#mayb im aroflux

[littl-vs]

maybe im aroflux

[usakkhae]

Questioning and having a hard time finding an aromantic label that fits me while having no one to talk to is awful

[kingxgarm]

Would you date any of the new ninja? Or who would you NOT date

Hmmmm

That's a weird question

They're kind of annoying... I like the pink and teal one the most tho

NOT date... do you mean in general or out of the new ninja?

New ninja: Magenta ig, the ladies also kinda go here since I'm achillean (which means I prefer men)

[scribbyizhere]

my la teacher made us write abt what love felt like and when I heard everyone else's answers I got sent back into the 'am I aromantic or asexual or do I js prefer platonic love' spiral again

[envieluvvicixe]

Apparently I'm backing up and coming to terms with having a crush on my friend and that just scares me.

[narutomaki]

every relationship either lasts forever or fails so like. idk why I'm surprised and upset about another one not lasting forever.

[autism-sprinkles]

okay i SUPPOSE i will make an introduction post.

hai ! ! i go by many names (namefluid), but my Main Names are guppy, selen, melinoë (meli for short, not mel unless i'm in a melinoë hades ii shift), polites, and mlem. feel free to ask for what names I prefer currently!! :3 usually I prefer other names over these ones they're just like. backups so you have a name to refer to me with

i'm a minor ! ! (14 Years Of Age)

i am a therian (european pine marten, black footed ferret, death song [httyd], and norwegian forest cat), otherkin (mainly fae but there r others), fictionkin, copinglink, and autolink haver, and i also have Many f/os

i am asexual, aroflux, queerplatonic, androflexible, poly (i have Six Whole Gay People I Love [i don't like the partner label >:(]) and genderflux (currently a girlthing!) who also has tons of xenogenders, and I use she/it pronouns [it/its, she/her] and a shit ton of neopronouns (you'll have to. Ask for those)

i am diagnosed autistic!!! also (self diagnosed) adhd, as well as suspected bpd and some other disorders :>

i am pagan ! ! :) i use the looser term because hellenism is Too specific and not entirely fitting and i would consider myself an aphrodite devotee (although i do plan to worship other deities aside from her)

i pretty frequently use cat puns as a typing quirk of sorts ! ! the most common one is me using /paws instead of /pos but I also sometimes say fur instead of for and such :3

i also am very very fond of music!! i can Not function without it at All. i have So many favorite bands/artists but my Main favorites are set it off, paramore, fall out boy, mitski, pierce the veil, beartooth, babymetal, and will wood.

i have Way too many interests and fixations to list here!! I might make a Seperate Post for that. but currently my main fixations are hades 1 & 2, vtubers (my oshis are all of holostars, dokibird, vantacrow bringer, vezalius bandage, and korone inugami), autism smp, making stimboards, dungeons and dragons, falsettos (2016 revival), epic: the musical, and newsies.

i am Technically a quotev migrant (url was .heartsiabyul), but i joined maybe a week or two before quotev fucked it all up, so I wouldn't say im Fully a quotev migrant.

my alterhuman sideblog is @windwings !!

my (shared, I did not start it) stimboard account is @bitlngs

my tag for teaching my Actual Real Life Mother how to use tumblr is #instructing the woman on how to be the tumblrrrrrrrrrrr

my asks tag ! is #aeolus' asks

my Personal Post tag is #melinoë.txt

and my Art tag that i will never use is #melinoë.png

blinkies dump

friend edit dump

I probably have Forgotten some things but I can always Edit this Later.,

[talekinesis]

Am I the only one who thinks the Aroflux flag just isn't appealing to look at

I've seen maybe one other post say they didn't like it

Like yeah it looks like watermelon but it's just not pretty to look at lol

I just think the stripes that are fading between green and red, the ones bordering on brown, they're not appealing

The alternate flag is a little better but not by much. The only thing it has on the other one is the fact that the green and red are separated and not bleeding into each other

Everyone else in the aro community has such pretty looking flags and their art looks so pretty, but when I spot the aroflux colors im like "Oh, you're here too-"

But like its my flag, I want to like it 💀

I tried to like it when I first saw it, I was like "Oh it's kinda like watermelon..... Green and red don't go together but it's okay, it's a pride flag, it's not about aesthetic or looks, the colors probably represent something,"

idk, I'm probably being too harsh or judgemental

[bugsinshoes]

What are your gravity falls characters headcanons?

