#demiromantic questioning

[theporcelainjester]

With Valentines day coming up, I really start to think again. Okay, so,

I recently discovered the fact that I'm aromantic, or at least along the spectrum. It should have been obvious really, yes I am heavily attracted to women physically- I don't see dating as much more than...brief entertainment. Everytime I break up with someone it's more of a 'well, what now?' I have to find another play to put on.

I have the desire to date, but I don’t know if that’s simply I like the idea of it or if I actually want to be that close with someone. I don’t think I've ever met anyone who's really worth being close to like that. And then my sister talking about her crush. As I listened, I couldn't help but go 'wait..people actually feel that?' It was odd, it was foreign. And while I've experienced something similar once- that was with a fictional character. Has my attachment to this character hindered my ability to become romantically interested in people? Or is that just another feeling I lack?

Most of the time I'm really not bothered by my single status, it comes with a bit of relief honestly. I know I'm a lot to handle, I can barely handle myself. I don’t know if I can or even want to meet the needs of a partner. Though sometimes, I see couples and think 'damn, I want that'. But is it just the aesthetic of having a romantic partner? I can't tell. Honestly, I just wanted to get this off my chest. I've got a lot going on both internally and externally, and while I want to talk to someone I also don’t want to directly talk if that makes sense.

I like l scream into the void in that way, it does what I need. Also, I'm not gunna proofread this to make sure it even makes sense because fuck you. But to anyone it makes sense to, maybe it brings comfort or at least the feeling of not being alone on an issue. After all, misery loves company.

-Jester

Smile, tomorrow will be terrible

[buddieinmybeddie]

LGBTQ+ folk what was your gender/sexuality pipeline?

[quartz-the-cosmic-manta]

I know that I'm ace, but after I realized that 2 years ago, I've been on and off wondering if I'm somewhere on the aro spectrum as well. I feel like demiromantic might fit, but for some reason I feel weird about "officially labeling" that experience or whatever. it was so easy for me to accept my asexuality, why is this so difficult?

trying to be logical (is that something you do with stuff like this??), but since it takes a while for me to consider someone my friend, it would make sense for me to feel the same way for romantic attraction/relationships. right??

also like, I've only had one partner/boyfriend and we were a couple for almost the entirety of high school. it took a year or so before our first kiss, and only started telling each other "I love you" a few months before he broke up with me.

It's OK to not be completely sure what you're experiencing, it's OK to take a best guess or not label it at all.

[laurellala-comics]

Fun fact! This was the real tipping point that made Edgeworth run away after AA1, they just couldn't show it on screen because they didn't have the rights to Chappell Roan's music <3

(A spiritual successor to my "Hot to Go" joke from this post. Image description under the cut below)

[Image ID: a four page black and white comic of characters from ace attorney.

The Judge stands solemnly at his podium holding a gavel "Mr. Miles Edgeworth, you are on trial for the murder of blah blah blah..."

A cheerful Maya Fey leans over to Miles Edgeworth, who is staring straight ahead and looking very concerned

Maya: "Psst! Mr. Edgeworth! If you win your trial, can I show you Chappell Roan?

Miles: "What the hell, sure." Internally he thinks "Oh God I am going to jail"

A box saying "later" in the top corner of the next panel marks the passage of time.

The Judge smiles as he says "I declare you... Not Guilty!"

We see a full body shot of Maya dancing excitedly while Miles looks on, emotionless

Maya: YIPPEE omg you're going to LOVE this

Miles internally thinks "oh no, the consequences of my actions.

We see Miles standing in between Phoenix Wright and Maya looking apprehensive. Maya beams in excitement, while Nick puts a reassuring hand on Miles' shoulder

Miles: Alright, so what is this exactly?

Nick: She's a pop musician Maya really likes

Maya: You promised you'd let me show you, and it's legally binding because you said it in a court room!

Miles: That is not how the law works Ms. Fey

Maya: Shh just listen!

We see a panel of Miles' pensive face concentrating as he listens to "Hot to Go". He thinks to himself "hm".

