#quasiplatonic relationship

[auggie-poggie]

I totally do NOT have a huge squish on my friend 👀

[allthoughts-headgay]

ayo does anyone have a better way to explain a qpr than “friends but more”

i rlly don’t like using amatonormative terms for an inherently non-amatonormative relationship but idk how else to easily describe what i’m talking ab to someone who doesn’t know what it is w/out giving them an essay lol

[august-beee]

Radfem friendly quasiplatonic relationship flags!

I made these flags just for fun for any radfems in quasiplatonic relationships :)

[smoft-demons]

About pacts

The game is kinda ABOUT the pacts, but somehow I feel like the concept is not fleshed out enough in canon. So I’m fixing that! I am making them so fluffy, I am developing them into the magic QPR bond of my dreams lol

(Brief mentions of blood and sex under the cut, be warned)

Ok so. In the game, the pacts have four key functions: 1, allows the human to give the demon binding orders. 2, gives the human a way to amplify the demon’s abilities and strengths. 3, implied, gives the demon a way to do the same thing for the human, to lend them their own strength. 4, allows the human to summon the demon basically for free. Have him on speed dial, I suppose. Summon with no ritual, no spell components, no nothing except an incantation.

That’s cool, I like that. But like,, iirc the game says nothing of the mechanics of this, or how the pacts feel!

I think pacts should be a mildly psychic connection. Nothing like what Beel and Belphie have going on, and no actual ability to put words telepathically in your demon’s head (and vice versa), but like… an Awareness of each other, muted and vague when you’re not actively reaching out through the pact, but just enough that like,, you can feel them vaguely in the back of your mind. You know they’re alive, and you can mentally reach for them if you want to.

When you ARE using the pact, it doesn’t HAVE to be for one of the aforementioned four functions. It can also be… just a mild mental ping, like tugging on a string or tapping them lightly to get their attention. When they reach back, the bond opens up a little bit more, to allow the passage of emotions, flashes of memories, even awareness of about how far you are from each other and what direction you’re in. All entirely voluntary, no invasive mind-reading, but you can mentally share what you want with each other.

I feel like the pacts don’t have to imply romance. But, they DO imply partnership—not necessarily exclusive partnership, in fact probably it isn’t an exclusive sort of thing by default. Plenty of demons have multiple humans, and plenty of humans have multiple demons. The sort of partnership that doesn’t really have a standard box to fit into by average human reckoning. Queerplatonic partnership. Close, emotionally intimate, committed, devoted. But not necessarily having anything to do with attraction, romance, any of that.

These pacts can be purposely strengthened, to make communicating with each other like this easier. Strengthening the signal, if you will.

The key to that is two things: emotional intimacy/trust, and sharing vitality (or however you wanna phrase it. Vitality, life, essence, soul, etc. I mean this to encompass a few different things, and none of those words is a perfect fit for all of them. Let’s say there’s an untranslatable word in infernal that fits perfectly). Specifically, the human and the demon make mental contact through the pact with the intent to strengthen the bond, then do whichever of the sharing vitality/essence/life/soul things that they feel like doing.

For example:

Kissing. An emotionally intimate thing to do that involves sharing fluid. DNA counts as essence, and this is a way of combining it. A textbook, effective way to reinforce a close bond. Doesn’t even strictly have to be romantic! It CAN be for sure, and usually is, but like… you can also kiss the homies out of platonic affection if you want to. Especially if the homies in question are demons in a pact with you. This is normal and chill to them.

Also, simply sharing the same air! Pressing foreheads together (think keldabe kiss minus the helmets), noses touching (i think this is called kunik). Sharing breath. This absolutely counts as sharing vitality. Also, afaik this is a thing people would only have the instinct to do with someone they really love. It’s such a soft, peaceful thing that doesn’t make sense in any other context but trust and devotion and emotional intimacy. Super good way of reinforcing a close bond!

Obviously sex works for this too. Obviously. It ticks all the boxes: reinforces a close bond, combining vitality/essence, can be very emotionally intimate. Probably the most textbook option.

In the other direction, possibly not quite as expected but totally works if you think about it: bloodshed. I’m sure it’s common enough in the ritually combining blood sort of way, but also… think about fighting at your pacted demon’s side, or getting wounded and then being rescued (seems more likely, especially in part 1), and both of you bleeding. Physically supporting each other, spilling your vitality onto each other, each wiping blood off of the other and patching each other up in the aftermath of an altercation. Really, you can’t get more devoted and trusting than that.

