress like freaks, dapper gentlemen, lesboys and lesbian men, goofy boydykes, silly bros and your best friend. the transmasculine community is rich in diversity and every person you meet has a lot to teach you about what masculinity and manhood mean

[jameslongforjimshortforgabriel]

i think seeing gottmik, a transmasc drag queen, wearing bedazzled top surgery wounds, on drag race, lip synicng to Banana, a regueton song written by Anitta and Becky G, two amazing latina artists, then winning the lip sync, and earning 10k dollars for a trans charity, just fixed my entire life

[justdavina]

La grande dame! Is sooooo HOT!! This wonderful drag queen has nailed it when it comes to HOT! Her magical outfit will live with me forever! It's just incredible!

[kiyana-viii]

I’ll put a spell on you 🪄✨