#self-care list

[ada-meszretov]

self-care 🤗

✨ self-care tips for myself which might help you as well. be aware of that every person’s needs are different. even if you have similar struggles as I do, the things which work for us are very plausible to differ. ✨

make your self-care list when you’re okay. ✍🏽

when you’re in a low mood and you only have a few spoons, it is hard to decide on which activities you want to use them up for. it can help you if you make a list beforehand of some necessary things which are worth some spoons spending for.

to have a useful list, which is really useful to you, might take a while. it can mean days with hit and miss. if you’re feeling well enough to reconsider things, then do so. cross out the things which are not working for you. be concise with your list. mine is certainly not as long as this post. you shouldn’t be spending spoons on reading your self-care list alone when you’re in need for your self-care list.

contracts with yourself 📜

your self-care list can include not only things which might help in your bad days, but contracts with yourself: consisting of you, who are writing this in the present, and you, who is having a rough time. when we’re at our lowest, our judgement is not the best. it can be great to have help in the form of other people, such as friends, family and stay-in hospitals to take care of us, but in less severe cases or when help is not available, it can be a good thing to just listen to ourselves, the version of ourselves in the past.

habits 📆

routines are sequences of the things we do, and habits are things which we do now unconsciously. it is important to create good habits through going over some routines when we’re stable even if they feel difficult. if we manage to make them a habit, they will be easier for us to do, and, on our bad days, they can mean incredible help.

some good habits that might be good for the rest of us that I can think of: sleeping every night, drinking enough water, making your bed and don’t clutter it during the day, eating something every day.

nutrition 🥦

drink water. if you drink water regularly, you can avoid the headaches caused by dehydration. usually there’s a bottle of 2 liters of mineral water beside my bed, and I’m trying to drink it within 1-2 days. it is harder to do when I’m doing active semesters at uni with a lot of credits, as buying a little bottle of something every weekday is a choice I cannot afford. I pour tea in my used smaller bottles and bring them with me. it would be beneficial to invest in a drinking bottle, though. one you can pour hot liquid in it.

I buy a lot of frozen vegetables. they are healthier than just grabbing some chips and can be made without too much effort. oatmeals are even better when I’m on low energy. you just put it in a bowl, and add hot water. that’s it. I’m wary of salads, because when I’m fortunate enough to feel in advance a depressive episode coming, I’m trying not to buy food which are doomed to get spoiled quickly.

obesity

obese people can be malnurished, too, and it can weaken them more. don't starve yourself, be careful with extreme diets.

watch out for your skin. being obese will make your skin fold and irritate itself more. use some body lotion in those areas (armpits, under breasts, under stomach, thighs, wherever you need) after showering or changing clothes.

be careful with exercise. the key is to do it regularly, not to overdo it for quick weight loss. you should rest every other day when you wake up in the morning full of muscle strains. depending on your level of obesity and the extremity of some exercises you may do, you will be more vulnerable to injuries.

oh my. sleep. 💤

if you’re in a position that you can sleep at night, then take your opportunity. all-nighters were helpful for me in the stages of my life when I felt hypomanic, because it helped me to catch up with studying as I couldn’t bare myself to sleep anyway. but still, in the majority of times, it backfired me a lot. even when I slept during the day. if you only can sleep during the day, try to find a dark place to do so. blackout curtains can be gamechangers.

my go to way to have a good night’s sleep is to take 2 milligrams of Xanax or Frontin before sleep, but please, consult with your doctor and/or mental health professional about prescription drugs. it is certainly not the best way to handle nightmares and night terrors, but I am really yet to find a better solution than this.

try to fall asleep get cozy at the same time every day, for making those neuron paths in your brain. turn off the big lights, use smaller ones. I once bought a pack of string lightbulbs at Flying Tiger (Hungary). they were cheap and now they’re thrown over my bookshelf and turned on in the evenings.

