#writer is genderqueer

[gor3sigil]

Before starting T, when I socially transitionned, I was surrounded by radical feminists who saw masculinity as gross and inherently evil, something to avoid, something to make fun of, something to destroy. The other transmascs in my friend group, sometimes, told me that they didn’t knew if they really were non-binary or if they just were scared shitless of saying “I am a man”. Because they saw this as a betrayal to their younger self who had been SAd and abused.

I saw many of my masc friends and trans men around me hate themselves, not outing themselves as men because it would imply so so much, it was like opening the Pandora Box. Even when we were just together, talking about our masculinity was always coated with bits like “I know we’re the privileged ones but…”, “I don’t want to sound like I have it bad but…”, “Women obviously have it worse, but last time…” and we were talking about terrible traumas we experienced while taking all the precautions in the world in the case the walls were a crowd of people in disguise waiting to get us if we didn’t downplay the violence we faced, or like crying and being upset and being traumatized and afraid and scared and to say it out loud would make us throw up the needles we were forced to swallow every second of every day living in our skin.

Most of us weren’t on T yet, some of us were catcalled every day and harassed in the streets or in abusive relationships nobody seemed to care to help them get out of because they were “strong enough” to do it by themselves.

I was using the gender swap face app and cried for ours when I saw my father looking back at me through the screen. The idea of transforming, of shedding into a body that would deprive me of love, tenderness, and safety, was absolutely terrifying. I knew I couldn’t stay in this body any longer because it wasn’t mine, but I also knew that if I was going to look like my dad, my brother, my abusers, it would be so much worse.

5 years later and I’m almost 2 years on T, and almost 2 months post top surgery.

I ditched my previous group of friends. I was bullied out of my local trans community. But let me tell you how free I am.

I was scared that T would break my singing voice: it made it sound more alive than ever.

I was scared that T would make me less attractive: it made me find myself hot for the first time in my life.

I was scared that T would make me gain weight: it did. But the weight I put on is not the weight I used to put on by binging and eating my body until I forgot that it even existed. It’s the weight of my body belonging to me, little by little. The wolf hunger for life.

I won’t tell you the same story I see everywhere, the one that goes “I started going to the gym 8 times a week, I put on some muscles, I started a diet and now I look like an action film actor”, in fact if you took pictures of me from 5 years ago vs now I’d just have more acne, I’d have longer hair and still look like I don’t know what to do with myself when I take selfies.

But the sparkle in my eyes, my smile, tell the whole story way better than this long ass stream of words could ever.

I want to say some things that I wish someone told me before starting medically transitionning.

It’s okay to take your time. It’s your body, it’s your journey, if you don’t feel comfortable taking full doses and want to go slow, the only voice you need to listen to is your own. Do what feels right.

If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break, it’s okay to ask for support.

Trans people are holy. Everyone is. You didn’t lose your angel wings when you came out because you want to be masculine. You are not excluded from the joy of existence, from being proud of yourself, from being sad, from being scared, from being angry. The emotions and feelings you allowed yourself to feel while processing what you experienced when you grew up as a girl and was seen as a woman are still as valid as before. Nobody can take that from you. If someone tries to, don’t let them.

It’s perfectly normal to grieve some things you were and had before you started to transition, like your high soprano voice or even your chest. Hatching is painful. You can find comfort in things that don’t feel right, so making the decision to change can be incredibly scary and weird and you deserve to be heard and supported through this. Wanting top surgery doesn’t make the surgery less intense, less terrifying, less painful to recover from. When it becomes too much you have the right to take a break and take some deep breaths before going on.

You don’t have to have a radical, 180° change for your transition to be acceptable or valid or worthy of praise. Look at how far you’ve come already. It doesn’t have to show, you’re not made to be a spectacle, you’re human and it is your journey.

Oh, and last thing, you know when some people say “Oh this trans person has to grow out of the cringy phase where you think that you can write essays about being trans or transitionning or just their experience because it’s weird” ? If you ever hear this or see this online, remember all the people whose writing you read and, even if they were not professional writers, helped you more than any theorists did ? If you want to write, do it. It won’t be a waste. It can help people. Or it won’t, and even then, if it helped you, that’s enough.

Love every of my trans siblings, take care of yourselves. You deserve the world.

[longlostlesbian]

no matter what anyone says. im still trans. i could stay in the closet forever and i’d still be trans. you could misgender me on my headstone and i’d still be trans.

even if the world “eradicates” trans people, i’d still be trans. if there wasn’t a word for transgender i would still be trans. if transgender people were erased from history we would still be trans, because we existed and we were trans.

i am and will always be transgender. no matter what people say about us. we have always been here and we still always stay here, even if you dont like it.

[yourdailyqueer]

Shiri Eisner

Gender: Non binary - Genderqueer (she/they)

Sexuality: Bisexual

DOB: N/A

Ethnicity: Mizrahi Jewish

Nationality: Israeli

Occupation: Activist, writer

[blitzosicedcoffee]

I don't have the hots for my own characters....

