#pwnpd

[draculian-accomplishments]

Reminder for people with Personality Disorders:

You can be in therapy for years to be able to cope.

You can mask the difficulties you have.

You can cope well with your disorders.

You can function in daily life.

But the day you have a bad day, the day you're so overwhelmed that the mask slips and you simply say one thing, the neurotypicals will use it against you and use it to abuse you.

Abuse is a choice. Abusers make the choice to abuse someone. Not every abuser has a personality disorder. There are plenty of abusers that are Neurotypical. Plenty of neurotypicals will abuse those with PDs due to the stigma and misinformation around them.

Quit using terms like "Narcissistic/Histrionic/Borderline/Anti-Social Abuse"

Quit using "Narcissist" and "Anti-Social" as insults.

Quit justifying abuse towards people with PDs.

Quit armchair diagnosing abusers and assholes with Personality Disorders when you don't know the lived experience of people with them.

Stop fucking appealing to Neurotypicals.

[aaaah-realfeelings]

egotypicals are like “i KNOW this person is a NARCISSIST because THEY DID EVERYTHING WRONG TO ME but I did absolutely NOTHING WRONG i am 1000% the VICTIM in this situation and only did GOOD THINGS. GREAT THINGS! Them = BAD ME = GOOD” and be completely serious. lol guess who you sound like

[dodgeryy]

Let's settle this home boys.

[narcpocalypse]

NPD consumes me

But ya know what I consume?

UR MOM

[interruptedsblog]

I don't understand pwbpd who have partners and are in love, how do they maintain long-term love? I can't "love" someone for more than two months, I always end up devaluing them, I don't feel real love, I only feel sexual attraction and obsession, but not love.

[goddesschan]

❛ ㅤㅤ𝜗ㅤㅤ﹒ㅤCinderella Npd Flag ㅤ. . .

❥　　( ˘ ³˘)　♡　 ⁺　 a flag for PWNPD who's favourite princess is cinderella 　　∿

[front-ill]

Demoting a term for abuse that is characterized by why someone does something versus what one does in regards to abuse removes the responsibility of the person at hand for being abusive, and instead moves the blame on something other than the person. Which is why narcissistic abuse as a concept is harmful. While you can have terms that demote the specific TYPE of abuse, example being sexual abuse, you can't put it on a term where it isn't a type of abuse. You can't call someone a narcissistic individual AND believe that narcissism (in an ableist sense) are both real because YOU remove the blame onto a term where that term describes certain actions and symptoms of a mental disorder.

Oh, and if you believe that narcissism and NPD aren't the same, you're not sneaky when you claim that narcissistic abuse holds NPD tendencies and symptoms (example being entitlement or being hurt from criticism). Even if you do it subtly.

[basalts-system]

I love my little brother so much.

He has BPD and struggles with accepting when he's wrong about something.

But he like always tells me when hes still in defense mode.

He's always like.

Give me a moment. And then I give him a moment.

Guys it's not hard to Respect pw/pd

Yes, and I shouldn't have to say this, this goes for all pd

Also npd

[starryjoy]

having "give me attention" disease together with "everybody else is undeserving" disease is hell for a bad poster in the social media age

[ppd-culture-is]

NPD co morbid w PPD culture is being SO paranoid of EVERYTHING your reputation, your friends, all that stuff but having npd makes you wanna seem stainless so you make a huge effort to hide it and then hating that there's no representation for it. Like im not obvious unless im with ppl who im SUPER close with (one person) so no one clocks me and therefore cant ruin my reputation or get under my skin in that sense

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[thatnarcissisticfeel]

I think everyone on NPD tumblr can agree that the term “narcissist abuse” is ableist as fuck, but it specifically pisses me off because a lot of narcissists either WERE abused/neglected — even if it wasn’t abuse that caused one’s NPD, most narcissists are abused when people find out about our diagnosis. Sometimes we’re abused medically, sometimes people we’re in relationships (whatever type of relationship that might be) abuse us.

