#cis women

[queerism1969]

[cyanomys]

Are there any other cis-identifying women out there who want to get top surgery? What is your experience?

Here's mine ...

Ah yes, June, Pride month, the time every year for me to ponder if the fact that I desperately want to cut my boobs off makes me trans....

But like!! I feel like a woman!! I just feel like a woman that doesn't have boobs!

Boobs were never part of my mental map of myself, they're like this unwanted limb that doesn't belong to me??

Obviously that's some kind of dysphoria but....I feel like a woman, or at least a sort of queer, gender-nonconforming woman. I am asexual (I think), so I want to say it could be related to that, but it feels reductive and incomplete as an explanation on its own.

In fact I am so certain I am a woman because I actually identified as trans nonbinary for a year and wore more masculine clothes and went by they/them because I thought that my chest dysphoria meant that must be the case, but I "detransitioned" because it didn't feel right (I am Not A TERF and very pro-enbies everywhere, it just was not me). Tbh I am significantly more secure in my identity now than I ever was before that time.

Also it fuckin sucks because binding is *literally* the worst possible thing for me, health wise. Makes my gerd, asthma, dizziness, and anxiety worse. I still wear light compression tops or tight sports bras a lot of days but can't tolerate it always. It's miserable.

And don't even get me started on how the hell I would pay for top surgery. Fat chance my insurance would cover it when I say I'm not trans and mine aren't even that huge to begin with so the typical reasons women get breast reductions (back pain etc) don't apply.

Wondering if anyone out there feels similarly.

[zozoubbb]

i hate that there is so much hatred for women in the world, so much hatred for girls, even little girls. cant even express how much love my heart holds for women, i love being a woman and i love women more than anything. everything about women, everything about trans, poc, cis , queer, butch, disabled, religious, neurodivergent, fat, old women, everything about all women is so so beautiful. and yes there are women that suck and womanhood isnt about being a cute little innocent person, but oh how i love women and i love women who love women and i love women.

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

If you pay attention to TIRFs (trans inclusive radical feminists) you will find they talk about trans people two ways.

One is that all trans people are women. That is, trans women are women, but also trans men are female socialized so they are close enough, and non-binary people can be mushed in as cis women or trans women as needed.

The other is that trans women are women (good, pure, innocent), trans men are men (bad, impure, guilty), and non-binary are mushed in as cis or binary trans, (evil) man or (virtuous) women, as needed.

Even when radfems are not TERFs, they are still bioessentialist.

[muadweeb]

the thing about the buccal fat removal surgery is that it gives cis women features that are more sharper, more structured (masculine)....which was shunned and mocked when trans women had them. the whole concept of facial feminization surgery was to have a more softer more round (feminine) face, so that trans women would feel more "secure"...my point is. women can't win in this patriarchal world. trans women have to become more feminine to be taken "seriously" and cis women have to become more masculine (in every sense, be it in a work place, now even when it comes to face) to be a person of high repute in the industry...(bella hadid, women that dress more like men, act more like men are able to like at least splinter the glass ceiling...) idk. it's all just so depressing.

[dontmean2bepoliticalbut]

[dreamingofleon]

being a girl is too hard

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Nonbinary Cis Woman Pride Flag

Cisgender: denoting or relating to a person whose gender identity corresponds with the sex registered for them at birth.

Non-binary woman: identifying as non-binary and woman. It includes: being abinary and woman-aligned (lunarian), woman-related, woman-adjacent (genderera), fiaspec, or feingender, using she/her, fingender, being gendervast or multigender, genderfluid, demigirl, feminenby, xirl, girlby, centrigender, etc.

Please alert me if this flag already exists for something else. I can't tell if someone already made a flag for this concept either.

[queerism1969]

[totally-not-a-real-zombie]

PETITION TO MAKE INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY EVERY DAY

Here's some actual resources to support women:

Click to help women

engenderhealth

Arab Women

Womens Fund Asian

Girls Who Code

American Association of University Women

Trans Justice Funding Projects

Resolve

Girls Not Brides

Womens Aid

[spyderslut]

cis girl twink

[curlyhairedintrovertsworld]

i stopped wearing skirts and dresses as a child because they were stereotypes for girliness. girliness was stereotyped as weakness. i stopped wearing skirts and dresses as a child because they had open bottoms. that openness, whether or not i had shorts on underneath meant my legs were vulnerable, among other things. wearing skirts and dresses in my young impressionable mind meant i was choosing to be weak and vulnerable and a target for boys and men that wanted to take advantage of me. i told myself i didn't want to be girly, i didn't want to be like other girls, but what i really wanted was to not be a victim.

[lithiumseven]

When you try to define "a woman" you confine ALL women

[diaryofadaringwitch]

In high school, I had to attend mandated abstinence only health class separated by sex, but the administration in their stupidity, gave our female class a male teacher. He once refused to let someone use the restroom despite them saying they'd started their period.

"I can't stand when girls use that as an excuse."

The entire class jumped to their defense, loudly describing periods in graphic detail until he finally capitulated. A few of us also threw tampons at him.

I was thinking about that today and started writing a post joking about how most of the time I consider my period to be fairly annoying but if a cis man says they're gross I'd loudly express my gratitude for such a sacred cycle and this power to bring forth new life.

Then I realized that's the exact kind of thing terfs would pick up on and the last thing I want is to feed those particular gremlins.

The truth is there's nothing wrong with celebrating or connecting to your biological sex. Especially if you were brought up to be ashamed of your periods, especially if you were brought up in a culture that repressed your sexuality or sexual behavior.

There's also nothing wrong with connecting to others through biological sex. Like my classmates getting even with our teacher or people supporting each other through pregnancy and childbirth.

The problem is when you make menstruation inextricable from womanhood. In doing so, you not only invalidate trans women but are reducing people to their reproductive organs, their capacity to have biological children.

Another common thing I see is people defining women as "adult human females" and making menstruation a marker of that, of sexual maturity.

I was 11 when I got my period for the first time. I was undeniably a child. Yet others insisted I was now a "woman". It was incredibly scary, especially since it wasn't something I could talk about freely.

Not every woman shares that experience. Not every woman is capable of bearing children, in small part because not every woman is female.

I feel like terfs have forgotten the "girl code". If another girl asks you for help, you defend them. If you see a girl being harassed, you don't check their chromosomes before you protect them.

Trans women are not the enemy of cis women.

Trans women are not the enemy of females.

Trans women are women. But more importantly, trans women are people. Deserving of respect, of safety, and joy. No exceptions, no excuses.

-terfs aren't welcome on this post or my blog and will be blocked without second thought