#plural aro culture

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture in a system is feeling weird and confused about one of the other people having romantic feelings

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[silverwanderingcrow]

[insert thing here]-culture-is blogs are my life source tbh

[just-aro]

y'all have no idea how much effort goes into trying to interpret and respond to some of the questions we get about aromanticism lol.

like kee does so much tonal phrasing to be nice about this, but. please. "what is aromantic?" i am not google. "i don't know if i feel romantic attraction." cool, i'm not gonna be able to tell you what it feels like either. "hi, what if I am a person and not one of the major aro stereotypes?" then you are a person who is aro and doesn't fit that stereotype.

and like, whatever, we deal with those fine. but the worst. the absolute worst. is the ones where the ask is more or less requesting me to speak for aromantic people as a whole, or - worse and more commonly - a specific subset of aro people who i may not identify with, and almost always insist they aren't trying to be bad, but have such a questionable mindset behind it that i feel like i need to start with "how to identify that you haven't unlearned shit, you just realized you have an identity and stuck your tongue out at the people who taught you that shit"

[aroallo-culture-is]

Plural Aro Culture is being confused when your headmates fall in romantic love.

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[tommyssupercoolblog]

okay so let me check my notes umm... according to fakclaimers:

systems can only be kids because it only develops then, but also can only be adults over 20 or so because otherwise you're making it up for tiktok OR wouldn't possibly know yet, and you have to be diagnosed with DID/OSDD but you also have to be truamagenic or the diagnosis doesn't count even if it comes from a doctor, and if you're truamagenic but self diagnosed then you're lying or confused. if you're truamagenic AND diagnosed then you're a freak and dangerous to the public OR you have to live in secret or else you must be lying. you can't be plural on purpose through thoguhtform because then you're making yourself disabled and that's fetishizing but you also can't be plural against your will UNLESS you met the previous critera otherwise that wouldn't happen to you. and you can't call yourself a t-pla ever even though the controvery is around cultural appropriation and a stranger has no clue over the internet if you have the right to reclaim, which you VERY WELL MIGHT. but if you call yourself a thoughform you're cringe and too woke. if you're endogenic you can't call yourself a system but you also can't call yourself plural or a collective or anything else. If you're mixed-orgin you're just a confused truamagenic or a lying endogenic.

You also can't have introjects because that's cringe and cringe means you're lying but you also can't have original alters because then you're just roleplaying as OCs. as an introject you can't hate your source or be neutral because then why would you introject?? but you can't love them or else you're just a crazy fan pretending to be them. as an original alter you can't be TOO different from the original or that's just something out of a movie but you can't be alike because then you're not really an alter.

You can't have only nice alters who get along together because then you're faking and if you have alter conflict then you need to be locked up because you're probably a serial killer. and you have to only have split when you were little and can't split ever again even though that's something that happens all the time even past people's 20s, and you can't have any other disorder or you're just wrong about being plural, and you can't hate being plural because then you're attention seeking and clearly must be pretending to have a disorder for pity, and you can't love being plural because you're not allowed to love having a disorder or disability, and you can't be neutral about it because why the fuck wouldn't you have a big reaction to being so weird?? you're weird. so you must be lying about being weird because everyone else finds this shocking and disturbing or fascinating and surely so would you.

and you can't not date because then you're missing out (even if ur aro, ace, or aroace mostly) and you can't date because then you're abusing your partner and lying to them by being multiple people since you're clearly just one OR you're making them date strangers which is also bad, and you can't date another system because you can't know other systems personally or else you're all fakers, and you can't date in-headspace because that's too weird to be true. you can't all be striaght because that's unrealistic so you're faking but if your alters all have different sexualities that's a sure sign you're faking and just making up OCs and if you're all gay then you're ALSO faking and just trying to be Jefferson Miku Binder Woke and are a cringe SJW. You can't all be the same gender but you can't be different genders either and you can't have individual labels but if you id as genderfluid or pluralgender or something collective that's cringe and clearly a sign you're just a dumb lying teenager begging for attention.

