#mindfulleating

[sadclowncentral]

while i was trying to wade through the large amounts of people trying to leave the central subway station, everyone abruptly came to a halt in front of the subway turnstiles. two french girls had misunderstood the tap-out process, and one of them was now stuck behind the gate. as i was wracking my brain on how to explain the tap-in tap-out process of the milan metro to both of them with my rudimentary french while they both got increasingly upset at the closed gate between them, a young teenager suddenly pushed me to the side.

i was just about to give him my most scathing disgruntled glare when he took out his ticket and, after realizing they had no common language, started gesticulating wildly in front of the french girl left behind. he pointed at the ticket, then at her, and very seriously said: “on three, we go.” she nodded, and after he counted to three, holding up his fingers so there could be no confusion, they sprinted through the gate together, giggling profusely afterwards as if they had just pulled off the heist of the century,

it was just a small moment during the morning commute. but i realized then and there that the time i had spent trying to intellectualize the problem and wondering if my lack of language skills would be awkward the situation could have already been resolved. and that while i had been mad about being pushed aside, the teenager got it exactly right: no questions, no fear or shyness, just direct action to help where you can and rushing there to do so. i think about him every time now when i run to lift someone’s pram or ask a lost looking person if they need my help despite the fear of being rude. on three, we go.

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Happy (late) Moth Monday everyone!

What's that? Why yes, I do love The Owl House. Why do you ask?

This is my reminder to you that no self-love can begin without challenging and (often) reframing self-loathing.

[chronicallycouchbound]

PSA: Please don’t ask participants to do grounding/mindful/somatic/etc practices at your events

Grounding exercises should not be an activity in large group settings, especially unsolicited and without warning, especially if you’re not aware of every single person in the space’s mental health conditions, physical health conditions, and personal relationship to their body.

Practices such as mindfulness, grounding, somatic exercises, breathing techniques, body scans, etc. are very helpful therapeutic tools to help manage stress. They can (and do!) help plenty of people– when taught safely and used effectively!

HOWEVER for people with conditions that cause psychosis and/or dissociative conditions such as depersonalization/derealization, these techniques are contraindicated and can make their symptoms significantly worse. They should only be used with guidance from their mental health team and adapted to their needs. For people with conditions like anxiety and PTSD, being aware of breathing can trigger a trauma response or anxiety attacks.

And for people with conditions that cause chronic pain or other uncomfortable bodily sensations, becoming re-centered with their bodies can cause more awareness of the pain they are in, which a level of (ideally functional) dissociation is actually helpful. For people in wheelchairs and powerchairs, touching the ground beneath their feet isn’t always an option. For people with cardiac and pulmonary conditions, deep breathing can be impossible or can trigger asthma attacks. For disabled people in general, doing body scans can be impossible due to paralysis or limb differences. They can bring awareness to things the person wasn’t aware were wrong to begin with (which is helpful in certain spaces, but not a great ice breaker at a retreat!)

And for trans people, binders and other garments can restrict breathing, and taking repeated deep breaths while binding can cause rib damage (which is why you shouldn't bind at night, while coughing from sickness, while exercising, etc). Becoming centered in a body that makes you dysphoric can be deeply distressing, again, a level of functional dissociation helps.

This also goes for plenty of other people in marginalized bodies, such as people of color, people who use substances, queer people, and more. Becoming grounded in your own marginalized body can be a heavy weight to carry, and needs appropriate and individualized care to be a beneficial experience.

As an alternative, I suggest doing a round of gratitudes instead, it allows for people to choose their level of vulnerability in spaces, while not being generally contraindicated for many people. Doing fun (and appropriate to the setting) icebreakers are great. Ask what brings someone to the space. Check-ins about basic needs such as if people need to use the restroom, eat, drink water, are rested, etc. can be more appropriate body check-ins for folks to do.

I don’t recommend doing these exercises even with a warning beforehand. If I'm in the room while someone is leading a breathing exercise, even if I try to ignore it, I (and most people) would automatically become aware of my breathing. The same goes for any other techniques. These techniques can cause real, life-threatening levels of harm for some people, and can even just be deeply uncomfortable or distressing for others. Dissociation is not inherently evil or bad or harmful. It is the way the body and mind naturally respond to adverse experiences (note: it can also cause distress and at higher levels, can be disordered) it is best to allow people to exist as they are in communal spaces. Let people show up as they are.

Most spaces are not equipped or appropriate to respond to emergencies, difficult feelings, and all the varied responses that can come from folks doing mindfulness in group settings.