(They're still unnamed until the polls are done)

[humbly-a-doppelganger]

Happy pride month to all my characters and all the other queer ocs (+ writers) around writeblr! Would love to know about them <3

[imbecominggayer]

Writing Advice: Characterization

Sometimes, the best inspiration for how you should characterize your character is how they first appear and struggle you have with writing them.

For example, when it comes to writing a character's sexuality or gender identity, I just let my struggle decide.

For example, I knew Théo was a trans woman before she knew since she kept switching between appearing as a man and as a woman so much. Eventually my brain decided "woman" but I decided to bring up her past with dicks by making her a trans woman.

Or Claude Covarrubias who gave me the biggest chase for gender i've ever seen! Genuinely, I kept trying to get a lock on their gender but it was futile as a cat trying to catch a bird from outside. I eventually decided that their gender was "ambiguous". What genitalia were they born with? I don't know. What do they identify as now? Murderer

Or Atlas who could not make up his fucking mind about his gender. Were they trans or cis? We didn't know. Woman, man, or nonbinary? We didn't know. So, Atlas was born into this world as Intersex but only discovered this fact through puberty when he randomly developed breasticles. They identify as nonbinary(genderqueer) and can go with any pronouns.

Basically, use your struggles to define your characters. Can't decide if they are paranoid or laidback? Make that their character struggle!

[thenamecompendium]

Hi, we're the Name Compendium.

Are you a writer tired of spending hours upon hours sorting through names for one character? Are you a trans person or a member of a system who isn't quite sure what to name yourself? We're the Name Compendium, and our goal is to help you find a perfect name for that perfect person or animal, plant or mythical creature, whatever your reason.

We publish one or two Names of the Day with etymology when available, and sometimes do mass name posts with special themes. We tag posts by the name's traditional gender along with its origin around the world. Origin tags look like "#spanish origin", and gender tags look like this: "#neutral name", "#fem name", "#masc name".

We also use two special tags: #religious history names and #noun names. Names with religious history are names which have, well, a religious history, such as derivation from mythology or holy texts. Noun names are names which come directly from an existing noun, like Sky or Sun.

Please send us asks with name style requests, such as names relating to a gender or theme! Feel free to send us names from your own searches, however many or few. They are always appreciated, and accepted through submissions or DMs.

[steddieunderdogfics]

pretty girls (series) by ghosttotheparty

@ghosttotheparty

Rating: Explicit

20,386 words, 3 works

Archive Warning: No Archive Warnings Apply

Tags for first fic in series: Genderqueer Steve Harrington, Gender Identity, Communication, Pet Names, Queer Themes, Intimacy, Kissing, Body Worship, Babygirl Steve Harrington, Implied/Referenced Child Abuse, Soft Eddie Munson, they’re in love your honor, Love Confessions

Summary for first fic in series:

“Hey.” Eddie tugs his hand. “No rules.“ He tugs again, prompting Steve to look up at him before he speaks again, softer. “This is just us, Stevie.” Steve looks back at him, and Eddie can practically see the moment it sets in. That he’s safe here. That he’s free.

Thanks for the rec! This recommendation is apart of our Writer's Wednesday! All of the recs today are written by @ghosttotheparty. Want to nominate an author? Fill out this form!

You can submit fic recs to our asks or the submission box!

[tismrot]

Are you non-binary AND a native English speaker? Help! I need NB terms for 'parent' and 'sibling-of-parent'!

I'm writing a Good Omens AU fic set in the future, where NB people are well-represented, finally seen as normal. In it, I've given NB folks a pronoun option that isn't "they", one used as commonly as "he" or "she" - ("ze/zer/zerself") children have a third gender option besides boy and girl ("bee"), and now I need terms for NB parents and siblings-of-parents. Not everyone will want to use these words for themselves, but at least there are more options. I don't want to simply use "parent", because that implies unfamiliarity, and (maybe due to my non-nativity) I don't like that. I want personal language, not impersonal for people my characters are close with. For NB parent, I came up with "nither" - mother, father, nither. For NB sibling-of-parent, I came up with "nincle" - I'm not sure about that one. Sounds maybe a bit too much like "uncle"? I am genuinely trying my honest best to have it NOT sound like some sort of mockery (because - even if I use she/her for simplicity - I, too, shelter from rain under the NB umbrella, and I want to make it sound GOOD) ...But I'm not a native English speaker, and the society in my fic is a predominantly English speaking one. What do you think? Is "nither"/"nincle" good enough, or do you have any better ideas (which I will credit you for, of course)?

[atomicraft]

[cw mentions of transphobia + violence]

wrote a poem for tdov 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[grimgoregrimoire]

Happy pride! 🖤🤎🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Your love

Your light

Your fight

Your plight

An undying flame

Your pain is which the paths are paved

Craved, a savior who would no longer be enslaved to hate

It's all politics

But without that brick?

