#self dx safe

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

Having AvPD is like: I’m so open, everyone knows everything about me. That’s terrifying, everyone must hate how much I share. God I feel so exposed I feel sick. And the last time you opened up to someone was October of 2021 when you told your mom you were a little stressed.

[morris-mogai]

Hey y'all it's been a while but I made this last night and wanted to share it!

This is a flag for general dissociation! So it can be just to blanket one's dissociative disorders, to represent one's specific one, for those who dissociate frequently or rarely, for those who's dissociation is linked to a specific disorder or for those who's isn't! It's just for Dissociation as a whole.

I'll add an image ID later on bc I have to get in the shower now but I hope the disabled and ND communities enjoy this

[xqueerneurosisx]

Full offense, and sorry not sorry, but if a person tells you that they have an experience, and then they give you a name for their experience uh that’s all you fucking need*. Just call it what they named it.

You aren’t saving anyone or anything by trying to pick apart and redefine, or outright deny the existence of the name- you think you know something better about, for not your experience to begin with. In fact, that’s called gaslighting. You are gaslighting a random person based on your own ignorance. And yes, it is ignorant, because you didn’t fucking learn a damn thing about an experience- that again isn’t yours, if you didn’t fucking listen to the person who initially described it. Cut that toxic shit out!!

*Yes, I still do mean within safety/good faith reason.

[happyflappysystem]

This hits different as a system lol

[void-watcher-eldri]

The birther: "hehe u were born 2 months early n doctors said you'd very likely to have issues hehe but ur perfectly fine :)"

The body, Us: Needed a reading tutor in 1st-2nd grade b/c literally couldn't read out loud without stuttering, still stutter periodically to this day. Struggle with fatigue, heat intolerance, food sensitivities, used to talk a lot but stopped due to key memory of them mocking me saying maybe I have tourettes, barely talk now. Lots of dissociation and missing memories. Hallucinations. Weird pain tolerance. Questioning if intersex due to slightly "off" body features. Out of breath due to going up a flight of stairs.

(Anyways she also always refused to take us to the doc for literally anything, when our appendix popped off she waited a whole ass day to take us to a doctor. The body has a bad stomach, probably a family thing b/c we all do tbh.)

Anyways fuck ableism, self-dx is valid, idk what else to put here but it's hot in my room n im tired lol.

Not everyone has safe and/or affordable access to diagnoses and treatment, nor does everyone want a diagnosis that can hinder life plans due to structural ableism. Fakeclaiming someone's disability/mental illness/neurodivergency for not having and/or wanting a diagnosis IS ableist.

[cksinsanitycontrodump]

You do not know how long I've been waiting to speak up about this as someone who lives under the USA's hEAlthcare system and under someone who doesn't take mental health seriously and as a result isn't able to even speak to a cheap online therapist, let alone get a professional medical diagnosis for anything, physical or mental and has no choice but to do extensive research and stupid online assessments

Still not gonna self-dx with any dissociative disorders, though

Also, I'm looking over this and noticing I spelled environment wrong in the comic :|

———–-•-–———

[ID: A two panel, poorly drawn black and white comic.

The first panel has a person wagging their finger dismissively with a stern expression on their face. The person says, "You shouldn't self-diagnose, it's bad! Go get an official diagnosis by a professional!"

The second and last panel has a person leaning on something, presumably the bottom border of the comic, as their hand is in the air and they have an annoyed, sarcastic expression on their face. They say, "Why, yes, because yea, everyone who self-diagnoses is in a position to see a medical expert..! They clearly have the finances for it! They're clearly in an enviro[n]ment that isn't ablest or anything!"

End ID.]

[nyanfever]

not to fakeclaim, and i mean this in the nicest way possible, but dear younger teenagers on npdblr, please be aware that you're still in your adolescence, and your personality is still developing. there's a pretty big chance you don't have npd, and you're going through a phase, which isn't a bad thing at all. phases are fine, personality changes are fine, and if you end up not having npd, that's fine too.

[nabbit-unmasked]

Blech, I feel icky from all the shaming and gatekeeping I've seen today.

Another quick reminder that this blog welcomes:

• endos and mixed-origin systems/pluralities/multiplicities

• factkin and factives

• therians/otherkin/fictionkin/etc. who chose their identity

• placekin who are societally controversial places

• fans from any fandom

• identity and pronoun hoarders

• self diagnosis

• mspec gays and lesbians

This does not mean that all of these apply to me. In fact, only 3 of them do (the first, fourth, and seventh). This also does not mean that I exclusively support the groups listed here.