herbal teas help me to an extent. I’m avoiding St. John’s wort, because it can cause problems with my antidepressant; please check for compatibilities with this herb—and any other herb, for that matter—if you’re taking medicines regularly. I mostly opt for lemon balm, lavender and valerian. sometimes I also buy over-the-counter valerian pills—I believe those are a European thing. it is recommended to take breaks with them, for e.q. taking them for three weeks, then not taking them for one.

if I have the energy, I take a hot bath in the evenings, especially if I’m done with uni after a long day. I don’t do it if I’m at a certain point of “exhausted”, if that makes sense. I need energy to get out of the bath tub. I mean “exhausted” both in the physical and in the mental way. if I’m not sure, then I don’t go.

get into your bed, put your blankets on yourself, close your eyes, and try to calm your mind with kind thoughts toward yourself. try it for a while. for a while. for a bit more. if it doesn’t work, don’t panic. get up, move a little, do some of your things, then try again.

if I’m more physically active throughout the day, the easier I can fall asleep.

I can’t afford “weighted blankets” as they are marketed but I pile up a bunch of blankets on my bed when I have the energy so later I can just go under them, and feel their pressure as someone would be hugging me.

when I’m active and doing studying, drawing or any other activity in my room which makes me move things and search for things a lot, I’m trying consciously not to pile up clutter on my bed. there’s a sad chair for this or even the floor, but the bed must be protected. I spent nights too many times on the floor being on my lows, because of this.

thinking. 💭

it’s a hard one. racing thoughts, intrusive thoughts, negative thoughts, self-blaming thoughts, memories from the past and the like. I’ve been struggling with them for quite some time, yet I have a lot, a lot to learn.

as a writer, my best solution yet came from my skills. when I’m bombarded with bad thoughts about my life, I try to find a quiet place if possible, even I lay onto my bed when I’m at home, and take my time to rewrite them in my head. even if they’re memories, especially if they’re memories, it can help. I can’t change the plot elements, as they are givens, but I can play with the focus and various narrative techniques to make the stories of my life to be about something else rather than the bad things.

journaling can help you with managing your thoughts, but I think it’s not for everyone, and, I believe that everyone should journal as it works for them instead of sticking to just one method. try them out, then decide for yourself.

Expressive Writing: Words that Heal by James W. Pennebaker and John Frank Evans, is a nice book I received a copy of as a gift from a psychology student at my university who weekly did hour-long talk therapy sessions with me through six weeks for her studies under the psychology faculty’s program. the book focuses on writing the bad things out, even making yourself cry, but helping you in the long run. it offers the reader various techniques to analyze them in time shifts and rewrite them from different perspectives and different verb tenses. I advise you to be cautious with this if your traumas are far too recent. it is highly dangerous to tear open the wounds when you don’t have the help, ability and tools to soothe yourself afterwards.

fear of the blank page is real. unhealthy perfectionism also often goes hand in hand with anxiety disorders and other mental health issues. back then it was more beneficial for me to journal in OneNote and the like rather than a nice notebook I might “ruin”. I’m at a point in my life where I’m actually using notebooks, but it really isn’t worth the terror if you are indeed afraid.

contrary to Pennebaker et al, I found it to be more useful to record the good and the abstract rather than the bad and the specific. sometimes, when my thoughts are just piling up for months and I’m in a stable state and in a safe environment, I write the bad things out in OneNote and revisit them strictly when I’m once again in a stable state and in a safe environment. but, routinely, I like filling my traditional journals with the things I found actually healing to just write down. throughout the weekdays, I jot down a few things which were good—having mineral water is almost always one of them. I just like it, ok—and at the end of the week I write a one-page long summary. I’m just being abstract. I had a period when I was just writing about my nails growing as an allegory to various things, e.q. there aren’t truly new starts, I can’t just rip off an entire fingernail and expect a new one to just magically appear. the act and the expectation both are wrong. you shouldn’t throw away things in your life at once, but you should slowly, carefully let them go. and, the new start will come, as it always does: as you trim your fingernails, eventually they will be entirely different then what they were five months ago. you just didn’t notice it because of its graduality. you should look for these hidden progresses in your life, too.

out of spoons 🥄

try not to feel guilt. please. you are not doing less than the others, as the others are having different lives, struggles and experiences in this existence from you. you’re struggling. when you manage to get up and change your clothing, it is very possible that you had put as much work in it as someone else had to accumulate for going on for an entire workday. people’s backgrounds, energy levels and health are very much different.