you can't have a consistent host but also you can't have anyone other than the "original" front for too long. you can't be able to control switches but you also need to be able to "prove it" by switching in front of other people. you can't have different mannerisms or handwriting because that's overdone and dramatic and clearly just theatre and you can't have the same mannerisms or handwriting becase then you're clearly just lying. You can't think of yourself as one person because that's confusing, but you can't think of yourself as multiple people, because you share a body so CLEARLY you must be one singular person!!!!! If you use i/me pronouns you're faking and just forgetting to act plural as a plothole in ur lies and if you use we/us you're also faking and clearly only know about systems through tiktok. if you go by your infividual names you're being confusing and a hasstle and a bitch, but if you use a collective name or go by the og/host's name you're lying and a catfish abuser. if you get final fusion you're not plural anymore and don't get to talk about it. if you don't get final fusion you're a faker.

you can't literally be seperate because that makes no sense, you can't have more than one consciousness in one mind!! but you can't just be one person separated by memory walls with the EFFECT being "as if" you were actually seperate because then you're not really plural.

you can't act or dress normal because "we'd be able to tell" but you can't be visibly weird or plural because then you're fake, cringe, or both. you can't roleplay or cosplay because that means your plurality is cosplay too, but you can't avoid roleplaying and cosplaying because then you're crazy for identifying as another person than the og but not being able to dress up as a different person (and/or your source if ur an introject).

did i get it all?? no, probably, because there's way more rules and contradictions than even these, huh?? there's an infinite list of rules and ideas but really they're all just set dressing. all the conflicts just end up resulting in one, big rule. but they don't say the big rule because a long list like that, if it's spread out and not put in one post like this, doesn't look as mean. so it's easier to swallow it one bit at a time, to rule out one way of life after another, then to say it outright.

when every possible way to be is ruled out, you get the real rule, which is:

"If you're plural or a system, you can't exist."

there is no acceptable way to be plural. the only "correct" way to be plural is to be erased entirely.

[fictive-culture]

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Some things about us!

🌟We are a Mediple/Diversian system and TraumaEndo, mostly Paragenic, but a few other origins as well. We are primarily a system of introjects with only around 10 brainmade out of 100+ headmates. The autism and madd were just like yea we fucked up /light hearted. We are bodily 22, and you may refer to us collectively as Spade/Jest It/Neos We also run the @median-culture-is, @brainmade-culture-is and @paragenic-culture-is blogs. We just think they're fun and love the community :) 🌟

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[justalexisfine]

Call to the fog. . .

Hello there! Welcome to my forest. Are you a friend or foe?

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☆ This post will be updated as needed!

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I am Alex, the host of The Faded (median/parasian) system/plural! Here, you will read mostly about me, and you can read up on the rest of the members in our Pronouns.CC or plural sideblog in the link section below!

Names:

- Alex

- X

- Achlys

Titles:

She/He Who Wanders The Stars

The Creature in The Night

Content:

- Reblogs

- (Hopefully) relatable stuff

- Nonhuman/Alterhuman things

- (Rarely making it myself) Moodboards and artwork

- Activism and such

- Random things

it's pretty inconsistent, which makes it fun, I think!

I'd like to add that we are bodily a minor. We're not uncomfy with 18+ SFW interactions, however! But if you're weird about it (or an EXCLUSIVELY NSFW acc), then you will be blocked.

If we breach your DNI, then please tell us.

pronouns page! (OUTDATED)

Boundaries!

Nicknames/Casual Names!

flag hoard!

Pronouns.CC!

System Sideblog! (or just the-faded-plural)

Music taste(s):

- Mother Mother

- Rare Americans

- Dirt Poor Robins

- Ghost and Pals

- The Crane Wives

- liana flores

- 6arelyhuman

- Yaelokre

- Panic! At The Disco

- Vocaloid

- Folk/Indie/Alt

- Rock/indie rock

etc, etc

Currently learning:

- German

- Spanish

- American sign language (ASL)

Alterhuman labels:

Wolf/monster ~ Quoiian

Cat ~ Otherhearted

Crow ~ Otherlink

Alterhuman/Nonhuman

Kinsidering:

Werewolf ~ Otherkin/Otherhearted

Dragon ~ Otherhearted

TV static ~ Otherkin/Conceptkin/Otherhearted (concepthearted?)

