#im pro recovery

[0-0cloud0-0]

Your first thought when you wake up should be "I need to drink some water." not "What am I going to eat today?"

[pienhime]

this has been on my mind a while (and i think its one of the main reasons the overseas menhera comm is almost dead) but i think that what is "anti recovery" vs what is "pro recovery" vs what is considered those things on social media are very different.

"pro recovery" isnt "dont talk about the ugly side of your illness, dont vent, dont make art thats graphic, and ur not allowed to just exist unless ur constantly every day making the effort for improvement and trying to prove it thru what u post!! and ofc, dont be negative!! uwu medical motifs ONLY in menhera so you dont romanticize", its "do what you need to do to survive the day. use art to cope with your feelings, talk about it, you are allowed to exist and while getting better is a noble goal, its okay to just survive right now".

"anti recovery" isnt just... having a restrictive ED, a self harm addiction, or using drugs, its not "ugh i feel like giving up", its not making fucked up art or talking with others about the more intense of your issues and posting damage reduction. its not making aesthetic textposts to vent out your feelings and urges so you dont actually do the bad thing. it is not anti-recovery to struggle with those things, but it is ableist to shame people who struggle with them. what IS anti-recovery is actively encouraging others to cut deeper, lash out at their loved ones, sending suibait to people, and peddling the idea that making progress in recovery at all makes you less yourself. its okay to vent ab wanting to do those things and feeling those ways, as long as you arent actually encouraging others to do them. but assuming that every coping mechanism people have thats "problematic" makes them a horrible person is anti recovery as hell. we are mentally ill, of course some of us will cope in ways that arent ideal, but its better than nothing.

yet people in mental health spaces somehow have totally changed the meanings of the terms, just like they have with "glorifying" and "demonizing", so that its harder for those of us who struggle with highly stigmatized things to have a place. it almost feels like these "safe spaces" demonize and stigmatize people with EDs, active self harmers, and drug users & addicts more than the outside world sometimes. we are treated like we are somehow problematic for having those symptoms, and as anti-recovery if we dare to talk about them.

and most of all, if you go into mental illness related tags... dont bitch and moan when u see someone acting mentally ill you fucking weirdo

[diet7updrink]

I want to recover so badly i really want to I hate having these thoughts around food, weight, control I hate feeling this way I hate it all.

I want to be better but it's just so hard and NO ONE besides the ED community understands.

No one understands sitting in the bathroom over a toilet with a tooth brush trying and trying with no luck

No one understands having to walk even if its freezing/snowing/raining hell even hailing at times since its apart of your routine and you have to follow it.

No one understands cravings stronger then any non eating disorder person has ever experienced.

No one understands the binge restrict cycle

No one understands the binge purge cycle

No one understands the feeling of not being sick enough since in most countries help for this disorder is saved for the extremes.

No one understands the feel of going back to school after being hospitalized and everyone notices the obvious weight gain

No one understands the snickers from people since you gained weight and the comments!!!

No one understands wearing a winter coat suggled on top of a heater shivering well everyone else looks wondering why your so chilly.

No one understands passing out even worse when its in front of people.

And I don't want you to

[disc-0-nnect-ed]

I want to be frail and bony.

[bananonbinary]

devastating news folks: we did a bunch of spring cleaning and it does, in fact, make me feel better to have an uncluttered environment. big psychiatry won this one :/

[ilovethebittertaste]

Having a wide rib cage is a humbling experience

Cause even though my stomach is flat(partially) I still look disgusting in the front

[the-visionary-collective]

Hello all, this is another stance post!!

(More specifically my stances on recovery of mental health issues and physical health issues!!)

Nobody should be forced to go to therapy or any type of treatment for their mental health and nobody should be forced to to physical therapy or any type of treatment for their physical health!!

It is a good choice to recover from/treat negative symptoms mental and physical health but not a requirement to be a good person, its not selfish to not recover!!

[birdsribcage]

Tw: ed @na

I'm at a point that if I eat as much as I normally did my stomach hurts a lot and I love that

[d3vxoxo]

anyone got any metabolism booster tips?

[0-0cloud0-0]

right. just hear me out.

being skinny will make everything easier.