I put my clutter away from my bed. I’m trying not to worry about the mess around elsewhere, as I’m making myself conscious about my condition to shun the guilt away. it is tempting to clear my desk instead, where I can work, study and create, but you can’t pour from an empty cup, so I’m making sure that I leave my options open for whenever I really do need a nap, sleep, or just to put myself into a horizontal position.

do the minimum effort. if you are able to, meet your responsibilities, and don’t do the extra stuff. use your free time to rest. sometimes things which are considered to be relaxing are just too much sometimes, such as reading, playing video games, drawing, watching a series and talking/going out with your friends. these can be extremely exhausting for me when I’m in a low mood. instead, I recommend spending spoons on work to make ends meet and studying not to create too much student debt. then, when you’re home: just rest. and by, rest, I mean, rest. take your time to think. take a nap. have enough sleep.

I hope I could help a bit with these. ☔️🌈

[eloquent-edits]

🗡️ “That time of the month again?”

because we all know that periods suck and characters are not immune to the horrors 🗡️ prompt list of comforting actions

Character A is bedridden from the cramps and Character B becomes their living heating pad (cuddles with arms wrapped around the waist >>>>)

B buys A their favorite chocolates a couple days before their period starts and keeps beverages with electrolytes on hand

A takes a day off to rest, bingewatch some episodes of a good show, and care for themselves (maybe do some yoga, and by yoga I mean curl up in the fetal position for a couple hours)

B thinks that making a nice bath for A will help and prepares everything for when A gets home (A laughs and explains why that’s not a great idea)

Searching for Shark Week’s episodes online to deal with shark week in person, but getting distracted by cute animal shows

B can’t be there for A in person so they send A $30 to cover extra snacks and/or medicine

Instead of getting emotional over posts online, A digs out an old book series and gets emotional over that (they are reliving their childhood, they swear it’s cathartic THEY SWEAR)

A can’t sleep with the back pain so B gives them a light back massage with several check-ins to make sure the noises are in relief and not pain

B keeps the lights dim and and TV volume low as A battles a headache

All meals are made with ahead of time and cravings humored (“You can’t just eat straight salt.” “I know that, which is why I’m putting all of it on this.”)

A asks for B to get more pads/tampons at the store, B calls and sends many pictures as they try to figure out what will work best for A

B quietly scrubs out any bloodstains from A’s clothes as they do laundry (and they’re really efficient at it, why are they so good at getting blood out of clothing—)

A snuggling up with their pet who knows the exact spot to be in for maximum comfy (B thinks it’s adorable and takes a picture to show A later)

“I’m sorry if I’m not really conversational right now…” “Dude you’re on your period and barely slept last night, you’re good. We don’t have to talk, we can just chill.”

B brings home a machine for homemade ice-cream and all the ingredients needed for A’s favorite flavor (they spend the evening making it and declare a “dessert before dinner” day for when periods strike)

[honeytonedhottie]

maintaining the mind⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🛍️

SAY/LISTEN TO UR AFFIRMATIONS ;

make an affirmations tape and listen to ur affirmations so that then u can impress ur subconscious and feed it what u want it to show you. make sure that ur saying ur affirmations everyday so that then u can affirm ur reality ✨

if u dont know how to create an affirmations tape then i recommend the app parrot because it just loops the affirmations until i turn it off so thats rly helpful, i listen when i sleep. and although the app is convenient I LOVE TO AFFIRM so i'd do it manually too.

UR MINDS A MUSCLE ;

if ur not exercising a muscle, eventually it'll wither away right? the mind is the same way. to keep ur mind sharp, read more books. my aim is to usually read one book per month, sometimes i exceed that.

crossward puzzles

reading non-fiction books

listening to podcasts

if ur not into reading, listen to podcasts or do things like crossword puzzles (things that'll cause ur mind to expand) but please try and read cuz its rly rly good for you.