Also, reminder that I also do not have a DNI. Although, I do block accounts I'm uncomfortable with!

[borderline-culture-is]

self dx bpd culture is less than an hour ago being -

"everyone hates me. I am the true scum of the earth. even my gf has beef with me. kids at school don't like me. everything sucks and I should just off myse-"

then being -

"omg music!!! =33"

intense mood swings gonna be the death of me ngl

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[astrangerthatlovesyou]

If you have AvPD, something you’re going to have to face is that, yes, plenty of people are going to dislike you. They’re going to hate you, they’re going to reject you. It’s a fact of life that everyone faces.

There isn’t a form you can beat yourself into that’s going to change that. You can’t bully yourself into being palatable to everyone, you won’t ever even be that palatable to most people, nothing is.

But you won’t get the connection you want if you reduce yourself to almost nothing. There has to be something real for people to connect to.

In the end, you have to be a version of yourself you’re comfortable with when nobody is looking. You are the only person you can’t avoid, make friends with yourself, I promise the rest will come if you let it.

You are important! You deserve to love yourself. You deserve to be yourself. You do NOT have to do anything before you’re allowed to show yourself compassion. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, you’re allowed to be you. You’re perfect.

I love you, exactly as you are, I’m excited to love the person you are when not hiding.

You’re doing great.

[kyofsonder]

I saw someone learning about their own dissociative tendencies and taking the DES-II (Dissociative Experiences Scale) test as a first step in seeing if they want to really dig in and learn to navigate their experiences.

It's only 28 questions, so it can't cover everything -- and some of the terminology it uses is a little outdated. Even so, it's interesting and useful and can be helpful even when your answers are uncertain.

If there are others with (un-dx'ed, self-dx'ed, pro-dx'ed, etc.) anxiety disorders, PTSD/CPTSD, BPD, DID, non-plural dissociative disorders, non-traumagenic plurality, autism, ADHD, etc. who want to check out their dissocation levels as a first step toward further exploration or as a confirmation of a diagnosis or just for fun, I recommend giving it a try. It shouldn't be taken as an official professional diagnosis or the final say on your experiences, but it might offer some perspective of some kind.

[redtail-lol]

Idk how people will be anti self dx and then call sb a narcissist like so I can't diagnose myself based on my lived experiences and research because I don't have the qualifications to diagnose others but you who also doesn't have that qualification can diagnose people with a disorder you probably barely know about?

This post is not about being concerned and telling someone you know personally that they should look into something to see if that might be the case, that's a suggestion. This post is talking about people who are making videos on YouTubers who get exposed and calling them narcissists like... You don't even know them. Besides they usually won't even show signs of NPD, they'll just be manipulative and maybe have a pretty big ego and sense of self importance but none of the other signs, like an unstable sense of self, need to be praised, or a genuine lack of empathy* are present. And that's only to name a few symptoms, others also rarely appear when these YouTubers get called narcissists for being bad people. A narcissist is not the same as being a bad person, you can't call everyone you don't like a narcissist. Despite the people I'm specifically referring to, this post can also be about anyone calling somebody, even someone they know, a narcissist without having a single clue how the person thinks or what narcissism even is.

*A lack of empathy is not the same as not caring about others. Empathy is the ability to understand how others feel, and to feel with them. A lack of empathy is not a lack of compassion. It does not mean you don't care about others. It means you can't really understand how others feel. You can't read their feelings and you don't feel a certain way just because they feel a certain way. People who don't have empathy can still care about others and people who have empathy don't necessarily care about the feelings of other people. Being able to understand the feelings of others doesn't necessarily mean you give a shit about the way they feel, and you may even find delight in someone being upset if you wanted them to hurt.

[xqueerneurosisx]

Hot take: to self dx with something is absolutely not the same as faking that disorder, disability, disease, or mental health condition. Those are two different/separate topics, and quite bluntly, fuck you whom treat them as one and the same.

[insidethecracks]

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[the-npd-culture-is]

Self-diagnosed npd culture is "probably I'm faking it to feel special" *proceeds to spend half an hour adoring their own body while looking in the mirror, falling in love with their own reflection like fucking Narcissus*.

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[thehareswears]

Being in undiagnosed mental anguish is doing everything in my power to avoid emotional discomfort because I absolutely cannot afford a crisis when I can't self regulate

I will do everything humanly possible to get any small amount of attention I can for a supply. I would rather set myself on fire than be bored. I will hurt myself and tend to my own wounds before I let myself feel neglected. Any emotion I cannot change or fix gets smoked or drank away, I absolutely refuse to face my feelings because they're bigger than I am