#developer mindset

[vortexofadigitalkind]

Tools aren’t neutral. The frameworks and platforms we pick shape what we build and who we become. In today’s post, we explore how our design choices define our futures. 🔗 https://vortexofadigitalkind.com/the-tools-we-choose #DigitalPhilosophy #TheToolsWeChoose

[thesophistiicate]

upgrade your life by taking note of the objects you use most and slowly replace them with the most beautiful and high-quality versions of those things you can find.

[sugarsprinklesoul]

Small ways to activate your "happiness" chemicals

DOPAMINE: the reward chemical

• Complete a task

• Doing self care activites

• Eating some food

• Celebrating your little wins.

OXYTOCIN: the love hormones

• Playing with a dog

• Playing with a baby

• Holding hands

• Hugging someone

• Giving someone else a compliment

SEROTONIN: the mood stabiliser

• Meditating

• Running

• Be in the sun

• Walk in nature

• Swimming

ENDORPHIN: the pain relief

• Laughing exercises

• Essential oils

• Eating dark chocolate

• Running

[theowritercal]

Having some thoughts about compulsory sexuality, especially how posts about sex positivity vs censorship have an unfortunate tendency to cast people who are less willing to engage with sex as the cause and the symptom of puritanism when puritanical people are usually pretty pro-sex (within very narrow parameters that they weaponize against everyone else).

Tl;dr: Ending stigma around sex = Good. Implying less sexual people are losers / bad queers / oppressors = No thanks.

[becomingthatgirl111]

be aware of what you consume:

the energy of others: surround yourself with positive people and avoid those who drain you.

the videos you watch: select content that inspires, educates or entertains you in a healthy way.

what you read: look for reliable sources and material that enriches you intellectually.

who you follow: follow people who inspire and challenge you to grow.

what you scroll through on social media: avoid negative content and look for something that motivates you or makes you feel good.

the news: look for objective sources of information and avoid information overload.

highlights of others: compare less and celebrate more the achievements of others.

the advice you listen to: evaluate advice according to your criteria and needs.

source: @zamirasaba

[girlwithrituals]

101 ways to improve self esteem

1) Master a new skill.

2) List your accomplishments.

3) Do something creative.

4) Challenge your limiting beliefs.

5) Talk to a counselor.

6) Don't worry about what others think.

7) Read or watch something inspirational.

8) Stay true to your character.

9) Let go of negative people.

10) Set healthy boundaries with others.

11) Care about your appearance.

12) Welcome failure as part of growth.

13) Be a lifelong learner.

14) Face your fears.

15) Become a mentor.

16) Accept compliments.

17) Eliminate self-criticism.

18) Practice coping skills to manage stress and big emotions.

19) Notice negative thoughts and beliefs.

20) Challenge negative thinking.

21) Think about what you learned from negative experiences.

22) Practice gratitude.

23) Exercise.

24) Eat healthy and limit junk food.

25) Get good sleep.

26) Spend time with positive and supportive people.

27) Encourage yourself.

28) Write a list of your strengths.

29) Don't compare yourself to others.

30) Avoid perfectionism.

31) Do at least one positive, enjoyable activity every day.

32) Celebrate small victories.

33) Be helpful and considerate to others.

34) Be honest with yourself and others.

35) Accept your flaws.

36) Don't give up.

37) Practice self-care.

38) Go easy on yourself.

39) Practice being assertive.

40) Practice saying "No".

41) Practice relaxation techniques.

42) Take on challenges.

43) Volunteer to help others.

44) Forgive others and yourself.

45) Set goals and work toward them step by step.

46) Seek balance in all areas of your life.

47) Discover your passions and purpose

48) Groom yourself.

49) Dress nicely.

50) Be kind and generous to others.

51) Practice good posture.

52) Change a small habit.

53) Smile.

54) Don't procrastinate.

55) Don't take things personal.

56) Organize your personal space.

57) Challenge unkind thoughts about yourself.

58) Spend time outside.

59) Notice the good things.

60) Celebrate your successes

61) Write a list of things you like about yourself.

62) Don't take too much on.

63) Do something for yourself every day.

64) Develop daily habits.

65) Remind yourself it's okay if not everyone likes you.

66) Practice mindfulness.