THE POWER OF A JOURNAL ;

journal briefly every night before bed to empty out ur brain before u sleep. this also helps if u are anxious and can't sleep because ur getting it out of ur mind -> and onto paper to deal with tomorrow.

also keeping a diary is an amazing way to keep track of time and talk about what u think about and whats on ur mind and ur feelings ALL OF THAT. it truly helps u to learn about urself and see things in a different perspective so that u can learn from urself.

[the-broken-pen]

“You’re going to blow out your arms,” the villain observed. They watched as the hero merely grit their teeth, shoving themself through another pull-up. It looked painful, and if the sweat slicking the hero’s brow was any indication, it was.

They waited for the hero to let themself drop from the bar and accept the villain was stronger. But they didn’t.

Three more pull-ups, and the villain stepped in.

“Hero,” they said slowly. “You’re about to tear the ligaments in your arms. You need to stop.”

The hero blew out a shuddering breath. Struggled for purchase, fighting gravity—and let themself drop.

The hero’s hands were bleeding, calluses torn open by the bar. The hero didn’t seem bothered when their own hands shook so much that their blood began to splatter on the gym floor.

For a moment, the villain could only stare at them.

Shit.

They didn’t know how to handle this. They knew the hero was dedicated. They knew the hero was strong, and perpetually trying to be stronger, but they hadn’t thought…

They hadn’t thought the hero would be so willing to tear apart their own body for success.

It was supposed to be fun, the villain thought. They felt a little sick as the hero pressed their palms together to soothe the bleeding, an action that was practiced and familiar. As if they had done this before.

The hero reached for something in their bag, smearing blood on the side, and pulled out a roll of blue electrical tape. The villain didn’t understand why, until the hero tore a strip off and made to wrap their hands with it.

The hero would be the death of them.

They crouched in front of the hero, plucking the electrical tape out of their hands.

“What are you doing with this?”

The hero blinked at the villain like they were the strange one in this situation.

“Wrapping my hands?”

The villain hissed in a breath.

“With electrical tape?”

The hero flushed slightly, looking down at their bloody hands. They looked close to tears.

“It…sticks to skin, really well. And it doesn’t move, either, when you move your hands or wherever else, even if you’re fighting. Plus, blood doesn’t make it come off, at least, not for a while.”

The villain blinked at them.”

“Blood doesn’t make it come off,” the villain repeated, processing. The hero nodded, reaching for the electrical tape. The villain settled it out of reach.

“Not if you wrap it right.”

Dimly, the villain realized that meant the hero had done this enough times to have it down to a science.

“And you couldn’t use a bandaid?” The villain asked incredulously. The hero shrugged a shoulder, then winced at the motion.

Yeah, the hero had absolutely blown out their arms.

“Bandaids move—“

The villain hushed them.

“Be quiet for a second.”

The hero, wisely, went quiet.

The villain rubbed a hand over their face, then studied the hero for a moment. They took one of the hero’s hands into their own, studying the damage.

“Why did you do this to yourself,” the villain murmured.

“What do you mean, why,” the hero snapped. “It’s my job.”

“Your job is to save people,” the villain corrected. “Not destroy yourself.”

“I’m not destroying myself—“

“You are.”

“Shut up—“

“Hero.”

“I need to be better,” the hero snapped. Their voice rang out across the gym, echoing into the rafters, and they both froze. After a moment, the hero spoke again, voice soft. “I need to be better.”

They said it like they needed the villain to understand. The villain wondered who they were really saying it to—the villain, or themself.

“Better than who?”

“Everyone.” It was hushed, like a secret.

The villain watched them, waiting.

The hero took a shaky breath

“My whole thing is being the best. I have always been the best. That’s the only reason I matter. If I’m not strong enough, then I am nothing, so I need. to be. better.”

The hero had started crying, very quietly, like they were afraid to take up too much space.

The villain was not equipped to handle gifted kid burnout.

“There’s more to you than just being a good athlete,” the villain said hesitantly, and the hero shook their head.

“No. There isn’t.”