OKOKOK SOOO !!!

gender and sexuality hcs:

dipper: trans guy, he/they, asexual, demiromantic/cupioromantic (IM ON THE FENCE SOOO lets just say hes arospec. maybe aroflux?)

mabel: either transfem or genderqueer (i love both), bisexual, she/her but im not opposed to the thought she uses neos/xenos

stan: transitioned to male but later found out hes genderfluid, bisexual, also arospec, he/him

ford: transitioned to male but later found out hes agender, asexual, demiromantic, and gay. as for pronouns he/him, but probably has a bunch of cool alien neos he picked up during his 30 years travelling. but mostly uses he/him for simplicity's sake

OTHER HCS !!! (SPITFIRE ROUND GO!!!):

ford loves mabel juice. when ford came back dipper and him binged watched all of the star wars movies he missed. ford LOVES cats and i mean LOVES them (mabel is ecstatic when she finds out). dipper played guitar for probably like a month before giving it up completely. fiddleford gave ford his iconic coat during their college years. also the pines are all somewhere on the autism/adhd spectrums

theres like a BUNCH others i cant all put on one post + i cant remember atm sooo i hope these will suffice :D

BUT here are a couple links to some REALLY good character analyses that really resonated with me that you guys should totally check out (if you haven't already)

Why Stanford Pines from Gravity Falls is Autistic and Why it Matters

Gravity Falls and LGBTQ+ subtext: Decoding the Queercoding | A Video Essay

anyways, this was long. wow.

[our-aroace-experience]

Hi! I was on the asexual tag saw this blog and just wanted to see if anyone else who is aspec can relate to my ramblings. Rambling tldr: not claiming a label despite that label actually relating to my experiences because it just doesn't fit perfect enough and because it doesn't fit perfect enough in my mind I don't think I want to use it.

Now, back in 2020 I claimed being 'asexual' by name and then a couple of months later claimed being aroflux which eventually changed to 'greyaro' over a year later. And those two terms fit me the best, grey aro ace is me. However, because I'm greyaro I still feel romantic attraction though it is rare but its still present enough in my mind to continually be wondering about what label to put it as. For the most part, I don't have a label even when the attraction - romantic/sensual/alterous/aesthetic - arises. Which again doesn't rise often, but I daydream about it a lot or reminisce about old crushes - particularly the one about a girl way back in high school days. (Let me tell you that was a wild time in my mind). Back then I was thinking I was bisexual only to cancel it out because I didn't want to have sex with her. However I never questioned if I wanted to have sex with boys (I just assumed I would, thanks heteroallonormativity). But the romantic feelings I had for her were the same like the boy crushes (which came up every few years). And for a timeline purposes, before her my last crush (boy) was in the 7th grade, she was the 11th grade, and my last crush currently was senior year of undergrad college (the best one honestly I could actually talk to him and not be overly ridden with anxiety and embarrassment). And despite so many years passing I always wonder - does the bi label fit? Was that with her an bi experience? I know its whatever I feel like it was but also I'm wondering if my hesitation is because deep down having that bi label attached makes the 'im not straight' thought more permanent? If that makes sense? Like 'im not straight' in any way, not even hetero aro/ace? And maybe that thought just makes my head spin a little. I thought about the pan label too; but when I read the definition to see the differences between bi and pan I realized that pan definition doesn't connect the closest but bi does. However I still can't always make it fit. It's like when I was going by aroflux despite the fact it did not fit for me, it was clunky in my brain calling myself that. But then I read about grey-aromantic and it fit perfect! But not my romantic orientation is still in murky waters; I ID as a girl so for the most part of my life boys have been what I've been romantically attracted to, however hetero isn't me. I usually just go as fluid for all my attraction titles which I do like but that opens up more discussion of "okay, but who, what gender?" So in that case I guess bi would be the correct answer...despite the fact gender doesn't play a part (hence fluid label I go with and or queer) but it isn't all genders I fall for, I lean in some directions more than others. So it kind of does, doesn't it? But again I'm like "....meh it just doesn't fit/doesn't fit the way I want." And I am one of those people who agree that you don't have to use every label or any label including micro (for example, aegosexual I can relate to but I don't feel the need to have two microlabels) however, once I start thinking in depth I start to question myself as I do because I'm a thinker. And I think a lot because in real life I'm not in the space where I can speak about this openly with the people in my life.