Stars ~ Otherkin/Otherhearted

Wolf/Monster ~ Silhouetten

We use we/us/our/ourself to reference us collectively and I/me/my/myself to reference individual members.

Queer labels:

- Queer

- Genderblank

- Librafeminine

- Greygender

- Omnisexual (fem + masc pref)

Questioning queer labels:

- Xenogender

- Aro/Ace spec

- Demisexual/Demiromantic

- Cupioromantic

- Some form of genderneutral

- Some form of genderfluid

- Uniromantic

- Separoace

- Neogender

anon list!

- yaint anon

- ♧ anon

- ☀️ anon

- 🌹 anon

please note that due to our current circumstances, we can not first-handedly donate. we try to help by reblogging and making posts about the cause, but we can't actually donate. any asks for a donation/asking for donations that we get will be deleted and/or ignored.

we are white/caucasian passing

we have mixed feelings with artistic nudity and body positive art! but we do not like NSFW

We use tone tags and (sometimes) shortened versions of words.

we sometimes swear, but usually avoid it. you have been warned!

We don't have a specific DNI/block board, but we follow closely to the basic DNI criteria. I do know that we'll block and/or not interact with any blogs that make us uncomfy and/or bad for our mental, NSFW blogs, and if it's for boundaries!

also note that we are pro-recovery

We will try to tag triggering things accordingly! Please say something if we didn't tag something right/you need a trigger warning for something!

I'm gonna make a few tags to filter my stuff out, so here ya go! sometimes, we forget to tag things, so just be warned of that!

# al speaks - General stuffs!

# gems n feathers - hoarding/crow posts!

# claws can draw - drawing posts!

# claws can write - writing posts!

# glitch techs‼️ - Glitchy/techy/Bright colored posts; chaotic mayhem ♡

# al has claws - alterhumanity posts!

# vines n music - music recommendations!

VAGUE interests:

- Magic !!

- Anything Shiny !!

- Vulture Culture !!

- The stars !!

- Alterhumanity/Nonhumanity !!

- Queer identities !!

- Rocks/Gems !!

- Video Games !!

- Learning !!

- Nature/Animals !!

- Aesthetics !!

- Reading !!

- Drawing !!

- Eyes n Wings !!

- Music !!

- Writing !!

- Vocaloid !!

SPECIFIC interests:

- FNAF !!

- COTL !!

- TADC !!

- ITSV + ATSV !!

- DHMIS !!

- Welcome Home! !!

- Murder Drones !!

- Nimona !!

- Mune: Guardian of the Moon !!

- Analog and Body Horror !!

- Learning about other LGBTQIA++ and Nonhuman/Alterhuman labels !!

- TDA (The Daycare Attendants from FNAF SB) !!

- Poppy Playtime! !!

- Stardew Valley !!

- Undertale n Deltarune !!

- Arcane: League of Legends !!

- Pressure (Roblox) !!

(known) userbox credits: @/ill-either-live-or-die-alone, @/mx-werebat, @/plural-userboxes, @/xxx-ang3l-w1th-a-sh0tgun-xxx

(they're cut weirdly, ik)

moodboard by @/youokaymilo

**NOTE: WE DO NOT CLAIM THESE IMAGES AS OURS. FULL CREDIT GOES TO THE ORIGINAL CREATORS

[sapphic-horror]

SÉVERIN — HY / GORE — 20

a horror beyond your understanding <3

intro !!

my main pronouns are hy / gore but the full list can be found here; mutuals are welcome to use he / she; nh terms preferred! i'm a butch xenic transmasc sapphillean aro lesboy girlboy; i use more than just these terms but these identities are all very important to me i love horror in general, stardew valley, minecraft, analog horror/args, biology, forensic science, bones, & many other things

ask game here! (link)

byi !!

i use slurs i can reclaim positively, including other historic terms containing slurs. all reclaimed slurs will be tagged as '[letter] slur/word' or '[letter] slur/word reclaimed'. queer will not be tagged as a slur, DO NOT tag my posts as 'q slur' (you may tag them as other terms, just not as a slur)

i tag other triggers as '[trigger] tw' or '[content] cw'

i am autistic, have cluster b pds (borderline/antisocial), c-ptsd, did, & some other things i am not comfortable listing; i experience paranoia, dissociative amnesia, & low empathy— no pref. for singular or plural terms, DO NOT call us sysmates or headmates, i use i/we interchangeabley

disabled, chronic pain, & photosensitive— most flags should be eyestrain friendly but i make no guarantees; if something needs to be tagged as eyestrain lmk!

