#boundaries are valid

[carpethedamndiemdejavu]

[succulentsiren]

How to Prioritize Yourself

(in other words, how to put yourself 1st)

1. Before making a decision, ask yourself, “Is this beneficial for me?”

2. Second ask yourself, “Do I want to do this? If so why?” Make sure that whatever you do is serving your best interests.

3. Always take care of your needs. Treat yourself like you would your child. Maintain your basic hygiene. Make sure you've eaten and drank water. Keep up with your skin care. Give yourself compliments and support your dreams. Be financially stable and provide security for yourself. Give yourself everything you desire.

4. Don’t rush or let others push you into doing something you don’t want to.

5. Put your standards on the pedestal. Form your own judgement about things and don’t be persuaded easily.

6. Do what you set your mind to regardless of opposition.

7. Always be in tune with what you desire and never compromise your standards.

8. Fill your own cup first. Invest in yourself.

9. Set clear boundaries and start saying no when you mean it.

10. Release all shame surrounding your self prioritization. Understand, people won’t care about your wellbeing. You have to be the one looking out for you.

11. Gate-keep yourself from those undeserving of your love and energy.

12. Don't tell all your business. Move in silence and cherish your privacy.

13. Stay self-sufficient.

14. Do the things YOU enjoy. Have your favorite cup of coffee. Eat your favorite snack. Watch your favorite show. Do tarot readings. Read occult books. Wear makeup. Dress up. Don't shrink your beliefs, lifestyle or presence just because someone else disagrees with it.

15. Ignore unsolicited advice.

16. Stop trying to prove your worth and just be. You are already enough as you are. You habe nothing further to prove.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[nebulo-philiac]

We gotta stop pretending that the "censorship/antishipper" movement is run by dumbass children when most of the people who actively participate on there are GROWN ASS ADULTS who say stuff like this, this person has 25+ on their bio😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[bloomzone]

I am done letting others into my progress just for them to compare, judge, or make me doubt myself. I worked hard to get where I am, and I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. My success is mine. My journey is mine. I am no longer giving people the power to affect how I feel about my own efforts.

I don’t need to share what I’m reviewing, what I’m working on, or how I feel after an exam for toxic people who seek constant validation through grades and others' approval. I don’t need to join in on answer-checking just to feel validated or worried. I am choosing peace. I am choosing to trust myself. I don’t need to compare because I know that my effort will always pay off in its own way.

I am stepping back. I am focusing on myself. I know what works best for me, and if that means studying alone and keeping my progress to myself, then that’s exactly what I will do. I don’t owe anyone my notes, my strategies, or my explanations I share only with ppl who are supportive and respectful . If others are curious, they will have to find their own way, just like I do. I am no longer available for people who only want my knowledge but don’t truly support me or respect my boundaries.

I will not let small mistakes make me doubt everything I’ve done. I will not let others’ reactions make me feel like I am any less smart. I have proven to myself that I am capable, and I will keep proving it in my own way, at my own pace. I am enough. I am strong. I am moving forward for me.

@bloomzone

[dukeofthomas]

"Jason just needs to see things from his family's perspective and understand how much they love him (despite them never actually communicating or showing him through their actions)" is out. "The batfamily putting a single bit of effort into understanding Jason and reconciling with him on his own terms" is in.

[circadianrhythmofthekiller]

hiii! humbly requesting marcie x bb shippy art, what you do with it is up to you! thank you!<3

day 31 - customer satisfaction

[kagooleo]

first dates aren't always perfect 💐🌺🌸

[coconut530]

GETAWAYS

[fandomsnrambles]

Nya but we spend the time to explore her character

Nya but we explore her rage towards social attitudes due to her gender

Nya but we talk about her suppressed rage in being overlooked as a woman (particularly in skybound) without bringing up Jay’s feelings

Nya but we give her the space to be angry at the way shes treated in early seasons

Nya but we try to understand her flaws without calling her a selfish bitch and other demeaning names

Nya but we stop mischaracterising her for her feelings of rage and stop saying she needs to chill

Nya but we give her the same energy as male characters

[boiled-ginger-ale]

oh gods im so sorry octonauts fandom im introducing too much to a small and unstable ecosystem i swear im not trying to be a freak im just really hyperfixated im so sorry pleas i didnt mean any harm ;-;

[wolfywolfy]

If you went through astarion's entire romance plotline and didn't ascend him and then when he offered you SEX ON TOP OF HIS LITERAL GRAVE and you said "ew, no!!" I'm sorry but you just don't get it. You just don't get it. You don't get it. You just don't g

[thepeacefulgarden]

This holiday season...