Another panel zoomed in more. His pensive expression has grown more tense/confused as he listens to "Red Wine Supernova". he again thinks to himself "Hm" in a larger thought bubble.

We zoom out again to see Nick, Miles, and Maya standing together again. Miles stares forward blankly, eyebrows raised. Maya excitedly leans in.

Maya: Ok, that's her whole discography. So! What did you think?

Nick looks at him, waiting for his response

We get a panel of Miles, looking bewildered. He starts to speak "I..."

We cut again to see the three of them standing together.

Miles: I... don't think I like women?

Miles looks shocked and confused. Nick is bent over laughing, using a hand on Miles's shoulder to support himself. Maya looks outraged and appalled!

Maya: MR. EDGEWORTH! Just because you don' like her musi it doesn't give you an excuse to be sexist!

We see a panel of Miles looking stressed and confused. He leans his head on one of his hands, which messes up his hair, showing how he isn't his normal put together self.

Miles: I should rephrase that. What I mean is, Ms. Roan is clearly VERY assured in her feelings towards women. I was... unaware that anyone felt that strongly. I thought we all viewed these things with a vague sense of distaste and unease but collectively ignored it. Like how we do with climate change.

We zoom out again to see the three of them. Miles stands in the middle looking deeply uncomfortable and lost in thought, vibrating with unease. Nick and Maya exchange deeply concerned glances across from him.

With lingering unease, Miles begins to walk away.

Miles: Well, I should be going then. Goodnight.

Nick hesitantly raises a finger to point out an inaccuracy in that statement

Nick: It's four in the afternoon-

he gets interrupted by Miles who repeats firmly: I said Goodnight

Nick looks in the direction Miles walked off in.

Nick: ...He'll be ok, right?

Maya reassures him: Of cours Nick! I mean, what's the worst that can happen?

Jump cut to a closeup of Nick's hand holding Miles' letter which reads Miles Edgeworth chooses death in all caps. Then, below in smaller font, it says Also femininomenon was really good, thanks.

We see a panel of Nick glaring wordlessly at Maya as he holds the letter in his hand. Maya leans against the wall and looks away, whistling, trying to look innocent to avoid blame.

As a bonus, we also have a page that takes place a year later. Miles and Nick stand talking. Miles looks calmer now, and Nick smiles encouragingly.

Miles: In my time in Europe, I've been examining myself and my approach to law. Ultimately, the most important focus must be justice. We owe it to ourselves and to the people we serve

Nick: Wow, that's really inspiring Edgeworth. And, uh, hows the... the other thing going?

We get a zoomed in panel of Miles glaring menacingly at a suddenly nervous Nick

Jumping out again, Miles turns his back to Nick as he continues to talk

Miles: So as I was saying, justice is truly so important...

Nick nervously rubs the back of his neck wearing an awkward expression as he sweats nervously. He thinks to himself internally "Ooookay then, clearly still working through some things there"

/.End ID]

[linkcharacter]

Oh I have so many thoughts on aroace Curly, I think it brings so much on the table when analyzing the game's story.

Amanormativity ties in with the reoccurring mentions of the nuclear family, from Wrong Organ making 1950s mock advert posters, to Swansea talking about how getting a wife and kids didn't bring him any fulfillment in life.

In the cake cutting nightmare sequence, where Jimmy talks with Dream Curly about the mediocre cake, Dream Curly begins to talk about how sometimes you can only get the subpar stuff in live. Sometimes he'll get promoted, buy a house, fall in love. But other times he'll just have some awful fucking cake with his friend.

I think there is that subtle implication that Jimmy does buy into Amanormativity, with him projecting his beliefs on Dream Curly that a platonic relationship is lesser then a romantic one. But we never see Curly suggesting that he wants such a thing in the pre-crash.

With Jimmy thinking that Curly has everything in life, except for the desire (although I think Jimmy would view it as Curly not having the skills for it) to get a romantic partner, he would heavily lean into getting the one thing that Curly couldn't get in life to one up him.

