#gray aspec

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Gray Stripe Asexual Pride Flag

Gray Stripe Asexual: acespec individuals represented by the grey stripe in the asexual flag.

This may overlap with greysexuality or mesi asexuality.

[sminny-wew]

It's so funny being a shipper when you're aroace it's like you're an anthropologist, like hey fictional blorbos who live in my head let me study your bonds under a microscope and take notes on what happens when I throw Valentines Day into your enclosure

[thefrogginbullfish]

"Graysexual" 💜🩶

[welcometo79s]

Okay my asexual brethren, this is for personal research: Reblog this or comment with your asexual microlabel / asexual spectrum identity and whether you found this label after already being in queer spaces (like tumblr) or through specifically looking up asexuality / your experiences

[waitineedaname]

im still thinking about that post about bingge not actually enjoying sex all that much and now it's got me thinking about acespec binghe. I wonder how much of bingqiu's sex life is about actual sexual desire or just a desire for intimacy. as we've established, bingqiu both want a Crack Open Shizun's Ribs And Live Inside Him situation but they can't actually do that, so sex is the closest they can get to the intense kind of physical and emotional intimacy they want. we need to introduce luo binghe to concepts like steven universe style fusion or pacrim drifting, getting those two to mindmeld would potentially create the craziest dude in existence but I think it would make binghe incredibly happy

[cookiekat-blogz]

halfway through my pride pfp and I’m realizing I might be cupiosexual… 😕

happy pride month especially to the aroace-specs who are still struggling to find an identity that fits

[the-stars-were-his]

"he's asexual? ohhh that's why he's so weird-" haha no. my weirdness and my asexuality are two completely different entities. they have nothing to do with each other. i am weird because yes and i am asexual because duh. you hear me?

[ashbelero]

Hey btw you’re allowed to be horny if you’re ace. You’re allowed to do sex if you’re ace. You’re allowed to want sex if you’re ace. Ace is a spectrum and all those things don’t make you less ace.

[lgbtqtext]

[ineffectualdemon]

My life has been a series of me going:

"I'm not X I just understand them! They make so much sense! Why don't other people agree with them more?"

Only to find out much later that I am X

[sminny-wew]

I had a long discussion with friends earlier about the gender bias in how YA books are marketed and it somehow evolved into me saying "We need more fiction that questions the concept of attraction itself"

We got into how easily romance can be latched onto other genres (romantic comedy, romantic drama, fantasy romance, historical romance, etc.) and I started asking myself what an arocom (aromantic comedy) would look like. I decided, based on an old Tumblr post I can't find that joked about some comedy movie being aro representation b/c it had no romance, that it can't just be "a comedy with no romance at all", because then that's just a regular old comedy. By that logic, SpongeBob would be an arocom, which doesn't make sense b/c it largely focuses on non-romantic plots (SpongeBob working at his job, failing to get his license, the general shenanigans he and his friends get into) and only addresses romance sparingly, depending on the plot of an episode.

It sucks to admit but at least from my perspective, in order for a piece of media to qualify as "aromantic/asexual media" in the heavily sex- and romance-catered media landscape, it kinda needs to address sex and romance in the first place. As wonderful as it would be to escape for a few hours to a book or show or game where romance isn't addressed at all and think of that as aro rep, you can't really call attention to a character's lack of romantic or sexual attraction without acknowledging, even indirectly, that those exact things exist within the text.

I'm not saying sex and romance are inherently bad either. There are aces who engage in sexual activities, aros who date, folks on both spectrums who engage in kink because kink is not inherently sexual and just approach relationships in so many incredibly nuanced ways. It's not just about aspecs also having parents and siblings and pets either, we have friends and coworkers and neighbors. We have interests and skills and hobbies. But it's not just the cishets who place sex and romance on such a high pedestal as "fundamental aspects of what makes people human", I see it within the LGBT community too. There are more than a few openly queer folks out there who don't know or have forgotten that because asexuality and aromanticism are a lack or absence of attraction (and thus a lack/absence of conformist heterosexuality), that we are, to varying degrees, queer as well. And thus media with aroace subtext (or just text for that matter) tends to get excluded from discussions of queer subtext.

I feel like I got a little off-topic and rambly but Idk I just think we need more aspec fiction where people are free to explore all spectrums of attraction as much as they want, ask questions about what defines a relationship, and just generally bear in mind relationship anarchy when they create. I'd like to see it in mainstream media but I'd also like to see it in fanfic too

(Btw everything I just said also extends to people who are poly)

[queerspectral]

Shoutout to aspecs who have dated/had sex but don't want to do so again.

Whether you thought you wanted it but later realised you didn't...

Whether you knew at the time you were just giving in to societal pressures but tried it anyway...

Whether you genuinely did want it at the time but don't any more...

Whether it was a great experience at the time or a terrible one...

Whatever the reason, it's okay to just. Stop.

You can always, always change your mind about whether dating or sex are things you want in your life. Maybe they once were. Doesn't mean they have to be now.

[skyedancer2006]

ASPEC PRIDE POST GO

Happy Pride Month to:

Alloaces and Aroallos

Gray Aces and Aros

Demisexuals and Demiromantics

Aegosexuals and Aegoromantics

Acespikes and Arospikes

Fictosexuals and Fictoromantics

Trans Aces and Aros

Nonbinary Aces and Aros

Xenogender Aces and Aros

Aspec system members

People who are Aspec due to trauma

Aces who want sexual relationships and Aros who want romantic relationships

Sex averse Aces and romance averse Aros

And any other aspec folks we didn’t mention here! All of yall are so cool and we hope you have a wonderful Pride Month!!

(Everyone feel free to add on other specific aspec labels that we didn’t include!)

[avenpt]

However you identify, we appreciate you, and you are valid. Remember, the ace and aro umbrellas are wide enough to fit you. Whether you're aegosexual, fictoromantic, grey-ace, demiromantic, or any other number of identities...you are valid.

[crystalsandbubbletea]

Just found an exclusionist who claimed asexual can't be a spectrum 💀

The username is @/girloninterweb