67) Learn to tolerate discomfort.

68) Use problem-solving skills.

69) Take responsibility instead of blaming.

Tell Yourself Positive Affirmations Such As:

70) I am grateful for every day.

71) I am worthy of happiness and love.

72) I am in charge of my own happiness.

73) I love, respect, and believe in myself.

74) I deserve to be happy and successful.

75) I approve of myself, right here and now.

76) I am learning and changing for the better.

77) I accept 100% responsibility for my own life.

78) Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.

79) I can learn to accept the parts of myself that I don't like.

80) I am thankful for my challenges as they make me a stronger person.

81) Write down three positives about each day.

82) Make a collage with your talents, goals, and dreams.

83) Practice laughing.

84) Be proud of yourself.

85) Say mistakes are an opportunity to learn.

86) Show respect to yourself and others.

87) Resolve conflict peacefully.

88) Ask for help or support.

89) Complete a daily task list.

90) Have a growth mindset.

91) Be optimistic.

92) Treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

93) Focus on the things you have control over and can change.

94) Get started on tasks you have been putting off.

95) Practice good daily hygiene.

96) Focus on solutions not problems.

97) Talk about your feelings with someone you trust.

98) Drink plenty of water.

99) Start a new hobby or join a club/sport.

100) Do random acts of kindness.

101) Create a dreams list.

[agirlwithglam]

things confident people do, part 1

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 1) when someone compliments them, they say thank you.

WOAH mind-boggling right! they don't self depreciate themselves by going "no no im so ugly" or whatever, but they don't say something like "yeah i know." either. show your gratitude, but don't let it get to your brain.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 2) take care of themselves.

they make sure to show themselves just as much love as they show everyone else because they know they deserve it just as much as anyone else.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 3) they show up for themselves.

when they say something, they do it. when they want something, they work to get it. when you feel sad and hurt, you yourself should be the first person to come and support yourself.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 4) they walk and sit with good posture

confident people know that they don't shouldn't have to make themselves invisible for anyone. it may be scary at first to be walking around looking straight instead of hunched over, but just btw u look rly lame being hunched over. stand up girl.

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 5) they take up space

because they know they are allowed to. they know they deserve it. why would they try to become smaller? for who are you doing that for? literally no one cares and it just looks pathetic. take up space honey, you're allowed to.

GIF by cherrylipssara1

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 6) you like what you see in the mirror

when i look in the mirror, no matter how i look- whether im sweating and crusty musty dusty or even all glammed up- i always love myself. why? because i know that i am not what i look like. i know i am beautiful, but that is not the only admirable thing about me!

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 7) do what scares the crap out of u!!

or basically, step outside your comfort zone. do things that the previous you wouldn't even think of doing, and do it proudly, and do it alone! (me for example, recently i did the most scariest thing ever that i was dreading the entire day and when i did oh my god i was so proud of myself!! esp since i did it alone as well!)

𝜗𝜚 ࣪˖ ִ𐙚 8) is not scared of being alone.

who cares? literally who cares? confident people know that no one cares. people look at you because they may be curious or just looking around, but then you don't stay in their mind all day, okay? other people couldn't care less and neither should u!

[strawberrysznn]

How to find the best version of yourself that you'll fall in love with

As someone who has gone through SO many versions of herself and is now slowly growing to be a person she's genuinely happy and in love with

Trust me when I say I've had a lot of identities these past few years. It took me a lot of time to really find the best version of myself, the version that I'm genuinely happy with, the version that my 10 year old self would have looked up to. However, it's different for everyone. The definition of an "it girl" to me might be different from your definition, and the personality and life that truly feels me might not suit you. So, please take note that this is highly subjective and it's all about you and what works for you.

The one and only thing I did to rebrand myself: I created a character.

I gave my character a new name. You can give yours your current one or a nickname. I gave mine my second name. I built this character, I envisioned her, I turned her into a realistic person that I knew I'd look up to.

Basically, create an alter ego. And it wasn't easy to curate this character for me, it took a lot of time for me to build her into someone that I'd want to be, someone that still has flaws but embodies the energy and lifestyle I want.

Know what you want. How does this new you act? What do they like and dislike? What matters to them? How do they impact the people around them? What are they like? How would you describe them? What are their flaws and how do they deal with it? What are the bad habits they got rid of?