i id as alterhuman/non-human; i use nh terms as a way to cope with trauma & dehumanization

this isn't a syscourse blog, i reblog posts from both pro-endo & anti-endo blogs, DO NOT ASK ME MY OPINION ON SYSCOURSE

dni !!

basic dni criteria

terfs EXPLICITLY get blocked on sight

zionists, including neutrals

fans of the following; harry potter (any jkr related media included), dsmp/qsmp, dream, tommyinnit, jschlatt, hazbin hotel/helluva boss and wilbur soot

anti good faith labels; anti xenos or neos

demonize cluster b disorders (including npd & aspd), use the term 'narc abuse' (or similar terms), demonize people who experience psychosis, demonize people with osddid, or other heavily stigmatized disorders

anti-anti or proshipper

transx/transid (transspecies, chronosian, & folks with biid/bdd can interact) or 'radqueer' / pro/complex/neutral-contract harmful paraphilias (pedophilia, zoophilia, necrophilia, etc.)

heavy religious blogs (christian); personal comfort

i will. . .

good faith identities (lesboy, gaygirl, gaybian, etc.)

alt/new versions of flags

themed flags

extremely specific terms

xin (x-in-nature) terms

neurogenders

alterhuman/otherkin/therian/transspecies flags

terms relating to gore, horror, the undead, cannibalism, etc.

might do reclaimed transx/transid terms (i.e., transautistic meaning a trans person who's autistic)

if it's not on here, ask!

i won't. . .

tranx/transid terms (non-reclaimed)

nsfw/18+ or paraphilia terms

non-traumagenic terms

terms relating to slurs i don't/can't reclaim

flags for disorders I don't have or am public about having

flags exclusive to cultures I'm not apart of

intersex or tfem related flags (i'm perisex tmasc)

some religious terms

theme flags based on/of real people

extremely bright/neon flags (i.e., extreme eyestrain)

ANYONE (REGARDLESS OF IF YOU'RE ON MY DNI OR NOT) MAY USE MY FLAGS!

PLEASE CREDIT ME SOMEWHERE IF YOU USE MY FLAGS (VIA LINK, ALT TEXT, ETC.)

[entropy-sea-system]

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Entropy Sea System

Plural System

ND

Disabled

Bodily 21 (All headmates are adults)

Queer

BIPOC

Pronouns vary by headmate, collectively they, they&, it, and any other plural pronouns. We use the terms system, plural, and headmate. Some median subsystems may use median or facet also.

We block people we are not comfortable interacting with, does not always have to do with discourse

We support all system types and support self dx. Inclus. (this means we also don't support sysmedicalist ideoologies)

Sfw main blog, prefer interaction w adults but any age allowed by tumblr TOS may interact

Boundaries: no attempts to befriend us (dm's r ok), terms such as 'friend', friendship, or /p tone tag directed at us(we're plato-repulsed), no touch, no flirting of any kind, no nicknames, no petnames. Do not say 'I love you' to us.

Also no soliciting any kind of relationship from us. Do not dm us just to talk, only dm us if you have a specific thing to tell us or such.

We block for various reasons, don't expect that we will read everyone's dni just because we found your post on our dash, especially for very popular posts.

self dx and neurodivergence sideblog - @selfdxpositivity

aro apl and npd sideblog - @apl-aro-narc

kollywood side blog - @mookuthi-amman

object crush objectum sideblog - @objectcrushsuggestions

puss in boots sideblog, mainly run by Rift - @t4t-softboots

demiromantic allosexual sideblog, also mainly run by them - @demiromantic-allosexual

sideblog thats an archive for any terms we coin or flags we make- @entropy-terms

stim gif sideblog, mainly run by Firelight (gifs we made) - @entropy-sea-stims

hpd culture is sideblog also mainly run by em - @hpdculture-is

plato repulsed culture is sideblog - @plato-repulsed-culture-is

hpd and attentionpunk sideblog mostly run by Firelight - @hpd-attentionpunk

(if youre an adult - unless your blog says 'nsft/nsfw blogs dni' or similar we may sometimes rb your posts to our individual headmate sideblogs but those are minors dni/18+ blogs so will not list them here. If you would prefer we not interact from those blogs either block those blogs or let us know)