Wonder if anyone else has had something like this on and off throughout their life too?

Thanks for listening~

you can be bi and greyromantic at the same time, if that helps! but not wanting labels is totally valid and if that feels best then go for it!

[littl-vs]

thinkin about how i was so concerned i didnt love her but i actually have been so happy and giggly while talking to her today

[bli-o]

Hey hey, im an (unfortunately) female presenting enby ace who is aroflux, occasionally being romantically attracted to women and enbies(you could call me acearoflux demineptunoromantic but thats a damned prescriptivist mouthful)

i face homophobia in my day to day due to romantic attraction to women, I have an opinion to share!

cis heteroromantic aces are an entirely valid part of the LGBTQ community who go through some of the worst aspects of aphobia, especially women.

in hetero relationships allonormativity is ESPECIALLY common. I am so glad I’m not attracted to men because straight men just have sexual expectations so much more than women.

i dont ever want to be in a relationship where the other person is disappointed that I dont want sexual activity. It would undoubtedly be harder to find someone when your dating pool is mostly straight men.

we need to suck up this “cishet aces are still privileged” bullshit. Maybe they are, sure, but everyone who isnt allo, cis, and straight goes through their own struggles, entirely individual to their own orientation. I don’t give a shit about whatever privilege meter people have made up for my fellow queers. Heteroromantic aces struggle too. That’s what the LGBTQ movement is about, fighting for EVERYONE’S equality. Everyone who is threatened can unite under our flag, even if they dont have it as bad as others.

A queer’s a queer and that’s that.

[catinasink]

heading to eep will finish later

@powercoreact what i have so far for the solar system ocs :3

also sigh if theyre bad ill fix em up tomorrrow im just eepy tonight

sun

it/its agender aroace

it is so tired. it wants a break. its so hard to stay bright. 

so much pressure is placed upon it by its parents

it just wants to run away some day. somewhere where no one knows who it is.

mercury

she/it transfem demigirl panaroace

she’s young, the youngest. tries its best to hide within sun’s shadow.

she was shoved back into the closet by her parents

it wants to follow sun wherever it goes. she doesn’t want to be alone.

venus

she/they/fae/it demigirl pan lithoromantic ace

fae tries and tries and tries. she doesnt want to be discarded. it is trying and trying and trying, yet still can’t be enough. they will never think theyre be enough. fae is somewhat jealous of saturn, and hates that she is. 

it wants to be enough for her parents

she just wants to be enough. enough for faerself, enough for its parents, enough for their friends, enough for her peers.

earth

she/he/it unlabeled aro reciprosexual

it gives too many second chances. she doesnt want to be left, so he stays and gives all it can. easily taken advantage of.

it feels like her issues don’t count, because his parents didnt do anything that it feels like qualifies as traumatic. still, they fucked her up

he wants someone to actually want her for once, for who it is, and not what she can give. he wants someone to care.