Without that wrath, we would have no path

After all, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Yet we were not born void of hardships

Pardon, we continue to fight least we might die for it

In the noon of the year

Each June, may we prune our thanks to you

All our thanks to Marsha P and everyone in between

Blessed be

Please have a happy and safe pride! 🖤

[gor3sigil]

What being trans means to me

I love being trans. I love transitioning. The thing is, most of the time, I read about other trans people experiences. And I just can’t relate.

I have plenty of tattoos and piercings, and if I have to be 100% honest with y’all, I see transitioning like a bodmod. To me, getting top surgery was one, as I wanted to at least get my nipples removed before I even knew top surgery was an option.

I see HRT as much as a bodmod. A few years back, I wasn’t so sure I even wanted HRT, but after thinking it through and doing a lot of research, I decided to do it. And I never looked back. I’m close to 2 years on T, which isn’t a lot, and I don’t even know if I plan to stay on T for very long, maybe I’ll stop at some point. Who knows.

It goes hand in hand with the everlasting identity crisis I’ve been having since I was born, basically. I was a different person before, and she was so tired, so she left the body to some dude, and he got tired, and they fused, and it was me, and I’m in a trans body, I’m trans, I take T like I paint my nails, I take T like a cigarette, I take T like a hot bath. It’s comforting, it makes me feel good, it makes me feel at home in this body.

I got surgery because I wanted my silhouette to be mine. I changed my name because since I was little, and that’s the only point for which I can say confidently I knew since I was a kid, I never understood why we couldn’t name ourselves. To me, a name was so intimate, so personal, that I couldn’t understand why it had to be someone else’s choice. So I took a new one and changed it.

And now I look at myself in the miror and I’m Cyan, and I got a flat chest, and I have a deep voice, and I’ll do my T shot on friday just like I do every 14 days since almost 2 years, with the same pleasure, with the same smile on my face, the same rush I ever have when I’m excited for my shot.

Close to the feeling I get when I get a new piercing, when I up the size of my lobes, when I feel the first tingles of the needles that tattoo me.

I didn’t “always knew” I was trans. I remember being a kid with a shit ton of OCs, and names for myself that I couldn’t choose, and whose dream was to live a thousand lives before I died. I don’t know who I will be in 3 years. Or in 6 months.

It says on a letter that I suffer from gender dysphoria, and by all means it was true before top surgery. Not so much now. I still am insecure about my body a lot of times because there’s some things missing to my chara design and I am fatter IRL lmao, but with this body I cum, I eat good food, I get drunk, I smoke, I feel hot and fresh water, I swim, I sing, I write this. Even when it’s half broken and it’s raining and my joints ache and I feel like I’m already old, I love this body. I’m not the type of people who will be like “your body is a temple, you HAVE to exercise and eat only fresh veggies” because if I have to be here let me at least have fun. I take care of myself though, maybe not as much as I should, but the best I can.

If I hadn’t overcome everything I did in my life, maybe I wouldn’t have transitioned. Or maybe I would. I don’t care. I don’t need a reason, and neither do you.

This is what I mean when I say that everyone should do whatever the fuck they want because, I wasn’t born trans, or at least I don’t think so. But does it make my transition less valid ? No. I’m better in my skin that ever, even when the low self esteem hits, and I know I would feel way less good if I hadn’t transition. That’s all that matters.

[whoevenknowswhatimwriting]

howdy

hello folks! i'm arden, he/him! i have a tendency to get incredibly invested in funny little characters from my brain, and write stories about them. i am totally on board with tag games and the like!

i mainly write character-based stories, with the setting being a bit of a backdrop unless it comes into play, with themes of selfhood, choice, queer identity, and healing. the main genre i write is fantasy, though sometimes i'll throw a little bit of sci-fi in there to spice it up.

my current projects are:

the words that cut (probably not the final name)

-genderfluid protagonist (single pov)

-explores the whole "names have power" thing with the fae, from a perspective focusing on the abuse that can result from that

-has made me think "am i evil or am i just processing trauma”

the stars still burn

-there are three main characters (povs change)

-main concept was "what if warlocks in space and also found family"

-tonal whiplash my beloved

trigger warning guide here

[tirzahstears]

chopping onions and garlic in the kitchen while i consider telling my father i'm transgender . soleil louise , jan 21 2023

[mxnillinlore]

"How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers" is ALREADY at 500 copies sold and that's just in pre-orders of the physical copy alone! If you haven't done so yet, be sure to secure yours for when it releases next Friday, August 23rd, 2024, by ordering now on Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Indigo, or by supporting your locally owned queer bookstore!

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August 27th - Saskatoon, SK, Canada; In-Person w/ Turning the Tide Bookstore @ 7:00 PM CST

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September 6th - Salt Lake City, Utah, USA; Zoom Discussion w/ Under the Rainbow Bookstore @ 6:00 PM CST

[kilroysmokedhere]

Starting to be in the 40s regularly in the mornings! Love the end of summer weather in Alaska!