“Hero.”

“Can you give me back my electrical tape?” They hiccuped to contain a sob.

“No,” the villain said firmly, and then the hero really was sobbing.

“You don’t understand—“

The villain didn’t. Not really. They had never been the kind of talented that the hero was.

They wondered now if maybe that was a blessing.

“I don’t,” the villain agreed. “But I do understand that you’ve saved half the city, and you give everything you have to give, and you always do your best.”

“But I-“

“No.” The villain stopped them. “You are doing your best.” They tipped the hero’s chin up until they met the villain’s eyes. “And it is enough.”

The hero froze, eyes darting over the villain’s face. They wondered if anyone had ever said that to the hero, if whatever mentor they had was giving them anything other than orders to be stronger. Be better. Be more.

The villain had some new targets to take care of, it would seem.

For now, though, they had to take care of hero.

“We’re going to go wrap your hands,” they said softly. “And then we’re going to take care of your arms, and you’re going to take a nap.”

The hero nodded, watching them like they were some kind of good, selfless person.

“And if I ever catch you using electrical tape again, so help me, I will put you six feet under.”

That startled a laugh out of the hero, and they let the villain guide them to their feet.

“Fine.”

The villain turned to them. “Okay?”

Are you going to be alright?

The hero seemed to understand.

“Okay,” the hero agreed.

Yes.

And so, it was.

[poleriri]

[metaphorical-goblin]

depression room cleaning check!!!

I just did this myself so now you get to do it too

Take five minutes to set down your phone, stretch your legs, and do one of these tasks

1. Pick up all your dirty dishes from your room and take them to the sink/dishwasher

2. put your shoes back where they belong

3. move your dirty clothes off the bed and into the hamper (or wherever you keep them)

4. get a clean glass and fill it up with water. Take a drink

5. open the blinds or curtains (or even better, stand outside)

6. floss and brush your teeth

7. wash your face. Soap is absolutely fine, don’t let the internet tell you otherwise

8. collect all your trash from your room (water bottles, old papers you’ve been meaning to throw out, take-out boxes, etc) and throw it away

9. change your clothes all the way down to your underwear

10. go to your fridge and pull out any items that might be old

11. make your bed so all your stuffed animals will be comfortable until you get back

Don’t feel like you have to do all of these, just pick one (or even just plug them into a random number generator and have the universe pick one for you)

[hsnqnz]

Journal prompts & ideas

Monthly goals

5 (or more) things you’re grateful for today

Wish list

Bucket list

Things you’re currently obsessed with

Moodboards

Recipes

Dream life

List of peoples birthdays

Books to read

Favourite ____ of the month

Goals for the year

Places to travel to

Favourite.. (characters, books, movies, tv shows, food, songs, lyrics, etc)

Written playlist

Write things about your favourite season

Write about yourself

Letter to future self

What’s in my bag

Questions to future self

Goals

Receipt page

Peace givers

Priorities

Something your most proud of

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[writethatdown]

if you are someone who struggles with motivating yourself to attend to your chores, take care of yourself, or feel drained by the thought of hoarding so much responsibilities, i want to share a tip.

if you happen to be standing for some reason, try to complete all tasks that you usually do up standing. so for me, once i am on my feet, i do a sequence of activities like brushing my teeth, washing my face, ironing my clothes, brushing my hair, organizing my stuff for college, making my bed etc. without taking any break and i am able stack around 5 tasks comfortably. also, once the momentum is built, it gets easier!

similarly, if i am at my desk, sitting, i usually have my laptop there and always some work that needs to get done for college, admin or miscellaneous purposes. i try to do as much as i can.

this is particularly helpful for me because i am a big bedrot. especially when i am in pain or uncomfortable in general.

i just thought maybe it will help someone out there. this same hack might go in vain for me in a few weeks lol and i am just always figuring it out to push myself to be a functioning adult.

anyways, i hope u r taking care ♡

[irequirealobotomy]

uh… notes post because someone told me they can actually help:

10 notes and I start posting my art more.

20 notes and I will go outside for at least 1 hour a day.