I personally do some things before large gatherings and events to feel centered on the activity I’ll be doing, and afterward, I decompress. Encourage participants to lean on their natural supports and offer suggestions for it! Be creative in your caring!

This also doesn’t mean to discourage these practices! If you see someone doing deep breathing, check in with them, offer a space for them to decompress, care for them! Worksheets or posters on techniques like square breathing and 5 senses check-ins are great for a quiet room or spaces where participants can decide if they want/are able to engage with those tools. It should be a fully consensual opt-in, rather than being forced to opt-out. Having to leave a room when a group leader says “We’re going to start a mindful breathing meditation, please feel free to leave if you have psychosis, chronic pain, or are trans” is obviously othering and outs people.

Sincerely, someone who has psychotic symptoms, dissociation, chronic pain, is trans and whose body is marginalized in many ways and is really tired from trying to explain this at every event I go to

[fuzzyghost]

[nocek]

A little continuation in my Gabriella lives au that already happened here and here.

So my another little headcanon, besides that Miguel is awkwardly attempting here to sorta adopt Gwen and is trying to figure out how to convince her to go back to school, is the night routine.

So Miguel (who read too many parenting guides* to catch up quickly and not fuck up this precious child) strongly believes in leading by example. So since he wants Gabriella to have good sleeping habits after her nightly routine he also goes to sleep at sensible hour. But he can't sleep through whole night so when he wakes up at ungodly hour he does some light work not to wake up her.

Then he prepares breakfast and bento (he totally had to learn to cook, you can't convince me otherwise) and with time he started having a little fun with it and then it became kinda hobby. It helps him wind down so that after he sends Gabriella to school he is actually able to take an extra 1-2 hour nap.

(* as in parenting guides for child of Gabriella age, totally clueless what to do with a traumatized teenager but after the denial he probably will do the homework)

[leternumo]

my head full of green goop

[rainybyday]

I like to think Hatake's sees hair as a sort of sign of affection. Like, anything with hair is a sign of affection to them.

Head pats, fondness. Brushing hair, close relationship. Doing your hair, you are their closest person.

Like, they see playing or caring for your hair as a sign of affection through caring for you.

To touch your hair is like a cautious sign of fondness to see the person's reaction to the touch. If they are positive they keep doing it until they can card their fingers through your hair. If you respond negatively they would be slower and respectfully of your space and ask you if it's fine to pat your hair or hover a hand over your head before you lean into it.

Playing with one's hair means that they are putting trust in the person that they won't ruin it nor that you will damage it. A show of trust that Hatakes take to see if they have any form of malice or tension based on the person who is playing with their hair seems to care for them. If they pull or tug harshly and keep doing it then it means you don't care for their well being. But if you apologize and learn to be more gentle then it shows that you are being considerate of the person.

Styling or doing one's hair is like the ultimate show of claim a Hatake can make on a person, letting someone touch or do their hair is the second stage of trust before they do it themselves to the person they care for. Because then it shows that you are allowing them to care for you and love you in a personal way. To let a Hatake do your hair, whether that's brushing it or doing a complicated style is a show of a claim or sorts.

Of course, a Hatake will judge you by how well they care for your hair. The best hair care is usually shiny or silky, even fluffy or soft on the claimed, and a well-cared-for Hatake can be seen in the same way.

I just thought of this as Kakashi doing Sakumos hair a lot into a simple ponytail since that was the only style he learned to do correctly and Sakumo always loved it. But when the mission happened and Kakashi was coming home less, Sakumo's hair became loose and unkept which he took as a sign his pack didn't care for him nor trust him anymore.

I imagine Kakashi seeing Sakumos body with his silver hair spread all over the floor when Sakumo cut chunks of it off before killing himself. The person who found Kakashi and Sakumo saw Kakashi brushing out the tangles of the messily cut hair on his dads dead body.

Then I like to think of how Kakashi would pat his student's heads from time to time and I smile.

If we go the Hatake Tobirama and Hashirama route I like to think Hashirama always had his long soft and shiny hair due to Tobi brushing it daily. Even styles it for important events or for practices. Tobirama use to have long hair to but saw how much his brother struggled with it so he cut it short to help him with caring for it. Hashirama was devastated and felt guilty so he would work to make plant oils like rosemary lavender or coconut and almond oils to make his brothers hair shiny and smooth.

Anyways, hair care! Hair care the love language.

