#ace/biromantic

[buddieinmybeddie]

LGBTQ+ folk what was your gender/sexuality pipeline?

[bippityboppityouch]

HEY! HEY YOU

if you like using microlabels and feel like they fit you better so that's what you use, YOU ARE VALID!

if you don't like using microlabels and prefer the general labels because that what you feel like fits you better, YOU ARE VALID!

remember, its YOUR box and YOU are the only one who gets to choose how you identify and what labels you use!

[grey-viridian]

My doodling process be like:

pain pain angst 🌈HAPPY PRIDE MONTH🌈 pain

[speaking-from-the-abyss]

The universe: Which gender will you have, male or female?

Me: Yes.

The universe: Uh. Okay. Then who will you like romantically?

Me: Yes.

The universe: Um. Then what about your sexuality–

Me: No.

The universe:

[travellingwiththedead]

Canon ace characters 🤝 canon bi characters

Getting erased and if we complain about it we're the ones having "headcanons" and stirring trouble because theirs is clearly the superior interpretation -.-

[genderqueerdykes]

happy pride to every asexual spectrum person! i know it hasn't been easy to be able to talk about asexual pride in the past, for quite a while, online spaces like tumblr and twitter took to being actively hostile toward asexual spectrum folk. it's time to stop allowing and encouraging this behavior- having no sexual attraction, a complex relationship with sexual attraction, and/or no desire to have sexual relationships is queer in a society that expects its people to have them

i hope you are able to feel welcome and seen this pride- whether you are straight, cis, trans, bi, gay, a lesbian, pansexual, intersex, or whatever else you may be, every asexual spectrum person deserves to celebrate themselves this month. you have a unique queer experience that deserves to be seen and heard as much as any other. you are appreciated, take care of yourselves, and each other

[isabellascarlett1]

Sapphic history belongs to Bi Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Pan Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Trans Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Non-binary Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Ace Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Aro Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Omni Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Ply Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to Abro Sapphics.

Sapphic history belongs to all Sapphics.

[xxcalicofemmexx]

grey ace bi wallpapers!

requested by @gardeninthevoid

Greysexual: Sexual attraction is rare and/or mild. Often used as an umbrella term for people who think/know they're on the asexual spectrum, but don't know exactly where. An acespec identity that can be combined with other identities (greybisexual, etc) or used as an identity of its own. Also known as greyasexual, grey asexual, and grey ace (occasionally shortened to grace)

Bi: Attraction to two or more genders; Attraction to same and different genders

[sen-ya]

Still was probably reading early Dressrosa when I did this one. It’s wild looking at these drawings tbh lmao.

[corvys-clover]

Happy pride, folks <3<3<3

Commissions open!

@corvys.clover on Instagram

[aspenonpawzzz]

27 days till June

my fellow queers, start preparing. put on ur binder, take ur pills, put on ur flag.

we ride at dawn, June first.

[irenekohstudio]

cats and cats and cats

Biromantic Asexual Kitties!

[bi-dykes]

Biromantics are so precious. I love my bi + ace siblings. Reblog to give a biromantic a bowl of hot clam chowder, like to give them little saltine crackers to crush up and sprinkle over their soup

[smolmoss]

peeking over pride flag emotes!

[scretladyspider]

Asexual and aromantic are not “spicy straight trying to be special LGBT”.

This argument, much like “you’re not really bi/pan if you are with someone of the opposite gender”, asks for visibly performative queerness then ignores the inherent queerness in these experiences.

If being straight is being allosexual, heterosexual, heteroromantic, alloromantic, and cisgender, all at once, then a person only needs to not be one of these to call themselves queer if they want to.

This always ruffles feathers, but..cishet isn’t the inherent opposite of queer.

Allosexual — not ace or under its umbrella

Alloromantic — not aro or under its umbrella

cisgender — aligning with your gender assigned/designated at birth

Heterosexual— sexual attraction to the opposite gender

Heteroromantic — romantic attraction to the opposite gender

If all aces and aros were cishet, which we’re not but just for the sake of this example, how would this detract from the queerness inherent in asexuality and aromanticism? Each are complex spectrums of a fundamentally different experience than the world teaches us we should have.

Aces, aros, and bi/pan people in “straight passing” relationships are often lumped into cishet as a way of delineating “not queer”, regardless of other factors. But this dismisses queerness and asks for specific, unnamed perimeters to be met for it to be recognized.

When presented with ways that experiencing little to no sexual attraction, or little to no romantic attraction, are in fact in opposition with the expectation for everyone to have both (allonormativity and amatanormativity or amanormativity respectively), people don’t accept it. Or rather, they don’t accept it as a thing on its own. Sometimes this means getting treated as if you’re just trying to be edgy, as if proclaiming you’re part of a marginalized group gives social media clout or something. Other times it’s just not treated as enough on its own by other queer people.

This happens in ace and aro spaces too. Cishet is used often as shorthand for “not queer”, directly pushing away aspecs who may be cishet and also ace and/or aro. It doesn’t seem intentionally exclusionary, but unintended exclusion is still exclusion.

This reflects, also, the expectation of performative queerness that is thrown at bi and pan persons both in and out of queer spaces. There are also many aces and aros who are bi and pan, and who may or may not be cisgender.

The reality however is there is no way to “perform” queerness that is satisfactory to all who demand it. The result this odd sort of existence where when one appears queer “enough”, that is used as weaponry against them, but when it isn’t, it’s used to exclude queer people from queerness.

And the real kicker is asexual and aromantic are enough. Bi/pan folks are still their orientation regardless of what their relationship looks like. Gender is it’s own thing, separate from the others, but related because this all ends up being a pile of queer identity spaghetti.

Regardless of how queer a person appears to you, or if you understand their individual experience… Ace is enough. Aro is enough.

The demand for performative queerness is used to try to defend from harm, but it ends up attacking anyone not visibly queer enough to the beholder.

We need to be more explicitly inclusive — especially in our own spaces, but also outside of them when talking about how queerness operates. If someone else’s queerness makes your idea of queerness more complicated, that’s not a bad thing. Learn from that, and let them be.

If you see someone is ace or aro and then see they’re more like you than you thought they could be, or that they don’t engage with it how you expected, that’s not a reason to be exclusionary. It’s a reason to try to expand what you include in your idea of queer.

Once, you needed someone to include you to feel comfortable in your queerness.

Set your ego aside and extend a hand to those you don’t quite understand. Be inclusive. Especially if someone’s relationship to their queerness challenges what you thought was possible.

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[acexualien]

Here’s a little info post on the term Oriented AroAce!

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