THATS EXACTLY WHAT IM THINKING!!! AMATONORMATIVITY BE DAMNED!!!!

Looking at Mouthwashing through an aroace lens is interesting

"Jimmy thinking that Curly has everything in life, except for the desire", well said, well said! And references to the nuclear family fit in very cleanly thematically for Mouthwashing.

Jimmy leaning into amatonormativity is a smart observation. Jim internalizes all the social norms and standards on what you have to do to have a normal and desirable life, who sees everything Curly has and what Jimmy wishes he had, and is offended that Curly isn't satisfied, that he has the "audacity" to be unhappy. Curly meanwhile only wishes for his life to be something he doesn't have to run from, because by all means, he has already reached a point where he should feel accomplished, but isn't. Curly doesn't want to be a freighter captain his whole life, he doesn't want to settle with his sustainable position, he just wants to be happy. Like Swansea who has reached the "ideal" outcome of his life, having a wife, kids and a good career, it will never feel as good as embracing all what society deems undesirable yet right for you.

Jimmy does imply to seeing himself as lesser as a friend, "fall in love" being a goal and a "cake with a friend" being something he "has to settle for", it's all in the subtleties with underlying themes of "what you're "supposed to want" by society's expectations" against "what feels right for you". Jimmy is frustrated that Curly is going to "leave the dirt behind him", when in actuality, letting the crew and him go is the last thing Curly wants. Curly wants to be with his friends, he deeply cares about his crew, and about his close friend.

Mouthwashing as a whole reads to me as platonic through and through. Swansea and Daisuke having such a meaningful familial bond, Curly and Anya being sweet, playful and caring without romance, Anya and Daisuke having something of a siblings dynamic are dear to me. Also it's really rare to get to see representations of "toxic friendship" in media. Its always toxic romance this, toxic yaoi that, toxic family there, however in reality, friendships aren't excluded from being as rotten and abusive as the others, yet they're often overlooked. Jim and Curly are especially unique in this way. It's very impressive how they managed to showcase Jimmy's mistreatment of Curly in such a platonic way (at least that how I read it). Jim too, like Curly, in general avoids hints at romance and attraction explicitly related to him during his gameplay, not with Curly, nor with Anya (dear god thanks for that at least). It's all spite, annoyance and parasitizing off of these two. (That man's dry and lowkey hates everyone and everything) No attraction attached, no desires except hoping it hurts.

Curly to me is very much aroace, or at least on the spectrum. Like, the trivia fact that one of Curly's fondest memories is that of his friends putting in effort to make a shitty awful cake, tells us all we need to know on how dear his friends are to him. Platonic relationships mean so much to Curly, even when it's Jimmy fucking Mouthwashing, the worst friend ever imaginable.

[ultrainfinitepit]

Sharing some Pride Angels that were made in pairs 🌈

Bisexual and Omnisexual

Gay and Lesbian

Genderqueer and Questioning

Aromantic and Asexual

Achillean and Sapphic

Demiromantic and Demisexual

Genderfae and Genderfaun

Toric and Trixic

Cupioromantic and Cupiosexual

And of course, the Queerplatonic pairs (main and alternate)

If you like these designs, check out the Pride Angels campaign to help fund them as stickers, pins, and more✨

[quartz-the-cosmic-manta]

tbh I needed this today. I really think I may be demiromantic, but this type of stuff has made me question if I actually am or not. thank you

this post is for the demispec people (and for the demispec people who tried to fit in)

for those who don't know, demiromantic/demisexual mean that you only experience romantic/sexual attraction to someone after forming an emotional bond with them.

this is for the demi people who never understood the idea of celebrity crushes. (and for the demi people who picked a randomly celebrity to "like" to fit in.)

this is for the demi people who felt bad for not reciprocating feelings for a person who liked them. (and for the demi people who were known for "having high standards" for never dating anyone.)

this is for the demi people who always sat out spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven at parties. (and for the demi people who participated in those games to fit in.)

this is for the demi people who take years to develop feelings for someone. (and for the demi people who take even longer.)

this is for the demi people who worry about making friends because they fear eventually developing feelings for them. (and for the demi people who have or have had feelings for their friends.)

this is for the demi people who are told "everyone needs to know someone before liking them, you're not special" by society.

this is for the demi lesbians, the demi gays, the demi bi people, the demi pan people, the demi trans people, the demi enbies, and all demi people who use the demi label along with other sexualities and genders. (and for the demi people who don't, and are just demi.)

if you are demiromantic, demisexual, or both, you are valid.