You are allowed to say "No."

You are allowed to cancel plans.

You are allowed to leave the table.

You are allowed to excuse yourself and take some time to regroup from Sensory Hell (tm).

You are allowed to not answer nosy or judgmental questions.

You are allowed to (discreetly) regift.

You are allowed to give gifts only to immediate family, or only to children.

You are allowed to have a quiet and subdued holiday.

You are allowed to do as much or as little decorating as you desire.

You are allowed to do less.

You are allowed to ask for help, and to (graciously) accept help.

You are allowed to give experiences rather than things.

You are allowed to grieve.

You are allowed to disappoint people, and to let their disappointment be their issue to deal with, not yours.

You are allowed to scrap traditions that don't resonate with you, or that leave you exhausted, burned out, broke, etc.

You are allowed to start new traditions, or to lean into traditions that are meaningful to you.

You are allowed to have fats and carbs.

You are allowed to enjoy delicious food, guilt-free.

You are allowed to have seconds.

You are allowed to set boundaries with your loved ones.

You are allowed to change the subject.

You are allowed to spend the holidays with people other than your family of origin.

You are allowed to dislike your family.

You are allowed to take care of yourself, and make your needs a priority.

You are allowed to ignore the naysayers and critics.

You are allowed to feel anything, and acknowledge your feelings.

[nebulo-philiac]

Omw to send this to every censorshipper on my posts

[jade-curtiss]

The thing with reclaiming things for oneself is that it's not always inconsequential and comforting than it seems. I mean femboy, for an example, may seems appealing to some to claim as without the social context it come from which will be attached to it no matter if the person who identify as such like it or not. I mean, even if the word may seems like it describes someone who's perceivable as feminine while identifying as masculine, it was still coined as a reductive, defeatist and fetishizing term targeted at people who can achieve a rather specific, based off fiction, more often than not, idealised aesthetic. There's reasons why people avoid calling themselves and others shemales or traps, rebranding it won't make it much different.

[adviceformefromme]

How do you not repress feelings but not let everything take over? I have very bad ocd and it seeps into my relationship as well, I always feel the minute I don’t like something or it so slightly hurt my feels or I get worried it’s a small red flag that means this relationship is doomed, I need to address it. But I also know rationally, I don’t think rationally all the time and I can’t decipher what is to be brought up and what isn’t… I pay extremely close detail to everything. If my partner says I love you but forgets the goodnight part, I immediately think something is wrong or doesn’t like me anymore… I’ll have really good weeks and be doing great and then really bad weeks where I feel like I’m going insane noticing everything. I’ve been able to learn how to stay much calmer during those feelings but it still nags sometimes.

Hey sweetie, the key to not suppressing your emotions is doing the healing work. I would definitely look into codependency, regulating your nervous system and emotional trauma release. It sounds like there are issues with inner safety, which are most likely related to something that has happened in your childhood. And it's not that your current relationship is mirroring a past trauma, it's just the same emotions that come up when you're triggered today, are the same emotions felt in the past, and it's like a wound being poked at. You need to heal the wound. Advice on how to heal:

1] Get therapy, you want to find someone you can trust, someone you feel safe to open up to, someone who you see growth with as the sessions continue.

2] Try emotional freedom tapping (EFT), I am currently doing sessions to clear out old traumas, it's honestly incredible. I do one session per week and found a very affordable virtual coach on https://www.fiverr.com

3] Reading books, healing books. I recommend going to the book store in the self help section and seeing what books call out to you. Books on co-dependency, books on healing your inner child, books on self love, books on healing your nervous system, somatic healing some suggestions.

4] Journal. Build that bond between you and you. That self love, that I am my own best friend energy has to exist so you are not sabotaging and hurting yourself as you are on this path. Your journal is a space to express what is going on, how you feel, what you want to feel, what you want to let go, love letters to yourself. It's your opportunity to understand and get to know you better on a deeper level.

5] Speak to your partner and allow him to understand what is going on and what exactly your needs are. Learn about Dr Cheyenne Bryants High Functioning / Low functioning behaviour dynamic in relationships (research online), in short when you are in those triggered moments (low functioning) your partner needs to be able to cover you with behaviours that support you instead of also succumbing to your level and leaving you both in low functioning dynamic. This will require communication and a healthy relationship dynamic so you can support each other no matter what.

I hope these help! xoxoxo