And I think that “narcissist abuse” could’ve been a great term in those situations.

“narcissist abuse” could’ve meant “abuse of the narcissist”, but instead it’s a term that ableist people use to armchair diagnose people who were shitty to them.

Obviously the notion that my disorder makes me inherently abusive really hurts, but tbh, so does the fact that there’s no real way to talk about or research abuse and NPD now. One quick google search of “narcissistic personality disorder and abuse” just turns up a bunch of results about ALL NARCISSISTS ARE ABUSIVE MONSTERS and NOTHING about how NPDs GET abused!

[draculian-accomplishments]

Quirky NPD Ask Game!

🥀 - Favorite unusual compliment? (ie "You're crunchy")

💌 - Your biggest accomplishment right now?

💎 - Favorite thing about yourself? (Appearance, personality, etc)

🩰 - What's your favorite supply right now?

🎀 - What character do you feel represents NPD best?

🥧 - Preferred way to treat yourself in a narc high?

🌓 - Any other PDs you have?

🎼 - A song you feel represents NPD?

🗯️ - Favorite NPD meme?

🛎️ - A silly or unorthodox coping mechanism?

🗝️ - Favorite quote you can relate to NPD?

🏩 - What do you love about being a narcissist?

🌌 - Least favorite NPD stereotype? (Can be fictional or real!)

🪄 - Highest D&D stat?

Image ID: DNI Narc "Abuse" blogs, demonize Cluster B Disorders, use "Narcissist" as an insult, Etc. Don't be a dick.

[angelwithnpd]

tumblr has seriously helped so much the last couple weeks with getting my diagnosis, like i was genuinely so confused bc i never thought i was like how they portray pwnpd to be. i have learned so much thanks to you guys and im seriously so thankful and grateful.. thank u all for being so open and real about the truth and everything you (we) struggle with. this opened my mind to so many things and ultimately led me to acceptance. i don’t have to cure myself or fix myself, i did nothing wrong but i have found new ways to cope & new resources. again im just thankful for this community.

[deakwithit]

does anyone have some npd resources that dont demonize it? i struggle with it but i cant help myself when i look up "npd" and get "how to destroy a narcissist with just 5 words" or "how narcissists ruin your life"...i just want to know whats wrong with me PLSS

[zippertitz]

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[baudelaire09]

ache of narcissism

by felix baudelaire

do you think when narcissus first looked in that pool,

he saw for the first time someone worth loving,

and, carried in the reflection of the water,

he finally saw his own worth?

do you think before

he spent so long avoiding his reflection

because he only craved it reflected in the eyes of the ones who adored him?

because it was the only way he knew his worth was true-

that praise, the recognition-

something he craved like ambrosia,

wishing to be a god just to taste the truth

do you think when he caught himself looking in the mirror,

he scrutinized every detail,

scraped across his reflection over and over again,

catching every imperfection, staring

until he could not bear to feel anymore,

swearing to himself he would be perfect

if he could just

try harder

do you think narcissus was very lonely?

and although he might have seen the love he was presented with,

savored it like a sweet blessing;

still it felt hollow and temporary,

still he craved and lusted for the feeling of it

do you think when he saw himself after his curse,

he saw his beauty in a way he could accept it,

with softness and silver moonlight,

and he felt something deep after being stuck

so sharp and shallow and lifeless?

do you think when he got stuck looking at himself,

after so much mockery and scorn,

he realized the only acceptance he craved was his own?

and, reflected, was like sweet ambrosia easing his hunger;

he didn’t want to look away for fear of feeling it again,

he would rather have rotted to a corpse never feeling it

than rip himself away and crave endlessly again

do you think i’m a narcissist if

i feel his cravings echo centuries later,

his hungering for godhood

and adoration,

his yearning for something to drag me in and

let me linger,

for something that will make me taste

that sweet ambrosia,

something that will let me love myself;

or do you think i’m just self absorbed?