30 notes and I drink water more.

40 notes and I finally clean my closet.

50 notes and I practice guitar regularly again.

75 notes and I manage my screen time better.

100 notes and I spend time with my older sister more often.

150 notes and I manage my energy drinks better.

200 notes and I try to get my ADHD medicated.

and finally…………

300 notes and I finally come out to the rest of my family.

[cooki3face]

cookie face master list ♡

message: this is my official master list for my tarot readings and any of my other favorite post that I’ve made so far, I make a lot of posts that aren’t titled or formatted in any way so this a good tool to use to be able to find any of my posts that are important to find that have any important information or did really well. Thank you to the user who recommended I create one of these, I had started making one some time ago but I ended up giving up because I was intimidated by how many post I had and how I would format this master list. ❤️

public psa & content breakdown (PLEASE READ THIS BEFORE YOU INTERACT!!!)

౨ৎ ⋆｡˚ tarot readings:

cookie face tarot info: (please read!!) (personal tarot readings open!!)

Cookie face tarot readings ♡ | book

entertainment:

your first time alone with your spouse 🖤

their last dream of you ☁️🔒

how people see you ⭐️

what will your marriage be like 💍

what would your divine masculine be like as a father

their favorite things about you 💐

how does your person view intimacy with you (18+)

what kind of seducer are you (18+)

what will you be like as a mother

what permanent union w/ your divine feminine would be like: divine masculine reading

why are they silent?

what lessons are you learning in love right now?

Messages from spirit on conflict between Israel and Palestine 🇵🇸❤️

your next quantum leap

what your in laws would think of you (and their child)

messages for singles from your divine counterpart

messages from someone who let go of you

what you need to hear right now: channeled from spirit

what’s going on in your friendships

Your present reality vs far future

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energy check-in:

~ Energy check in w/ advice : July 2, 2023 ~

~ Energy check in w/ advice : June 27, 2023 ~

energy update 🧿: 8/18/23

six card pull: energy update ♡

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divine feminine/divine masculine:

what’s going on within the divine masculine collective | divine masculine update | June 30, 2023

what would your divine masculine be like as a father

divine feminine/divine masculine update & twin flame update : 8-23-23

Divine masculine & Divine feminine update / twin flame update 🖤 : 8/30/23

what permanent union w/ your divine feminine would be like: divine masculine reading

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spirit baby readings:

spirit baby reading 🧸

spirit baby reading🍼

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disclaimer: any readings that I do can be switched around to resonate with any sex/gender. I’m just a woman and most of the imagery I’m attracted to is feminine in nature and I have a large feminine following and community so often times I feel their energy strongest when I’m channeling for the collective but if you’re a masculine energy that doesn’t mean there isn’t a message for you in a reading of mine!

౨ৎ ⋆｡˚ spirituality/self-care/healing:

"Physical Pain In The Body And Their Spiritual Meanings"

“Differentiating between steady boundaries and self -sabotaging as a trauma response: how to identify & what to do”

“Understanding the difference between “niceness” & kindness”

My opinion on organized religion

"Manifesting with conviction & intention: What is it and how to do it"

"How to fix a broken sleep schedule: relaxation tips & creating an ideal bed routine"

“Your anger is the part of you that knows your mistreatment."

people pleasers

"men who refuse to grow up will find women who suit their lifestyles"

"Normal people have trauma"

"Nobody is responsible for your triggers and you aren’t responsible for any of anyone else’s"

"Grew up hearing that I was way too picky or that I wasn’t going to get everything that I wanted"

"my anxious attatchment style & mother wound"

"manifestation & energetic frequencies: what people want most in life"

"The dark night of the soul"

“How to navigate the dark night of the soul”

"A fear of being seen"

“wounded feminine energy vs wounded masculine energy”

“healing attachment styles”

advice for growing teenagers and young adults

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parenting:

"you don't teach your children not to hit people by hitting them"

"gen z not taking sh*t from anybody"

gen x and millennial parents need to get help

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affirmations:

