#Emotional Intellig

[hongkongartman-mlee]

Does Her Family Background Affect Jocelyn Choi, A Good Actress? The 3 Pieces Of Advice That She Gives To Anyone Who Wants To Get Into The Acting Field?

We often cannot figure out the purpose of an unexplainable passion. In that way, passion is perhaps the purpose. When you love what you do and do it persistently, passion will become destiny. There will be no regret about a failure if it is for passion. Passion is not chasing a rush. Passion is also not necessarily about making it to the finish line.  

The young actress in Hong Kong Jocelyn Choi (蔡頌思) told me, “I don’t know what I will ultimately look right. Right now, I enjoy acting and sacrifice for it without hesitation.” Jocelyn is the daughter of my senior alumna in Law School Janice Kwan and I run into her regularly since we both love art. Jocelyn’s father is the very well-known businessman in Hong Kong Mr Choi Koon Shum (蔡冠深).

Jocelyn has one elder brother and 3 younger brothers. Apart from her good family background, good education is one thing that no one can take away from her. She studied in the prestigious St Paul’s Co-educational College and completed a degree in English from the Chinese University of Hong Kong. She got an offer to further pursue drama education from the Hong Kong Academy for Performing Arts but Jocelyn suddenly got a job to act for the reputable Hong Kong Repertory Theatre. She gritted her teeth and bit the bullet: no more school! She thus entered the acting field.

Janice said helplessly to me, “I am sorry that our family background gave Jocelyn a hard time. People thought we pushed her to be a star. We financially invested in all her jobs. We were her domineering manager and she took up the artist position just for fun. These are absolutely misunderstanding. In fact, Jocelyn’s daddy was against the idea that she would become an actress! God creates boys and girls who have a thing called free will!”  

Jocelyn talks confidently and accurately, with a pair of clever eyes looking for the right words to say. I can feel she is a sensitive artist who can be very perceptive. If not being an actress, she could be an able business executive.

She articulated, “The advantage of being in an affluent family is that I don’t have to take money back home. I am given free accommodation and food so that I can follow my dreams. I know it is a luxury but it is also the reason that I must work harder. I must stress I am who I am and should not let my family background affect my chances for success. My passion in acting started during university days. I studied English literature and had many opportunities to take part in drama productions. Drama unlocked myself—my abilities, my creativity and my courage. I became determined to be a performing artist. After leaving university, I search online the invitations for audition and such pursuit was almost non-stop. I luckily found acting jobs one after another though tides could be high and low for me. I build up my career gradually. Gosh! I am still struggling and will not give up!”

I switched to another topic and asked, “Do you have any advice for a young girl who wants to act?” Jocelyn expressed her view, “Being an amateur actor is good fun. The real world is different. Entertainment business is extremely competitive and there are too many complicated human factors beyond our control. Frustrations can make you doubt yourself and cause depression. Always be positive and have high emotional intelligence. Tune in to what is facing you. Forget ungrounded criticism against you as dissing also brings ungrounded fear. When you believe you have reasoned reasonably, abide by your belief and make progress by keeping on trying!” 

She added a second point, “Luck is a shortform answer for ‘I have tried my best but cannot reach there’. As an actor, you must have talent, sacrifice a lot of time and are tortured by numerous uncertainties. Luck and destiny should not be the excuses for personal inaction. Luck is where opportunities meet your hard work and readiness. So, I incessantly asked people to give me opportunities of an audition so that I would prove to them that I might fit the role. I don’t feel anything like losing face. In life, there are bound to be someone more fortunate than me.” 

Jocelyn was still eating slowly her tiny bowl of soup, probably for weight control because we all think a good-looking actress must be slim. I would never forget the last thing that she said to me, “An actress should not be shy! I am shy in my own way and trying to overcome it. In the entertainment world, you need to try to be what you are not, sometimes. Try to explode like a volcano when people are around you and you must make them cheerful. In our profession, people and reporters usually like socially aggressive and pleasurable girls. Acting opportunity is often about initial connections and cultivating them over time. Again, I am learning from other good ones who can closely check in with their contacts, whether through telephone messages or gatherings, to show that they value the relationship with these people who can help them. Since I don’t change my goals, I can only adjust my style of getting along with others!” 

Making conversation with Jocelyn is enjoyable because she gives short and clear answers. Our fast-paced life has made junk foods a part of our lives. But, fast-paced conversations were wonderful because after I sat down to lunch, I suddenly found out that our happy time ended—albeit reluctantly. When young, do indulge in the exploits of youth, as this is a one-time luxury of everyone.