Make sure this version you want feels like you. This isn't about turning into another person, it's about growing as a person. It's about looking in the mirror and loving what you see with no doubt and no regrets. It's about knowing what you want and taking it right away, and it's about taking control of your own life and shaping it into one that you will fall in love with every single day.

Look up to this person. Get to know this person, know every single thing about them. Make sure that as you create this alter ego, it's truly someone you'd 100% look up to.

Fall in love. Personally, this part is my favorite. I start to visualize and imagine this person so much that I completely fall in love with her. This version is me, truly me, and utterly me. It's not someone else, it's the person I want to be because everything about this person feels like me. I start to romanticize growing and becoming this person, slowly shaping myself, changing my lifestyle, taking action, taking initiative, and building myself and my life brick by brick to fall in love with what I see in the mirror.

Take action and build yourself up. Slowly embody this person. You can't change overnight, but you can grow and shape yourself step by step.

This is NOT about turning into someone else. This isn't about changing yourself to be more likeable or to please others. This is all about knowing what direction you want to go and taking it. Make sure this character is realistic and truly you. Do not try to be someone you won't be happy with, be someone that will make it easier for you to love yourself. Don't become someone that will only push you beyond your limits and break you, become someone who can take control of their own life enough to build their life solely for themselves.

Find yourself, find the best version of yourself, and you'll know what path to take. All you have to do now is take the path.

[goddessinnerglow]

Become Your Best Version Before 2025 Masterlist

Hello! This is the Become Your Best Version Before 2025 masterlist. It’s a collection of all the posts from the series, gathered in one place to make it easier for you to access and follow along.

I hope you find it inspiring and helpful as you work towards becoming the best version of yourself!

Day 1: What Does Becoming Your Best Version Mean

Day 2: Understanding Yourself / Self-assessment

Day 3: Identifying Limiting Beliefs

Day 4: Identifying Your Core Values

Day 5: Setting SMART Goals That Actually Stick

Day 6: Creating Your Personal Mission Statement

Day 7: Building Better Habits

Day 8: Mastering Time Management

Day 9: Auditing Your Relationships

Day 10: Mastering Your Emotions

Day 11: Taking Care of Your Body

Day 12: Stress Management

Day 13: Financial Planning and Budgeting

Day 14: Career and Purpose

Day 15: The Power of Self-Talk

Day 16: Digital Detox and Mindful Living

Day 17: Decluttering Your Life

Day 18: Creating Healthy Boundaries

Day 19: Self-Care Rituals That Actually Stick

Day 20: Building Confidence

Day 21: Overcoming Fear & Self-Doubt

Day 22: Developing New Skills

Day 23: Personal Style & Self-Presentation

Day 24: Setting Up Progress Tracking Systems

Day 25: Designing Your Accountability Plan

Day 26: Personal Development Tools and Resources

Day 27: Hobbies & Passion Projects

Day 28: How to Keep Yourself Motivated

Day 29: Prioritizing Yourself and Your Needs

Day 30: Creating Your Vision for 2025

Day 31: The Beginning of Your Best Year Yet

*** Divider Credit: @thecutestgrotto ***

[istar-gzng]

𝐻𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑂 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊 𝑈𝑃- 1𝑆𝑇 𝑄𝑈𝐴𝑅𝑇𝐸𝑅

𝐹𝑂𝑅 𝐴 𝑆𝑈𝐶𝐶𝐸𝑆𝑆𝐹𝑈𝐿 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊 𝑈𝑃 𝐼𝑁 2025

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 2025 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟, 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑏𝑦 𝑓𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑘𝑒𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 : 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤𝑙𝑒𝑑𝑔𝑒, 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ, 𝐶𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑟, 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠, 𝐸𝑛𝑣𝑖𝑟𝑜𝑛𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑃𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝐷𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑙𝑜𝑝𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑇𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑀𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡.

𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑖𝑠 𝑑𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 4 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑒𝑎𝑐ℎ 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑠 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑙 𝑢𝑝. 𝐹𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑜𝑛 2 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑏𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘.

𝑇𝐼𝑃: 21 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑎 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡. 90 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑎 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒.