[Image ID: The demisexual and demiromantic flags, respectively. /.End ID]

[justdavina]

Sexy Cross-Dresser!

[sentient-softdrink]

Please stay safe

Please stay safe

It gets better please

[avenpt]

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[naydralikessoup]

hello aromantics/questioning/curious if you are wondering what it's like to be in love it's sort of like being totally obsessed with a movie, tv show, book, game, etc. but it's a person. like you can't stop thinking about them and it brings you so much joy to do so. that's always been a much clearer sign of being "in love" than a specific warm feeling or any sexual aspect. that's not the only part of romance, but it's the thing that, to me, most differentiates it from friendship, though, of course, you can define your relationships however you like. (and this obsessive period doesn't last forever (in my experience), and that doesn't mean your feelings or your relationship are no longer romantic in nature, it just means you might have to readjust)

the other thing that really sets romance apart is its ability to change your perception of a person and of reality surrounding them. it warps your judgement by making you believe perhaps that the object of affection is perfect, or perfect for you, or even just really great and cool, perhaps possessing traits in your perception they don't in reality. it's very subtle about it, so you might not notice at first. and that's just my experience, of course

i hope this isn't too strange a thing to post---i just remembered how i would have loved when i was younger for someone to describe what romance was like. i feel i've done a very incomplete job, but it's something

-a demiromantic serial blorbo liker

[forthesageofpete]

HAPPPYY PRIDE TO ALL THE QUEERS (and non queers)!!!!

HAPPY PRIDE LESBIANS, GAYS, PANS, BIS, OMNIS,ABROS, ACES, AROS, AROACES (including the entire umbrella), DEMISEXUAL/ROMANTIC,POLYS, POLYAMOROUS, MLM'S, WLW, NBLM, NBLW,NBLW, UHHHH LITERALLY ANY OTHER SEXUALITY/ATTRACTIONS I CANT THINK OF ANYMORE

HAPPY PRIDE TRANS, INTERSEX, GENDER FLUIDS, GENDER QUEERS, AGENDERS, NON BIS, XENOGENDERS, TWO SPIRTS, PANGENDERS, BIGENDERS, MULTIGENDER, DEMIBOY, DEMIGIRL, DEMIGENDER,QUESTIONING, TRIGENDER,POLYGENDER, ETC (I CAN'T NAME ALL BUT JUST KNOW HAPPY PRIDE EVERYONE!!)

AND TO THE SUPPORTIVE ALLIES, AND THE CISHETS, HAPPY PRIDE!!!

(and POC queers, and disabled queers)

[sofivicfest]

I find lowk weird when in fandom spaces (or even with ocs) people will make characters ace or aroace and that's cool ofc, but I almost never see someone make a character just aro. When a character is aro they also have to be ace for some reason. People who experience sexual attraction but little or no romantic attraction exist too. People just think having sex with no romance is problematic or sinful or something istg😭

[heavells-corprate-officail]

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I now can't stop typing in rainbow and I put a intersex-inclusive progress pride flag on my pfp :3

The owner of this blog is boyflux, abrosexual and demiromantic so yeah I hate homophobia and transphobia :3

[brosif40]

The every week question of I might be aroace bc aauyggh I don't really care for either thing irl.

I guess I've just been calling myself pan because I never really cared about it? I just assumed I liked any gender and wasn't just neutral towards everyone- Idk

I'm going to try out the label for a little bit to see how I feel because it feels more right in a way 🫶