Food, as well. Taking a bite of something, then feeding a bite to your pact partner. Your food is the source of your vitality, in a similar way to breath. It’s your life. Sharing food with this intent absolutely works. It works even better if it’s food you made, and/or familiar food that you love in such a way that it’s part of your identity. That way, it works twofold. The physical effect of metabolizing the food is your vitality, and the identity aspect—feeding a loved one something that resonates with who you are—is sharing your essence/soul.

This one’s a bit of a reach, but I think it still works—tears. Experiencing something that makes both pact partners cry, be it a sad story, an emotional conversation, painful events, etc. Supporting each other through that, feeling compassion for each other, comforting each other. There’s no shortage of intimacy, devotion, and trust in this. On both an emotional and physical level, this counts as sharing soul/essence/life.

Sharing soul/vitality/essence/life (whatever the fitting word for this in infernal would be) on purpose like this would absolutely bring pacted partners closer together. Strengthens the bond between them, helps them understand each other, reinforces the love. Strengthen a pact enough and eventually you won’t even need the incantation to summon that demon.

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(I am planning to put this in my rewrite of obey me season 1 with my own MC, of course. Once I progress enough to start posting it, that is lol)

(but also, maybe, if I find the inspiration, I might write gn reader!MC oneshots with these concepts. Pls let me know if you think I should try! Also, anyone is more than welcome to use this for your own writing if you want)

EDIT: I wrote a oneshot! The time when my MC found out that strengthening pacts is a thing, with Beel and Mammon. Here it is!

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

I love that calling him my friend, partner, best friend and boyfriend are all terms that can and do coexist with the same level of importance and meaning

[just-being-aroace]

Relationships which have super strong qpr vibes and no one can convince me otherwise:

Aziraphale & Crowley

Sherlock & John

Legolas & Gimli

[glorious-asexual]

oh! i just realized that i can make an actual poll with this question now!

im not sure exactly how to phrase it, so please read below for clarifications on the question

i wanted to get more specific with the answers but there aren't enough options, so definitely feel free to get specific in tags/replies if you want! I'd also appreciate this being spread around more please 💜

also, for clarities sake:

QPR - Queer or Quasi Platonic Relationship.

As far as this poll goes, "anyone" includes that both/all people who are part of it do not need to be aspec whatsoever. So 2 allo queer people, or 1 straight person and 2 queer people, or 2 straight people could be in a QPR (in the last case I believe that the Q would stand more for quasi than queer?)

[also: I'm not excluding aspec people as queer, but I'm separating them in these for clarity]

this is a good-faith question! please do not start fights on this post or in general. i just want an idea of what people think.

[alterousuggestion]

what would you say if i wanted you the way the sun wants the moon . in an orbit , paired , never touching. always together , never together , eclipsing just for a moment. what if i said i sometimes wonder what it would be like to hold you . to be held by you . to be the one who shared an identical set of keys with . the one you turn to when things get hard . the one you ask for forever from . my lovely best friend , please don’t cry . i think we always knew this would be the way we ended up . full minds , an endless list of what ifs .

[qpr-culture-is]

Hello and welcome!

This is a culture is blog for queer/quasiplatonic relationships. Feel free to send asks starting with something like "qpr culture is" (things relating to qprs such as polycules, squishes, and qpps are perfectly fine too). If you'd like your ask to be a little more specific (ex. autistic qpr culture is, aroace qpr culture is, long distance qpr culture is) that is more than perfectly fine as well.

Please be aware that I usually try to post asks starting with the oldest ones first, so if I currently have a lot in my inbox it may take a while to post yours, but I promise that I'll try to get to it.

If you have any questions about qprs (or related topics) you can either dm me, send them in the asks, or send a message in the qpr discord server (linked below), and I'll try to answer your questions to the best of my ability. I prioritize questions and will try to answer them as soon as I can (they're exempt to the earlier stated rule of posting oldest asks first). If you want multiple perspectives on a matter, I suggest asking in the discord server. I will also note that I occasionally do ask for others advice on questions I dont have an answer to or have mixed opinions on in the discord server, but when I do I usually say so in the post. if you are uncomfortable with that, and would prefer I answer the question without the help of others, please tell me that in the ask.

more information about the blog and myself below the cut (as well as the discord server link)

link to the qpr discord server:

this link is permanent and shouldn't expire, if you have difficulties with it just let me know through messages or an ask. the server is a place to share thoughts, experiences, rants, ask questions, and make friends. you don't need to be in a qpr, or even want to be in one for that matter, to join as long as you're respectful and want to learn more about qprs or make friends within our community.