Self assurance and inner alignment affirmations

Self love & self worth affirmations

divine feminine & divine masculine affirmations: Aug 21, 2023

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dating/relationships:

"Marriage doesn’t just have to do with love/Women get nothing for marrying for free" : hypergamy

"Loving someone how they want to be loved vs. Loving them the way you want to love them"

“Differentiating between steady boundaries and self -sabotaging as a trauma response: how to identify & what to do”

“Your anger is the part of you that knows your mistreatment."

people pleasers

"love isn’t enough to make a relationship work"

"Rules for Navigating Men That Aren’t The One" (this is a really old post,but it falls under the category)

“What it means to love unconditionally & accept people for who they are”

“Healing attachment styles”

“When people say “please stop saying choose better or stop telling us to choose better because you know men pretend to be someone completely different in the beginning and then change.””

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divine feminine/divine masculine:

"Broken femininity is generational trauma"

"cancer moon placements & the mother"

"Marriage doesn’t just have to do with love/Women get nothing for marrying for free" : hypergamy

 "divine feminine in a twin flame connection: the best thing you can do for your divine masculine is keep loving yourself more"

divine feminine & divine masculine affirmations: Aug 21, 2023

“divine feminine & learning to transmute energy: introduction”

“Whatever you give a woman she will multiply it & give it back”

wounded feminine energy vs wounded masculine energy

““A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek him just find her."”

twin flames, soul mates, & karmics:

"divine feminine in a twin flame connection: the best thing you can do for your divine masculine is keep loving yourself more"

"separation & no contact in high level soul connections"

"is it possible to have increase of sexual energy before meeting your twin flame?"

"some twin flame connections could be toxic and can be hard to deal with, is this true?"

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I believe that’s it guys, well not all of it ofc there are post I left out that were just little thoughts and think pieces I had that weren’t really all that relevant but most of anything important or sought after is right here. I’d like to say, that some of posts are really old and my format and theme was completely different so when and if you click on them and they look extremely foreign or aren’t well executed that’s why, I’ve been running this blog since 2020/2021, thank you. 💋

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Last updated: Friday, February 9, 2025 @ 2:35 pm

[danandfuckingjonlmao]

klaus hargreeves hearing three (3) symptoms of a disorder from a child that he just met and coming to the conclusion that he definitely has it is a mentally ill mood

[honeytonedhottie]

restocking and replenishing⋆.ೃ࿔*:･✍🏽

im making this post cuz i think its helpful to keep track of what u normally need and normally buy + how long it lasts u until it needs to be replaced.

i separate mine weekly/monthly depending on what it is that i need, but by creating a sort of system like this u can save a lot of time when u go shopping, plus it'll bring ur organization to the next level.

HOW TO DO IT ;

so get some paper (preferably graphed paper, simply bcuz i find it neater and more aesthetically pleasing) and on one side write weekly and on the other side write monthly.

remember to use scented glitter gel pens and have FUN, make little doodles on the sides and decorate it with stickers when ur done.

on the weekly side write out what u need on a weekly basis. for example one thing on the weekly side of my list is sheet masks cuz i use them 1-2x a week.

use bullet points so that then everything is concise and easy to read, also when u go and buy them make sure to write the prices of those items, then u can use that data if u have other charts or lists ✨

on the monthly side write out what u need on a monthly basis. for example one thing on the monthly side of my list are my vitamins and my chlorophyll droplets.

DESIGNATE A DAY ;

have a designated day when u usually go and get whatever is on ur restock and replenish list. have some fun with it and make it a tradition of sorts even.

ur designated day should preferably be before ur week/month starts so that then u are fully equipped with what u need to feel and perform at ur best

my designated day is USUALLY saturdays and on my restock and replenish days i always have a kombucha and treat myself to something else that i want.