[chamiluna]

"pro recovery" bitches after mass reporting someone's vent account and getting them deleted (they will fall further into their issues and become weary of anyone who offers to help them):

[radinclus-not-radqueer]

if you don't wanna answer or I've misunderstood then feel free not to answer this! but you said in a post about people with paras being safe here, and you implied yourself being someone with a para who was lured in by radqueers to essentially accept your para. so my question is, when you tag things with like pro recovery from paras, does that mean you feel like you no longer have it? one thing that medical people always seem to say, and that radqueers say a lot, is that paras cannot be changed or overcome. which I'm sure is something that works as a strong motivation to draw in people with paras to just accept and embrace it. so I'm wondering what your experience has been now, recovering from a para in whatever way that means to you?

Recovering is mostly about overcoming the shame and guilt associated with paras, dealing with any trauma that may have caused them, and working to find coping mechanisms to not act on it. For the majority of people, you can't completely get rid of a paraphilia (just like you can't get rid of any other disorder/attraction).

Being pro recovery isn't about forcing people to "get rid of" their paraphilias (although radqueers try to claim it is), it's about supporting people getting help if they need it and also supporting people who don't need help.

Recovering means a lot of things to different people - in my experience, I've mostly tried to lessen the desire to act on my paraphilias via therapy and coping mechanisms, and recovered from being in pro-contact communities. For me, recovering has mostly meant healing the shame and guilt around being a paraphile, and working to not act on harmful paraphilias. I'm still a paraphile, I'm just a mostly-recovered paraphile because I don't feel shameful and guilty about it as much anymore and the desire to act on it is nowhere near as strong as it used to be.

[peenusmaximus]

"hateful people dni" lmfao too bad im a hater, im calling you out for me getting recommended pro ED content on my dash when i almost died from EDNOS and have been in recovery almost 10 years. now i'm not triggered for me, i've been safe a long time and i'm not worried about relapsing. but clearly you either dont know or just dont care that there's kids on this site, the history of pro ED content on this site, and how many people (including kids) have died from consuming this type of content. those of us that didn't incurred permanent damage to our health and cannot ever return to full health. if you don't give a fuck about yourself atleast give a fuck about what you might be distributing to people already on the brink of death, yes, including children. you might not blog pro ED content but if you boost it in the algorithm, you are partially responsible for the damage that incurs. most anamia forums have been shut down by now but it seems tumblr is still at it. if you're not going to get help at least try not to get any underage kids hooked on the drug we destroyed ourselves with by employing "misery loves company". i get it, i used to look at that kind of content myself. when i was a kid. a little kid. its disgusting. i didnt care about myself but i never wished it to get spread to anyone else. your participation in that world affects more than just you. i'm from florida too so miss me w the bullshit, i'm really not scared, go ahead and just delete this bc i'm a "hater" and not post it because i can guarantee you that you don't have a sensical defense for this when confronted by somebody who knows exactly how it feels and went through it themselves. this content ends innocent lives. you are contributing to it. i may not have died but i'll be damned if i don't stand up for those who remind me of me when i should've had someone stand up for me and didn't. let me guess, too long didnt read? you should be severely ashamed of yourself. if you dont want help, don't boost it where other people can see it. care about others besides just you. that's really it.

I've never ON PURPOSE interacted with pro-ed shit😭 I've been in recovery for over four years

I'm sorry

[disc-0-nnect-ed]

Just because you finish your fast doesn't mean you need to eat high cal foods!

I like to make low cal snacks the day before my fast ends to snack on, you can find many on Pinterest and they make nice portions too. I love to make a batch of low cal pancakes or cookies to munch on, and I feel a lot less guilty eating them.

Bigger portions, less cals or more cals less portions pick your poison!

[ex-radqueer-tim]

Lolisho isn't problematic because it could be used by predators, but because that is its only audience.

An adult who loves other adults doesn't feel the urge to see children in a sexual way. Fictional or not. End of story.

[ilovethebittertaste]

alright guys the day has come

it’s official my bday let us all hope today goes well & i don’t go overboard with eating 💀

because if something goes wrong today i’m going to lose my fucking mind

no pressure tho