𝐽𝐴𝑁-𝐹𝐸𝐵-𝑀𝐴𝑅

𝐶ℎ��𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐹𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 : 𝐸𝑥𝑎𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 :

✰ 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤𝑙𝑒𝑑𝑔𝑒 (𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠, 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑖𝑛𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑒𝑑).

✰ 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ (𝐸𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒, 𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟).

𝑆𝑒𝑡 3 𝐶𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝐺𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝐸𝑎𝑐ℎ 𝐴𝑟𝑒𝑎:

𝑒.𝑔. 𝐻𝐸𝐴𝐿𝑇𝐻 :

✰ 𝐷𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑘 2𝐿 𝑜𝑓 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑦.

✰ 𝑇𝑟𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑔𝑎 𝑡𝑤𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘.

✰ 𝐵𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑎 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑒

𝐾𝑁𝑂𝑊𝐿𝐸𝐷𝐺𝐸 𝐼𝐷𝐸𝐴𝑆

✰ 𝑅𝑒𝑎𝑑 1 𝑜𝑟 2 𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑠 𝑝𝑒𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ.

✰ 𝐿𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑎 𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑢𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔.

✰ 𝐿𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑜𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑇𝐸𝐷 𝑇𝑎𝑙𝑘𝑠.

✰ 𝐽𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 3 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

✰ 𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒 (𝐶𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑎, 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑡𝑢𝑏𝑒 𝑡𝑢𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑎𝑙𝑠).

✰ 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑢𝑝𝑑𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑛 𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠.

𝐻𝐸𝐴𝐿𝑇𝐻 𝐼𝐷𝐸𝐴𝑆

✰ 𝐸𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒 3-4 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘 (𝑦𝑜𝑔𝑎, 𝑤𝑎𝑙𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝐻𝐼𝐼𝑇).

✰ 𝐸𝑎𝑡 𝑏𝑎𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑑 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑠- 𝑓𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑜𝑛 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑛𝑠.

✰ 𝐻𝑦𝑑𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 : 𝑎𝑖𝑚 𝑓𝑜𝑟 8 𝑔𝑙𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑦.

✰ 𝐺𝑒𝑡 7-8 ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑟𝑢𝑝𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑠𝑙𝑒𝑒𝑝.

✰ 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑚𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑒𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑠.

✰ 𝑇𝑟𝑦 𝑎 𝑠𝑜𝑐𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑚𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑎 𝑑𝑒𝑡𝑜𝑥 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘.

𝐻𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑂 𝐵𝑈𝐼𝐿𝐷 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊-𝑈𝑃 𝑃𝐿𝐴𝑁

1. 𝑈𝑆𝐸 𝑇𝐻𝐸 21/90 𝑅𝑈𝐿𝐸 :

𝑃𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑦 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 21 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠.

𝑀𝑎𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 90 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑛 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒.

2. 𝑇𝑅𝐴𝐶𝐾 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅 𝑃𝑅𝑂𝐺𝑅𝐸𝑆𝑆 :

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑎 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒.

3. 𝑅𝐸𝑊𝐴𝑅𝐷 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅𝑆𝐸𝐿𝐹 :

𝑆𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑟𝑒𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑎𝑓𝑡𝑒𝑟 21 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 :

𝐵𝑢𝑦 𝑎 𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑣𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑑.

𝑇𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑑𝑢𝑐𝑡.

𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑑𝑎𝑦.

𝑆𝑇𝑈𝐷𝑌 𝑇𝐼𝑃𝑆 𝐹𝑂𝑅 𝑇𝐻𝐼𝑆 𝑄𝑈𝐴𝑅𝑇𝐸𝑅

1. 𝑆𝑇𝐴𝑌 𝑂𝑅𝐺𝐴𝑁𝐼𝑍𝐸𝐷 :

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑠 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑁𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

𝐵𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑦 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑐ℎ𝑢𝑛𝑘𝑠.

2. 𝑀𝐴𝑋𝐼𝑀𝐼𝑍𝐸 𝐹𝑂𝐶𝑈𝑆 :

𝑆𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑦 𝑖𝑛 25- 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑢𝑡𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 5-𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑢𝑡𝑒 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘𝑠 (𝑃𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑑𝑜𝑟𝑜 𝑇𝑒𝑐ℎ𝑛𝑖𝑞𝑢𝑒).

𝐸𝑙𝑖𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑑𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠: 𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑛 𝑜𝑓𝑓 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠, 𝑐𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑘.