I'd prefer anyone that joins the server be 13 years or older because discord is a teen rated app (and there are many adults on the server). there is little to no explicit content mentioned on there, so I won't limit sources to those younger than 13 and say you're not allowed at all, just know I don't prefer it.

this server is also surely not limited to just qpr related conversations. like I said anyone interested in the community can join and have respectable convos about different things on there.

a little bit about me (the admin of this blog)

I'm Sam, I usually prefer they/them pronouns but they/he/she are also fine as long as you use them interchangeably (I don't mind it/its or xe/xem either but the others are preferred). I'm fine with just about any compliments (fem, masc, and gn). mx is preferable as well but ma'am is also fine

as for my labels, im greyromantic ace and trans (somewhere under the genderqueer and nonbinary umbrellas)

ive only been in one qpr before (and it didn't exactly last long), but despite the fact I have a good bit of knowledge on qprs and am constantly trying to learn more to help others

Frequently asked questions

Can you be allo and still be in a qpr?

Of course! If the label feels comfortable use it

Can you have a queerplatonic partner and a romantic partner?

If the people you want to be your partners are comfortable with it, absolutely.

What exactly is a qpr, in simple terms?

They can be any relationship that doesn't feel quite like they fit the romantic or platonic labels. usually they do have the commitment of that of a romantic relationship but don't fully fit that label. they can be different for every queerplatonic couple

anyone is welcome to this blog as long as they're respectful

other information

im a bit forgetful and not always the most consistent with posting, but I surely will try my best with it

please use tone tags when necessary

please use caution/trigger warnings in asks when they apply

dni if:

you're in any way queerphobic

you're a terf

you're racist or ableist

you're hateful towards minority groups

you're hateful towards people because of (non toxic) religious beliefs

you intend to spread hateful or negative comments

if you violate the dni list above or make any rude or negative comments you will be blocked- there are no exceptions. this is a place for positivity. if you don't have anything nice to say don't bother typing.

[as8bakwthesage]

Thorin: What is wrong with you?!

Sercewe: Well, I have Borderline Personality Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and I have the 'Tism. Any other silly questions?

Thorin: What?!?!

[qpp-love]

happy valentines day to all of you, tell your friends and qpps that you love them :D

[acelor-acetaylorswift]

Aroace flag: A Pride Month Photo Essay

🖤💜🤍 this is acelor where we document every time Taylor has looked like the asexual flag (black, grey, white, and purple stripes) or aromantic flag (green, black, grey, white) 🤍💚🖤

[lilaromon]

ıts over for us

my, now ex, queerplatonıc partner and l ɓroke up. l feel a lıttle sad ɓut otherwıse lm completely fıne. ıts weırɗ ɓecause l wısh l was more ınvested but honestly, lm not. oh well, aŋyways...

can aŋyone else relate??

[august-beee]

Fellow radfems what is your opinion on relationship anarchy and quasiplatonic relationships?

Relationship anarchy- the application of anarchist principles to intimate relationships. Its values include autonomy, anti-hierarchical practices, anti-normativity, and community interdependence. RA is explicitly anti-amatonormative and anti-mononormative and is commonly, but not always, non-monogamous.

Quasiplatonic relationship-a close non-sexual, non-romantic relationship that is beyond what most would consider to be a friendship. It consists of emotional commitment and prioritization that is typically seen in a romantic relationship.

[ah0yh0y]

the carressing of a face cept both of them slap their hand onto the others face like you would slap a bag of rice 

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

So I recently asked my best friend to be my qpp and he said yes!! On my birthday!

Apparently he's had a side blog for ranting about his feelings for me for quite a while now, and I thought that seemed like a good idea. So here we are.

For context we're both various flavours of aroace and had been close for a while but I wanted the commitment so. Yay!

Anyways if you're him and you found this no you didn't.

For everyone else, this will be my feelings dump, which I hope you can find entertaining or even a little inspiring - I'm more than happy to answer any asks about all things qpr and aromantic, or even any random questions.

Have a nice day!