Maurice Lee

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Jocelyn Choi Official Music Video

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Jocelyn Choi Official Music Video

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[t-hiswifey]

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

[classycookiexo]

[the-joy-of-knowledge]

Common Sense for women in their 20s

Define your raison d'être

Journal regularly, in fact daily

Figure out the right hairstyle for you

Buy clothes that fit your body type

Learn to do you own makeup if you'd like to wear it

Observe, observe, observe

Try to participate in the society

Know that not everything is within your control

Do not live in fantasy or fear, they are distractions

Read books

Learn to form you own opinion

Do not force friendships

Do not stress the small stuff

Spend time getting to know your self

Know women's history & History and use it to your advantage

Have some intellectual rigor

Create your own community

Find a third space

Take your vitamins

Your wellbeing and wellness should be your priority

Have role models for every area of your life

Have discretion

Do not be quick to anger

Have mentors and be a mentor to others

Your social skills will take you far

Be responsible, the world is not so forgiving to women

Know when to stand out

Know when to fit in

Curate your life to fit your goals and desires

Understand strategy and how best to use it to your advantage

Get acquainted with what maks the world go round

You have to climb socially

You need allies in areas where you want to win

Be kind

Be content with what you have, otherwise you will pay the price

[ruushes]

very excited to be reaching new ground in act 3 and with it new opportunities to behave in the most deranged manner imaginable

[slayingfiction]

Feelings Wheel

This is the feelings wheel by Geoffrey Roberts, shown to me by my therapist. My initial thought was, "what amazing synonyms to use for diverse emotional vocabulary!"

More than that, this wheel is great for understanding your characters inner motivations and reactions to situations. For example, if a character constantly feels helpless, then their overarching characteristics will be that they are fearful.

Characters who are less emotionally aware may use words and act in the inner most circle. Those much more aware of their emotions may describe themselves or express and use words from the outer most circle.

Hopefully you guys find this as helpful as I did! Let me know down in the comments.

Happy Writing!

[shrimperini]

first batch of portal refs done!! the second will come soon (i hope) it will include spin off and mod characters as well :D

android AU: everything stays the same but the robots are more humanoid. thats it really xD

human AU: set in 2010. quite a few things change (i oc-ify the characters pretty much). the main things to note is that it’s a lot of what if scenarios. what if the resonance cascade in black mesa never happened, what if caroline had a daughter (gladys, so glados and caroline aren’t the same person in the AU. i wanted to explore the possibility of them being two separate people haha), what if the disk operating system project was put into halt and AI never took over. in the AU black mesa and aperture are still rivals in the development of teleportation technology, portals are still being experimented on, human test subjects are paid to test, they don’t go through cryo sleep stasis but live their life at aperture in dormitories (let me slice of life portal okay im self indulgent). Aperture still has questionable work ethics and morals but things work slightly more differently. Gladys is the CEO of aperture and she pushes for a lot of work to be done so they can surpass black mesa. Also important to note, Chell registers as a test subject for the cash deal but she also aims to investigate what really happened to her adoptive father who died at Aperture.

that’s the main essence of the au, still working on it and some plots here and there but, like most of my fandom aus, it’s really self indulgent slice of life crap LOL

if you have questions or feedback don’t hesitate to let me know! :>

[coffeebanana]

Sorry if some of these overlap a little/if I left out something obvious kajbdsjkd I tried my best haha. And that's why there's an "other" option!

[egophiliac]

Okay so I've been wanting to tell you that you're literally my favourite twst artist 😭🩷

So my question is, how do you manage to come up with these funny comics? CUZ I LOVE THEM SO MUCH

(P.s: Lovin' the art style ✨)

oh geeze, thanks! 💚💚💚 I'm really glad people enjoy my stupid sense of humor; mostly I just draw things to make myself laugh, and if it makes other people laugh too, then bonus points! usually it's just one joke or mental image that gets stuck in my head (every time I saw Fellow spin his cane, all I could think about was him go-go-gadgeting away on it...) and in my quest to justify it, it picks up other jokes and bits along the way and usually doesn't even end up as the main focus anymore. entire narrative arcs have spun out just so I could use a single bad pun in a throwaway line. this is a terrible way to explain it but I'm not sure how else to put it into words!

and sometimes it's just "weird things my sister has said that I make fun of her for"

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Embrace the truth

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[cascadiums]

Jonathan Harker knocked me flat with this one. his speculation that vampirism spreads because people willingly follow their loved ones into damnation is so affecting. and it's an insight that's so uniquely him. the gothic heroine in him can see Dracula's world in a way the others seemingly can't. he can look at the situation without any concerns of rationalism, honour, god, or any other facet of Victorian society, and reach this truth: we will walk into any horror for love

[crispinkiss]

i finished isat. so obviously i had to draw about 5 million siffrins to cope

[theambitiouswoman]

Emotionally healthy people are quitters ✨

Emotionally healthy people are quitters. They make choices that align with their well being. Quitting a relationship, partnership or job that makes you unhappy is a sign of self awareness. If someone stays in something bad for too long, it's not because they're strong, but because they're afraid or have low self esteem. Being emotionally healthy means having awareness, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to move on from situations that no longer serve you. It's about prioritizing your mental and emotional health over sticking with something that's causing you harm or making you unhappy.