Tag system:

#entropies-> general rambles, humorous posts or just when feeling incoherent

#entropycule -> posts or reblogs about or relating to our in sys polycule

#entropy tags -> when screenshots of our tags are in a post

#entropy asks -> asks we sent to tumblr users

#entropy answers -> when we answer asks on here

#entropycrew -> picrew icons we make, picrew chains we participate in

any tags with a headmate's name on it are for individual headmates, anything that looks like another username is to indicate usernames of ppl who send us asks or we interact with in a reblog addition on a post

[cluster-b-culture-is]

Cluster b(BPD) culture is being jealous of your fps'(plural) partners even though you're aro and not interested in them romantically you're just upset that they love/like/prioritize someone over/the same amount as you.

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[aro-culture-is]

plural aro culture is not touching any romantic relationships with a ten foot pole outside of the body but having several different ones going on inside of headspace. doesn't make us any less aro though!

-the key system

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[kaylinalexanderbooks]

OC Smash or Pass

Thanks @hallowedfury for the tag!

I did Carmen here who just ended with a plurality smash and unfortunately most of my OCs are 11-18 so nooo to smash or pass on them. My older characters, despite being planned out, don't have a lot of scenes on paper so I can't talk about them AS extensively as Carmen.

Except Jedi. But he's ace/aro. So let's do an acearo friendly version of this

Full name Jedidiah MacIntyre but goes by Jedi and his mom's surname because his dad sucks

It's an acearo poll but if anyone cares he's Scottish/Korean*, 6'3, 42 years old, cis man (he/him); lightish skin, salt and pepper short hair that swooshes up with a full short beard, gray eyes; naturally strong build

Wears a lot of professional clothing too

The definition of morally gray... He does some shitty things but like...he's polite about it? What!? He doesn't like what he's doing...but why does it do it??!???

Carmen from the other smash or pass poll is his best friend. That should tell you more about him

He does not learn from his mistakes

Tragic Backstory ™

He did work with the main antagonist for a bit... Then he left and worked with the main antagonist's antagonist... Who is just a different version of the main antagonist

Very quiet and understanding but has a lot of self confidence

Though he's constantly stressed because his best friend is CARMEN (read her poll I linked at the top for more)

Would take a shower with his hand on the wall as water hits his back, contemplating the ambiguity of his actions

Best of intentions. Misguided as hell.

Definition of sketchy

Obsessed with culture, psychology, and science

Unlike Carmen I won't forget to mention he is also a doctor. Specializes in the broader hierarchy and different levels and abilities of the powers given to Alii - specifically the ones in the database

Why does he put up with people obsessed with the wrong things? Cause he's too conflict adverse for his own good!! Dammit Jedi!! Why are you like this????!!!??

He's a father figure to a twelve year old girl. Given who he is, consider if this is a good thing

Shrugs off his problems. He is full of them. Man he has issues.

*ethnicities based on IRL equivalent

Check out the reblogs and vote for the longer running poll

[the-agent-of-blight]

Aromanticism in Academic Papers (day 7)

Today is the last day of ASAW 2024. It's been fun compiling all of this research for you! As ASAW ends, I thought it'd be a good time to look forward. We are part of a wider community after all, the queer community. And as a whole, the queer community is also underrepresented in relationship research.

Today's paper is: Queer Intimacies: A New Paradigm for the Study of Relationship Diversity by Phillip L. Hammack, David M. Frost, and Sam D. Hughes (2018). [stable link]

This paper puts forth 7 ways in which relationships differ from the normative path, and how these perspectives need to be included in academic research more. These assumptions and corresponding "axioms" are that:

Relationships involve 2 different cisgenders, as opposed to homosexual relationships and relationships involving trans/non-binary gender identities

That intimacy is directed solely at one gender, and that attraction does not change, as opposed to plural sexual orientations such as bi and pansexuality and changes in desires

That intimacy is between only two individuals, as opposed to polyamory

That intimacy is characterized by equality and symmetry of role and status, as opposed to consentual power asymmetry often found in kink and BDSM communities

That intimacy is characterized by romance and sex, as opposed to asexual and aromantic intimacies that do not involve romance or sex

That family structures consist of biological offspring, as opposed to chosen families

That forms of intimacy can be known and catalogued, as opposed to the fact that intimacy forms are always situated in their place in history, and that new ways of being intimate with other people are always being invented.