mars

he/it/they transmasc demiboy romance and sex repulsed aroace

it’s trying. they want to be nicer. he’s trying its best to be nicer, to be better, to be right for their peers. he doesn’t want to lose them. it doesnt want it to be their fault again. 

sometimes he worries itll end up like their parents - switching emotions at a pin’s drop, going from up to down and back up fast

he wants to smooth all their sharp edges. make themselves perfect for others. it doesnt want to lose people because of himself again.

jupiter

any agender pan aroflux

xe doesn’t want to be in the lead. he and sun both. after sun, they were appointed to help too so sun wouldn’t burn out. she wants a break. it doesnt want to lead. fae is tired. sure, ze can take control well, but he doesn’t want to. they’re so all so tired.

her parents avoid stating things out loud, but its clear they don’t like him much

ze wants to leave. he wants to not have to take charge, she wants to be able to follow for once. they want to be lead, but theres no good leaders, and sun has too much on its plate. it wants a break, to relax, to have a change for once.

saturn

they/it/xe non-binary pan aroaceflux

it is too much. they want to be less, xe doesnt want to overshine others. it wants everyone to get the amount of attention they want. xe hates the spotlight they were forced into. it and venus both. 

it wants to be less so their parents wont care

xe wants a break from the spotlight. it wants to leave, to become unknown, unremarkable, unnoticable. they’re so tired.

uranus

he/it transmasc uranic unlabeled aspec

he hates it. the gossip, the noise, how people talk about it. the rude comments, laughter. how it might seem like behind his back, but it can hear it all. he hates it. why did they choose it?

it wants to love his parents, but sometimes he doesn’t, usually when they yell

it wants to be someone else. someone with a different name, someone who doesn’t get made fun of, someone who’s perfect, someone who’s better.

neptune

she/it transfem neptunic unlabeled acespec

she wants to feel included more. it feels like shes always at the edge; her and pluto both. it wants to be closer to sun. she wants to be seen by the others, maybe just a little bit more.

she wants to love its parents too

it wants to be brighter. she wants to be more. it wants to be closer to the others. she wants for both herself and pluto to be there. 

pluto

it/its agender aroace

it feels lonely. it wants more. it wants to be closer to the others. neptune is the closest to it. it wants to be closer, it wants more so badly.

it always feels so small around its parents

it wants to be closer, to be brighter, to be better, to be more. it yearns for that.

haumea

she/it transfem lesbian aro

she thinks its going too fast. she wants to slow down, but it cannot. she wants to rethink its actions, it doesnt like how fast everything is going. she knows its her fault anyway.

it was forced to grow up too fast

it wants to go slower, to take her time, to take a break. she just wants time.

ceres

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

I wonder if any other aspec has the same thoughts of me - basically, seeing a label, seeing that it fits with their experiences, but also being apprehensive to use it; because it fits but it still feels alien to use or possibly their simply scared to use it. Like me.

So for some background, I am in my late twenties (cis woman, she/her) and discovered that I was asexual in my mid twenties, and then discovered that I also was on the aromantic spectrum too a like two years ago. *For the most part I know my identity - Greyaro ace with sensual/aesthetic/alterous attraction and a desire for a QPR. And these labels fit me very well so I am comfortable with those. The reason I discovered this revelation so late was because at 16 I had a crush on a girl and since that queer experience I have gone back and forth on what labels I am. At the time my knowledge of orientations were limited to gay, straight, and bisexual. So, bc I also liked boys, I went back and forth on being bi or being straight to just (once the crush passed) seeing it as a 'fluke' and continuing to think I was straight. Teen Me: Well I don't want to have sex with her so clearly whatever these feelings are, are just confusion.

