#or aromantic and heterosexual

[woodsorrel00]

With the renewed (and thankfully mostly positive) ace and aro discourse, can people PLEASE start writing “cishet allos” instead of just “cishets” when referring to those outside the queer community. I mentally correct it and assume good faith when encountering it but it always stings a little. There are so many cis aces and aros who are hetero-oriented but that makes them no less valid. Thank you

[aromantic-allosexual]

shout out to heterosexual aromantics btw. shout out to straight aros. to the het-aros, as i like to call em because im a bit silly and i think it sounds fun. but yeah. shouts outs to u guys u guys seem rlly cool and chill

[till-dawn-do-us-part]

don't know who needs to hear this but being queer isn't a competition. if you're a homosexual transgender woman that doesn't make you "more queer" than say a straight transgender man or a cis bisexual person or a heteroromantic asexual person. this is not a hierarchy, this is a community. these labels aren't stars on a uniform determining your rank; just because you have more doesn't mean you are somehow superior to the other queer identities, they belong in the community just as much as you do.

[delulu-for-kylo]

Ken going in for a kiss while Barbie is smiling and screaming internally

When I say I have never felt more seen IN MY LIFE.

[drawing-dinos82]

I was wondering what people in the whump communities sexualities were since a large percentage seems to be neurodivergent and/or female.

Edit: Since some people are pointing out that aromatic is here, I wanted to specify what this poll is asking. It is asking what your romantic AND sexual orientation is, hence why there’s a button for multiple. No hate to any of the people who mentioned it and I can see where they’re coming from.

Reblog for a bigger sample size please.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

^^

[celestial-artisan]

Cakes and sexuality

There's a buffet restaurant full of cakes of all sorts- The two most popular ones are the chocolate cake and the cheesecake, but there are many others as well. Cakes are also sorted into two types, ones with a stronger flavor and ones with weaker flavors.

When you enter the restaurant, you get a ticket saying 'typical menu', with one of the popular cakes written on it.

Heterosexual: You eat the cake written on your ticket.

Homosexual: You eat the cake not written on your ticket.

Bisexual: You eat both. It's a buffet, so why not?

Omnisexual: All cakes are great, but you do take note of the flavor before you eat it.

Pansexual: You don't care about what flavor the cake is- Cake is cake. You can even put a blindfold around yourself and eat whatever you feel like.

Polyamorous: You eat two cakes at once, flavor of your choice, because why not? The combination's nice.

Demisexual/demiromantic: You need to know enough about the cake before wanting to eat it. You don't feel the urge to eat random pieces of cake.

Asexual, alloromantic: Cakes with strong flavors aren't to your taste. You go to the line of cakes with weaker flavors and pick one you like.

Asexual, aromantic: Cakes aren't for you. This doesn't mean you hate people who like cakes. You go to a different restaurant and have whatever food you like.

It's that simple. Cakes. Everyone has different preferences, and it's nothing to get worked up about. Basic common sense to simply respect each other, right?

Unfortunately, this isn't what's happening in our world. Just because you eat the cake not written on the ticket, people are condemned, berated, and abused. You're deemed wishy-washy or a fake when you say you like to eat more than one cake. People don't understand when you say weak-flavored cakes are fine- "Why can't you eat the strong ones, then? Those are 'real' cakes!" You're either called a cold-hearted psychopath or swamped with people trying to find you 'the cake' that can 'warm you up' when all you want is no cake.

But I want to tell everyone reading this, you're not alone. Whatever way you want to eat(or not eat) your cake(s), I fully support you. 'Cake is cake', and people who don't like cakes or can't eat them? Cool!

Have a nice day and don't be deterred by whatever may block your way- I'm sending a week full of good luck to you!!!!!! :D

[gloaming-sometimes]

dear transhets, mspecs who are mlw or wlm, aspecs who are mlw or wlm, straight lesbians/gays/mspecs, polyamorous straights or any other queer person who is attracted to the opposite gender i wish you a wonderful day & you are awesome & you belong in the queer community just as much as the rest of us & i hope the next time youre in a fast food drive thru line the orders get mixed up and you get more than what you payed for and its your favorite foods on the menu.

[our-aroace-experience]

Hi! I have a question: what does it mean to be heterosexual aromatic? I’ve been using the aromantic label for awhile because I’m not attracted to anyone, and I kind of assumed that’s just what being aro was? I’m pretty new at this (still in high school) and a little confused on labeling. I don’t mean this to poke fun at anyone I’m just confused

so aromantic means that you don't feel romantic attraction to anyone. asexual would be if you didn't feel any sexual attraction. aroace is for people who are both, or are on both spectrums.

heterosexual means you feel sexual attraction to a different gender to your own. so pairing that with aromantic means you don't feel romantic attraction to anyone but you feel sexual attraction to a different gender.

hope this helps!

[decayingdollette]

Is me specifying I’m arospec heterosexual minimizing the struggle of being open about one’s sexuality? Because despite being arospec and having struggles with it throughout my life I still have straight privilege so I don’t wanna be insensitive. I don’t feel comfortable calling myself a non-arospec straight person tho.

[tenaciousmusicalhell]

[realqueerpositivity]

The fuck do you think the A stands for?? This world is so normative of sex and romance that these people even get bashed in their own community. LGBTQ isn't just boykisser girlkisser!! Hope this helps 👍

Anyways I love you aroheteros. I love you aceheteros. I love you aroaceheteros. These people are assholes and I've officially decided that 2024 aphobia is cancelled

[gummy-axolotl]

Queer positivity post!! I love sapphic bi girls and trans lesbians and AFAB demi boys and AMAB demi girls and cishet intersex ppl and biromantic heterosexuals and homoromantic bisexuals and everyone on the asexual spectrum and everyone on the aromantic spectrum and all of the unlabeled people and all of the people with a million microlables and people with neopronouns all the they/thems and the xe/hirs and the she/hes and people who identify with one umbrella label and people who identify with specific categories and fem lesbians and masc gay men and heterosexual drag queens and queer people of color and neurodivergent queer folks and everyone under the whole rainbow! I love you all so much!! Thank you for making our community amazing!!!

[aroaceconfessions]

Hi, I identify as heterosexual aromantic, am I considered queer? Most people here who are aro are also non-heterosexual (ace, bi, gay etc.) so i’m confused with regards to my identity

Submitted June 9, 2023

[your-fav-is-aro-ace-spec]

I love Straight Aspecs <3

[lust-for-ultraviolence]