This paper stresses the need for research to be done into these other forms of intimacy that are not usually focused upon.

Now for today's post, I'm going to be focusing on point 5 because I can speak to it personally better. For the sake of brevity I am focusing this on aromanticism, as that is what this whole week of posts has been about. If you have the ability to read this paper though, don't neglect the other portions. they deserve better and further research too.

The authors carefully detail some of the history of asexuality research, and then present the primary holes left to fill in the research. They ask why there has been a difference found in rates of ace men and women having a romantic relationship and for analysis to look beyond the gender binary. They ask for more research on the direct experiences of aros and aces in relationships. The relational forms present in our community are unique and deserve "Legitimization through empirical documentation and systematic inquiry". The authors ask what unique forms of intimacies exist? how do individuals make meaning of these relationships in a culture that privileges sex and romance? and how do partners navigate stigma? What distinctions exist in the experience or expression of asexuality and aromanticism across diverse gender, race, class, and sexual identities?

This paper by Hammack, Frost, and Hughes gives us a charge. To go out and research this. These are only the most obvious gaps in literature from 2018, some will be closed, but that means more will have been opened. We should try and research this, or facilitate those who do. If you ever see a chance to participate in a survey on aromanticism or whatever identity you have, Take it. Even if you aren't in the position to conduct research personally, you can always take part in it. Support organizations like AUREA which provide vital resources not just to the community but to researchers! take part in the aro census ! You have the chance to help facilitate important research in something that is sorely lacking representation in academia. So please, if you have the chance, do it.

[syscultureis]

Plural Culture is being unaware of you being a system and having the weekly experience of: " I'm a straight trans man! " " I'm a lesbian- " " I'm no gender?? " "I am a gay man, final decision" " .... I think I might be aro/ace actually- " . . . " I'm genderfluid "

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[demiro-allosexual-culture-is]

10 and 18 for the arospec ask game if it isn’t too late?

10. Probably what frustrates me the most about amatonormativity is that monogamy and having children is expected? I think personally I am way more frustrated by aros misusing the term to call aplatonics who like romance "amatonormative" and hate on people for not prioritising friendship and family(Im extremely disgusted by both and any nonrose things so I must be these aros' nightmares or something lol), and Im very frustrated by platonormativity. I like romance sometimes, and I'm from a romance negative culture that frowns on romance and emphasizes arranged marriage instead, and that is something I want to avoid. Romance, however, under the right conditions I do want to engage in.

And I prioritise my sexual and romantic-sexual partners over everyone else, I don't want any other close relationships at all and of course Id value my partners and myself over other people. Thats just how I function. If I didn't have partners, I would prioritise myself over other people mainly. I can't say I feel very impacted by amatonormativity just because Im arospec, but again Im not living in America right now so obviously the way it is in my culture varies greatly from a theory created in the context of the western world.

But about the norms in my culture, I feel like its that people wouldn't understand my romantic-sexual or sexual relationships because its w other headmates in my system, so Id appear single since we aren't open about being plural irl. Some of my peers may think its weird that Im aro, bc they may think queerness is weird. But a lot of them are very careful about romance because of romance negativity and how their family may not approve (yes, even 'cis straight passing' romance), yet expect people to feel romantic attraction. Some of them just seem to resign themself to the idea of being married off in an arranged marriage because thats what their parents want. Maybe some genuinely want that for themself, Im not exactly sure? but I don't want that, and I have partners already.