(And of course because of heteroallonormativity I never once questioned if I wanted to have sex with boys (I didn't it didn't even cross my mind) I just assumed I did. Mind you I don't have ANY romance/sexual experience so a lot of my thoughts are hypothetical at that time and couldn't be tested out. By couldn't I mean no on in my school wanted to touch me with a ten foot pool so ya know it wasn't gonna happen lol)

But even after leaving high school the crush always was at the back of my mind and I kept searching until I found my answer, which took a literal decade but I got there! It was even harder when I barely had crushes as I got older. I experimented with labels, i.e I went by aroflux for a bit but that never sounded right in my mouth; I thought I was demisexual but that wasn't correct. So labels do help me and I do view them as important while also believing that I don't need to use EVERY label and or going unlabeled is an option. However, because I'm greyaro I still feel romantic attraction and due to that I feel like I need another label (if I choose to communicate it out loud - still not out yet due to circumstance) to explain who my romantic attraction is directed toward when it happens.

This is where the *For the most part comes in; I'm not sure if I'm scared/nervous to use bi with my identity because then I have truly let go of me being straight in any form. And yes I know this is a biphobic mentality and not even really true because I can be in a straight relationship (looking wise) and still not be straight. And maybe I'm so nervous to use that word because when I first thought I was bi, as a teenager, it freaked me out and that freak out still has carried over with me today. Yea being ace isn't straight but since it has no attraction direction its like a hazy 'im not hetero' while bi is a clear 'im not hetero' and it makes me feel more exposed? Not sure that made sense. I don't want to feel or think this way either.

I use other labels to show my fluidity with attraction. One being fluid, I like that but in conversation I would still have to explain more because not everyone understands what fluid means. Two being queer but I do also feel alien using that too. And its weird that I even consider using queer as a label but am scared of using bi, like??? That doesn't make sense, queer or bi still isn't straight so I should be fine with using bi. I also thought that using panromantic could work however the bi definition fits me more than the pan one does.

Since I have no one to talk to about this I think a lot about it from time to time and I do be questioning everything.

And I'm sharing because maybe other aspecs had the exact same experience and I just wanna see if I'm solely alone in this.

One thing that can help with this is to try and surround yourself with more queer people and media, and that can really help normalize these identities and feel the stigma of them less. Whatever you're comfortable with, whether it's following people on social media or checking out your local lgbtq+ chapter and seeing if they have any events, all of it can make a difference.

I'll throw this out to followers, has anyone else had similar experiences that they feel comfortable talking about?

[bassguitarinablackt-shirt]

per,,,,,,cy,,,,headcanons,,,,,

OH MY GOD I AM. VERY GLAD YOU ASKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

okay okay percy is a character who i have multiple different headcanons for that are constantly battling for attention hdjsjsjajajaj

when it comes to gender i see him as being either genderfluid or transmasc

with my genderfluid percy headcanon i like to think it took him a while to figure it out. like either he genuinely thought whatever was going on with his gender was normal or he wouldve figured it out if he thought about it for five minutes but he was too busy with the plot. either way i like to think thalia had to sit him down and explain to him that yeah no, hes almost definitly not cis

with my transmasc percy headcanon i like to think hes the type of trans dude who would love to be a pretty boy in a skirt but he doesnt want to be percieved as a girl so he stays in the masc range of clothing which he loves he would just like to wear a skirt maybe once in a while yk?

(secret third option: cis dude who due to having so much tboy swag has been adopted as an honorary trans dude)

generally with sexuality i see him as bi but i have considered hitting him with my aroflux beam because whats the fun in stealing a characters name if im not gonna project my identity onto them?

[aroaceconfessions]

Im having another episode where my identity is being confusing Im asexual and always asexual , trans and always trans. But its the rest that makes me just want to cry sometimes. maybe i just want a qpr? maybe romance to me is just nice in fanficition it changes so much for me..i usually say im aroflux or queer but sometimes my episodes of romantic attraction make it so confusing. also i go between sex neutral and sex repulsed a lot and its annoying when i do want a partner in my life but my feelings for things change so often..