3. 𝑈𝑆𝐸 𝐴𝐶𝑇𝐼𝑉𝐸 𝑅𝐸𝐶𝐴𝐿𝐿 :

𝑄𝑢𝑖𝑧 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑎𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑟𝑒𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑠.

𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑙𝑎𝑠ℎ𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑞𝑢𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑟𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤𝑠.

4. 𝐶𝑅𝐸𝐴𝑇𝐸 𝐴 𝑆𝑇𝑈𝐷𝑌 𝑅𝑂𝑈𝑇𝐼𝑁𝐸 :

𝑃𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑑𝑢𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑑𝑎𝑦 (𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑟 𝑛𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡).

𝐾𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑦 𝑠𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡.

5. 𝑀𝐴𝐾𝐸 𝐼𝑇 𝐹𝑈𝑁 :

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑙𝑜𝑟𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘𝑦 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑠.

𝑃𝑙𝑎𝑦 𝑠𝑜𝑓𝑡 𝑚𝑢𝑠𝑖𝑐 𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑.

[thesophistiicate]

the secret to living a calm and confident life lies in being organised and prepared. when you are always scrambling, searching, stumbling, you create an energy of chaos. part of respecting yourself is adequately preparing yourself for what lies ahead, through organisation and practise.

[the-joy-of-knowledge]

Common Sense for women in their 20s

Define your raison d'être

Journal regularly, in fact daily

Figure out the right hairstyle for you

Buy clothes that fit your body type

Learn to do you own makeup if you'd like to wear it

Observe, observe, observe

Try to participate in the society

Know that not everything is within your control

Do not live in fantasy or fear, they are distractions

Read books

Learn to form you own opinion

Do not force friendships

Do not stress the small stuff

Spend time getting to know your self

Know women's history & History and use it to your advantage

Have some intellectual rigor

Create your own community

Find a third space

Take your vitamins

Your wellbeing and wellness should be your priority

Have role models for every area of your life

Have discretion

Do not be quick to anger

Have mentors and be a mentor to others

Your social skills will take you far

Be responsible, the world is not so forgiving to women

Know when to stand out

Know when to fit in

Curate your life to fit your goals and desires

Understand strategy and how best to use it to your advantage

Get acquainted with what maks the world go round

You have to climb socially

You need allies in areas where you want to win

Be kind

Be content with what you have, otherwise you will pay the price

[sugarsprinklesoul]

Abilities that will forever benefit you

The ability to walk away

The ability to manage your time

The ability to remain consistent

The ability to self analyze

The ability to learn how to learn

The ability to understand others

The ability to listen

The ability to express your thoughts and feelings

The ability to break down tasks

The ability to adapt

The ability to control your mind

The ability to ask for help

The ability to act upon facts not feelings

[successquotes]

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’

Mary Anne Radmacher

[soleauclub]

How to Be Social Without Becoming Overbooked

by Soleau Club

You don’t have to be the friend who’s always “so busy” just to feel connected. In fact, constantly overbooking yourself is the fastest way to feel resentful, burnt out, and weirdly disconnected from yourself.

Here’s how I’m doing soft, sexy socializing — without losing my peace (or needing three days to recover).

1. I Choose Vibes Over Obligations

Not every invitation deserves a yes. I literally ask myself:

Will this feel fun for my nervous system?

Do I actually want to see this person?

Would Future Me regret not going?

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hot girl no.

2. I Set My Social “Caps” Each Week

I decide ahead of time how many hangouts I actually have energy for that week. For me, it’s 2 max — 1 friend date and 1 group thing. That way, I’m not crowding out time for rest, workouts, grocery shopping in peace, or literally just vibing in my robe.

3. I Romanticize Small Moments of Connection

Not every catch-up needs to be a 4-hour dinner. I’ll send voice notes while on a walk, FaceTime a friend while making matcha, or walk to a cute café for 30 minutes of real talk. Low effort, high vibe.

4. I Say “Let Me Get Back to You” More

This phrase changed my life. You don’t owe anyone a real-time RSVP. I buy myself time to check in with my calendar and my energy levels. Spoiler: if they’re a real one, they won’t be mad.