Basically I will never relate to wanting arranged marriage, and the way I approach romance is not traditional bc Im demiromantic allosexual and nonfriending aplatonic(I can't perform friendship, which is expected as a precursor to romance), and polyamorous/polyerosous. I feel like because the opposite is expected, the way I require a sexual relationship to even feel romantic attraction and a desire to be in a romantic relationship may be frowned upon due to sex negativity and amatonormativity in general, and bc that deviates from the arranged marriage norm where I live. And I don't want to raise kids (not even as a single parent or coparent), and thats a 'step' often expected in romance and marriage, although my current partners don't particularly require that in a relationship. And all that is what I feel makes amatonormativity or an equivalent to it, impact me in my culture.

I think that either amatonormativity should be broadened to include similar enforcement of societal norms that aren't covered by just talking about white european or american norms, or other terms should be coined to refer to this. I feel like either ppl online are narrowing the scope of what amatonormativity includes, or they are being overly eurocentric and americentric about it. I feel the way Elizabeth Brake's theory is explained definitely doesn't fully explain the attitudes in my culture about romance and marriage. And that is very likely because it was formed in a western context.

18. I only ship romantic-sexual and sexual ships. I can't say Im really invested in reading about romance aspects but more so the attraction? I relate to feeling romantic and sexual attraction which is probably why I ship those ships. Im kind of repulsed by nonsexual-in-intent ships that are romantic so I never ship them. I avoid fiction where the romance is stated to have no sexual attraction bc it repulses me. Sometimes I get really bored of a ship once it becomes canon, like theres no more suspense or anticipation I guess? (example - Lumity in the owl house). I don't like slow burn because its extremely boring and often involves friendship, which Im repulsed by.

I think sometimes I may ship characters or focus on shipping just because it makes me feel sick to think about friendship, even in media. Considering the characters as romantically or sexually involved is not repulsion inducing so I prefer it. I also hate ships where ppl write them as telling each other they are friends as well as partners, or friends to lovers bc ew (plato repulsed).

Either way the main type of shipping I prefer is sexual self shipping because I have fictional sexual crushes(I never feel romantic attraction to fictional characters) I ship myself with, sometimes also fluff or romance-coded self ship content that I feel like I can interpret as having sexual attraction as the intent. I may also avoid canon or fanon ships of characters I have crushes on, if it causes me to feel jealous.

arospec ask game :

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We’re Back! (Kinda?)

Hiii, we’re the Lunastus Collective, aka TLC.

We’ve been gone for some time, but twitter’s being WEIRD, so here we are again. Here’s some shit you should know about us:

1. We’re adaptive + protogenic, and have DID, but we 100% support all non-traumagenic systems. Sysmeds/anti-endos aren’t welcome here. We’re also neutral on personal system beliefs-- we don’t care if you believe your fictives came from another universe, or if you believe in system-hopping, or anything. As long as you’re not harming others with your beliefs, you’re fine. Fakeclaiming has no place in the plural community.

2. We’re nonbinary/trans/systemfluid, and greyace/pluralqueer. We support all trans and nonbinary people! We don’t think that dysphoria is required to be trans, so transmeds aren’t welcome here. We also don’t want exclusionists or anti-mspec people here. We love and support our bi/pan lesbian (or whatever combo) community members. We also think ace/aro folks are inherently queer, and fully believe kink belongs at Pride, so jot that down.

3. We’re pro-fic/anti-harassment. Meaning, we don’t agree with harassing, doxxing, sui baiting, etc, people over the fictional shit they’re into. If you’re an anti-shipper, are against pro-shippers, are neutral, or enable people who harass/send death threats/etc, please block us and move on.

4. We’re fat. :3 We also have an eating disorder. Fatphobia and diet culture shit isn’t welcome here.

5. Minors ARE NOT welcome to follow us. If we don’t see anything indicating that you’re, bodily, an adult, we will softblock. We don’t intend to post/reblog NSFW but it’s still possible, and we just aren’t interested in censoring ourselves.

Tl;dr as long as you’re not harming real life people, as long as you’re speaking for your own experiences, as long as you use labels out of good faith, then that’s fine. (We block TERFs, SWERFs, alt right, etc, on sight.)

Our syscourse code:

👍 / ❤️ / 📘 / 🔺 / 🟢 / 🌒 /

🟦 / 🌲 / ☀️ / 🥧 / 🐊 / 🐞 / 🐳

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