[khylamarieren]

Femininity is not the absence of strength. It is the confidence and deliberate act of being exactly who God created you to be. Women are powerful in their softness, their nurturing spirit, their creativity, and their childlike wonder. A caring heart towards the people around them is often more impactful than stepping into a setting for the sole reason of trying to prove their worth to men or for the sake of proving their independence/value in some material form. Regardless of what the world says women ought to be in this age, I would like to be warm, gentle, a lover, and a friend. The creator of a home, and the giver of peace &  joy to those I love. It’s okay to want to be a feminine woman.

[postmariannizm]

very demure very mindful

Snape: See how I didn't avada kedavra Potter when he was being a brat ? Very demure, very mindful. I don't do too much. I'm very mindful while I'm at work. See how I act? Very presentable. A lot of you girls go to the classroom, giving points to Gryffindor, fawning over the Potter, not demure. Other teachers:

[eliounora]

my therapist told me to start a gratitude journal. I said no. she said it's scientifically proved to work because repeatedly looking for things to be happy about builds new neural pathways and therefore you become happier. I said well fuck, what am I, a flat-earther antivaxxer who doesn't believe in science? so now I'm out here writing stuff like "the sun felt nice on my skin" in my little notebook. bah!

[silent--symphony]

Your Focus and Energy are your currencies.

[soulhealingastrologywithamanda]

Today’s Astrology - May 2nd, 2025

After 7 long months, Mars finally leaves its post-retrograde shadow—marking the official end of a that healing cycle that began back in October 2024. The fiery stagnation lifts, and we’re cleared to move forward with renewed momentum. No more spinning wheels—just action. But the cosmos isn’t done yet… Venus conjunct Neptune in Aries adds a daring, mystical charge to this time. This rare alignment (last seen 165 years ago!) blurs logic and amplifies intuition—pushing us to act on faith, even when the path isn’t fully clear.

Key Themes & Energies:

*Mars Leaves the Shadow: Forward Momentum–FINALLY!!! -The frustrating delays, second-guessing, and backtracking (since Mars’ retrograde cycle that started last year) are over. -Where have you felt stuck in a loop? Today, you’re unstuck.

*Action Step: -Revisit a goal or project you’ve paused, or it faded out—this is your green light.

*Venus Conjunct Neptune in Aries: Scared but brave -A once-in-a-lifetime cocktail of inspiration (Neptune) and bold actions toward desires (Venus in Aries).

*You may feel: “This is too big for me” (Neptune’s overwhelm) “But I HAVE to try” (Venus in Aries’ relentless pull)

*The Message: -If it scares you AND excites you, it’s likely soul-aligned.

*The Paradox: Clarity Through the Fog -Neptune’s haze can make things feel uncertain, but it also dissolves fear of failure.

*Ask Yourself: -What’s the one thing I’m being called to do—even if I don’t feel ‘ready’? -Where have I been waiting for ‘perfect�� conditions? What if I just… began?

*Final Thought: -Today is not about having all the answers. It’s about trusting the pull and moving despite the fear. Mars’ drive + Venus-Neptune’s magic to act = your cosmic permission slip to begin before you’re ready

[punkpandapatrixk]

gosh, eat well, darling~

you deserve that~

[archiemcphee]

Our Meditating Cactuses have tiny little cact-asses!

[ivyandana]

PILATES, YOGA, BARRE, AND SOLIDCORE!!!

Hi girlies! lets talk wellness. I love working out and moving my body so naturally I have been a gym girlie, to a pilates girlie, to a yoga girlie... ive done it all! I swear lol. trying all these different workouts out gave me the best workout routine ever!

3 solid core classes/week

1 hot vinyasa yoga/week

1-2 at home pilates inspired workout/week

SolidCore is my FAVORITE. it's a Pilates inspired workout that gives you one of the hardest challenges in your life! I can definitely say after 5 classes you feel super strong and your body just feels so much better! since its a core focused workout, ive noticed a huge decrease in bloating and overall helped me achieve toned stomach, arms, and legs! it is most definitely a lot harder than pilates!

when I was in my yoga era, I fell in love with vinyasa. basically a practice of yoga that involves a continuous flow. my local yoga studio, offers a HIIT Vinyasa in a 99 degree room. its the best strength building class that will make you sweat and stretch at the same time.

to keep the consistency, I do a couple workouts at home in between my classes. ive done barre and traditional pilates at a studio but ive noticed that those workouts can easily be done any home AND WE ALL KNOW THESE CLASSES ARE EXPENSIVE ASF!!! so I barre/pilates inspired classes at home! these are some of my favorite videos to follow along! I promise they work just as great!

-ANASTACIA

[pemdas-chicken-nugget]

day 38!

horror looks wierd🤔