5. I Don’t “Make Up” for Being MIA

I used to apologize for not texting back or not being free every weekend. Now I just show up when I can, fully present, no guilt. That’s hot girl energy.

Because friendship isn’t about constant availability — it’s about intentional connection.

6. I Protect My Weekends Like They’re My Hormones

Saturday and Sunday are sacred. If I book anything, it’s something nourishing: brunch with my favorite girls, a walk with a podcast twin flame, or a beach day where we all lie on towels and pretend we’re in a Sofia Coppola film. That’s it.

7. I Let Friendships Flow With the Seasons

Some friends are weekly, some are quarterly, some are annual wine-and-catch-up energy. I stopped trying to make every friendship fit the same schedule — and everyone’s happier for it.

8. I Trust That Saying “No” Isn’t Rejection, It’s Respect

Respect for myself, my energy, and the people I love. Because when I do show up, I’m not tired, checked-out, or secretly wishing I was home. I’m there, and I’m glowing.

You can be social and selective. Fun and free. A hot girl with boundaries is just a girl who glows longer.

Follow @soleauclub for more soft lifestyle edits, self-protective rituals, and dreamy living that doesn’t require burnout.

[theambitiouswoman]

How to Stop Procrastinating by Managing Your Emotions

Procrastination happens when we delay doing things, and it's often connected to our emotions. Feelings like being afraid to fail, feeling worried or stressed, getting bored, or lacking motivation can all contribute to procrastination. To stop procrastinating and get more things done, it's important to learn how to handle our emotions better.

Boredom:

Break the task into smaller, more engaging sub-tasks.

Find ways to make the task more interesting or challenging.

Set a timer and work on the task for a specific amount of time, followed by a short break doing something enjoyable.

Feeling Overwhelmed:

Prioritize tasks and focus on one thing at a time.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable steps.

Delegate some parts of the task if possible or seek help from others.

Use tools like to-do lists or task management apps to stay organized.

Anxiety:

Practice deep breathing or mindfulness techniques to calm yourself.

Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with more positive and realistic ones.

Start with the easier or less intimidating aspects of the task to build momentum.

Set realistic expectations and remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.

Self-Doubt:

Focus on past accomplishments and successes to boost your confidence.

Seek support or feedback from others to gain reassurance.

Remind yourself of your skills and capabilities to tackle the task.

Use positive affirmations to counteract negative self-talk.

Perfectionism:

Embrace the concept of "good enough" rather than seeking perfection.

Set realistic and achievable goals for each task.

Recognize that mistakes and imperfections are part of the learning process and growth.

Indecisiveness:

Break decisions into smaller steps and make one small decision at a time.

Set a time limit for making decisions to avoid overthinking.

Trust your instincts and make the best decision you can with the information available.

Apathy or Lack of Interest:

Find aspects of the task that align with your values or long-term goals.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable parts and focus on completing one at a time.

Reward yourself for completing the task to make it more appealing.

Stress or Burnout:

Practice stress-reduction techniques such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.

Break tasks into smaller steps to reduce the feeling of overwhelm.

Prioritize self-care and take breaks to avoid burnout.

Feeling Uninspired or Creatively Blocked:

Engage in activities that stimulate creativity, such as brainstorming, mind mapping, or seeking inspiration from others' work.

Start with a simple and basic version of the task to get the creative juices flowing.

Collaborate with others or seek feedback to gain new perspectives.

Fear of Success:

Identify and challenge the negative beliefs or fears that may be holding you back.

Visualize the positive outcomes of completing the task successfully.

Focus on the benefits and personal growth that come with success.

Impatience:

Break long-term goals into smaller milestones to track progress.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and patient throughout the process.

Remind yourself that progress takes time and effort.

Lack of Confidence:

Celebrate your past accomplishments to boost your confidence.

Seek support and encouragement from friends, family, or mentors.

Focus on building specific skills related to the task to increase confidence.

Avoiding Discomfort:

Acknowledge that discomfort is a natural part of growth and improvement.

Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle the more challenging aspects gradually.

Remind yourself of the long-term benefits of facing discomfort.

Overestimating Future Motivation:

Practice discipline and commit to starting tasks even when motivation is low.

Set specific deadlines for tasks to create a sense of urgency.

Establish a routine that includes regular work on the task to build consistency.