[studentbyday]

cheap and easy ways to romanticize your life ~it's about the little things~

˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ speak to yourself lovingly. you have the potential to be your best cheerleader because your mind is the only one you can read. when you find yourself feeling down bc of automatic negative thoughts, try to think of something about the situation that is genuinely good, however small it may feel. on a similar note, every night, try to come with at least 3 good things that happened or that you felt that day. they don't have to be big things. even just the absence of smth negative is a positive. (this is still taking sm practice after getting stuck in a pessimistic habit and struggling to keep myself accountable to change it, but it's so worth it, i promise. 🥲)

˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ start your day with music that puts you in the mood to...well, start your day. | personal favorites 🥰 morning coffee lofi • happy morning jazz • cozy jazz for when you don't want to think about anything

˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ get cozy. 🧣 hold something soft. 🧸 savor that texture, that comfort.

˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ forest bathing 🌲🥰 look out your window or better yet, step outside. breathe the air. get some sunlight. look at the sky. the clouds. trees. stars and moon. all the colors. all the shapes. listen for birdsong. the crunching of snow or grass under your feet. isn't it wonderful that we get to experience all this? when i'm feeling lonely and i step outside and look for any sign of nature, i realize just how much i'm not alone and there is good in the world.

˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ set up a nice ambience. there are many for free online that can sound as real and comforting as you want them to be for the days when indoors studying or what have you. study with me videos have literally tricked my brain into feeling like studying even if it's really just pseudo-external accountability (i can never wake up to watch them live lol).

˚୨୧⋆｡˚ ⋆ you are worth taking care of. so take care of yourself. start with smth really really small like leaving a glass of water by your bedside to drink first thing after waking up. then gradually add in slightly bigger things as you feel ready like taking care of your hair (literally did not know about proper washing technique until i watched this 😵) and skin (bare minimum: cleanser, sunscreen, and moisturizer), getting enough sleep, and exercising. "true self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from."

[capricores]

gemini, virgo, pisces, cancer, capricorn and scorpio placements when someone asks them to take on another responsibility when they're already overwhelmed and completely burnt out

[pastel-charm-14]

(っ◔◡◔)っ ♥ masterlist/intro post ♥

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﹒──── ✩！ᶻz ⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜ㆍ﹒

◞ ★ ︉﹒hi!! i'm pastel︔

ᨳ i use she/they pronouns ﹕

◞ ★﹒i'm a demigirl︔ ︉

ᨳ i'm bi ﹕

◞ ★ ︉﹒ ︉i like anything pink, sanrio, soft girl stuff, helping people︔

ᨳ i dislike racism, homophobia, misogynism, pedophilia ﹕

◞ ★ ﹒i speak spanish and english, and i'm so happy to meet you all!! let's be friends!︔ ︉

this post is a list of all of the posts i've created thus far. i'll try to update it as often as i can, but please tell me if i miss anything!

﹒──── ✩！ᶻz ⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜⸜ㆍ﹒

q&a is open!

important announcement

romanticizing series:

intro to romanticizing

romanticizing school

romanticizing work

romanticizing your routines

romanticizing friendships

health/wellness/self-care masterlist

personal development/mindset masterlist

beauty/fashion

curling your hair effectively

eye makeup guide

applying lip gloss and lipstick

soft girl minimalism

find your signature scent

soft girl makeup bag essentials

how to do your hair

the art of layering

how to be a soft girl

diy manicure - step-by-step

treasure hunting: a guide to thrifting

embracing pastels

styling your school uniform

creativity/art

nostalgia poem

all too well lyric analysis

journal prompts

bullet journaling

cosy book recommendations

pink poem

pink-themed DIY project

hobby ideas

how to organize your room and keep it that way

aesthetic tips + ideas for your phone

relationships/social

nurturing effective communication

friendship

how to say what you mean and mean what you say

miscellaneous

taking care of succulents

starting a garden

top 10 sanrio characters

editing aesthetic photos

pink velvet cupcakes

floral tea recipe

navigating financial wellness

eco-friendly living

the history of hello kitty

aesthetic YouTube channels to check out

sustainable aviation fuel

how to make a vision board

volunteering

the difference between "i love you" and "love you"

notes

dear diary

what i'm manifesting rn

note: i'm so sorry i had to make a couple more masterlists; the post was getting so long it started glitching when i tried to edit it :)

[thewizardhole]

insert patrick star "who are you people"