Emotionally healthy people also tend to have good communication skills. They express their feelings and needs calmly, openly and honestly. They also look for guidance and enlightenment because they understand that seeking help is a sign of strength not weakness.

They make decisions out of self love rather than attachment or fear. When you prioritize loving yourself, you make choices that align with your happiness and growth, rather than staying in situations out of comfort or insecurity.

Recognizing when you have an unhealthy attachment or that your feelings may not be conducive to your well being is important. It allows you to take a step back, evaluate the situation objectively, and make choices that are in line with your best interests.

Sometimes holding on can lead to more pain and struggle than necessary. It's a sign of emotional maturity to recognize when a situation is no longer good for you and to have the strength to let it go.

Things that are genuinely right for you should not cause you harm or emotional pain. Choosing pain is a sign of a lack of self love. Recognizing the need for change, prioritizing self love, and making healthier choices is how you begin to change your life.

Reframe your mindset from “this is hurting me because I love it” to “this is hurting me because I do not love me.”

[courtingwonder]

Treat Emotions Like Visitors Who Are Just Passing Through

[the-joy-of-knowledge]

Becoming an Intelligent Woman

My Dears,

There is no greater goal than being a fine woman who is intelligent, kind, and elegant. As much as we all want to be described with these adjectives, it takes a great amount of discipline to get there. It is very doable only if you are ready to put in the work.

Here are steps you can add to your routine in the next 4 weeks that will make you 1% more intelligent than you were before. This is a process that should become a habit not a goal. It is long term, however, I want you to devote just 4 weeks into doing these steps first and recognize the changes that follow.

Watch documentaries: This is the easiest step, we all have access to Youtube. Youtube has a great number of content on art, history, technology, food, science etc that will increase your knowledge and pique your curiosity. I really did not know much about world history especially from the perspective of World war 1 & 2, the roaring 20s, Age of Enlightenment, Jazz era, monarchies etc but with several channels dedicated to breaking down history into easily digestible forms. I have in the last 4 weeks immersed myself into these documentaries. Here are a few I watched:

The fall of monarchies

The Entire History of United Kingdom

The Eight Ages of Greece

World War 1

World War 2

The Roaring '20s

The Cuisine of the Enlightenment

2. Read Classics: I recommend starting with short classics so that you do not get easily discouraged. Try to make reading easy and interesting especially if you struggle with finishing a book. Why classics? You see, if you never went to an exclusive private school in Europe or America with well crafted syllabus that emphasized philosophy, history, art, and literary classics, you might want to know what is felt like and for me this was a strong reason. Asides that, there is so much wisdom and knowledge available in these books. In these books, you gain insights to the authors mind, the historical context of the era, the ingenuity of the author, the hidden messages, and the cultural impact of these books. Most importantly, you develop your personal philosophy from the stories and lessons you have accumulated from the lives of the characters in the books you read. Here are classics to get you started:

Animal Farm by George Orwell

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë

The Great Gatsby by F Scott Fitzgerald

Candide by Voltaire

Paradise lost by John Milton

3. Study the lives of people who inspire you: I dedicate one month to each person that fascinates me. I read their biography (date of birth, background, death, influences, work, style, education, personal life) For this month, I decided to study Frank Lloyd Wright because I was fascinated by the Guggenheim Museum in New York. I began to read about his influence in American Architecture (Organic architecture, Prairie School, Usonian style), his tumultuous personal life, his difficult relationship with his mentor (Louis Sullivan), his most iconic works etc. By the end of the year I would have learned the ins and outs of people I am inspired by through books and documentaries. Here are other people I plan to learn more about:

Winston Churchill

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

Ada Lovelace

Benjamin Franklin

Helen Keller

John Nash

Isabella Stewart Gardner

Caroline Herrera

Ernest Hemingway

Catherine the Great

Ann Lowe

My dears, I hope you enjoyed this read. I cannot wait to write more on my journey to becoming a fine woman. I urge you to do this for four weeks and see what changes you notice. Make sure to write as well, it is important to document your progress.

Cheers to a very prosperous 2024!