#aspd problems

[reneeistrans]

I find it weird that people can be genuinely disgusted by gore. Like, ok? a dude got his face ripped off by a bear. So what? it's not happening to you so why do you feel bad for them? That might just be the ASPD talking tho.

[carnage-cathedral]

btw guys managing your symptoms also means apologizing for things you didn't mean to do. sometimes you do things because of your disorders that you genuinely didn't mean to do, but if it hurt someone you still have to take accountability and make up for the hurt you caused

[ladygrey111]

The whole, "K*lling urself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" bullshit is spouted by the ignorant lucky ones who have only had temporary problems. Some people's problems are permanent so maybe try offering actual help and support to them rather than regurgitating an overused phrase that means nothing to people with real struggles.

[bpderanged]

They need to invent sleep where I don't fucking wake up.

[autopsyfreak]

i hate that BPD gives me such a lack of emotional permanence.

you can spend hours describing the ways in which you care about me, yet the moment you stop my brain will immediately decide you hate me and are destined to leave me.

[entity56]

Tips for Cluster B Anger

~ coming from someone who has BPD and a psychology special interest Have you been feeling like your anger is completely uncontrollable and all encompassing? Do you feel like your anger controls you more than you control it? Me too! But here are some things I've found to be helpful: - Taking notes. Write down triggers for what causes your anger episodes (as well as other episodes e.g sadness or paranoia) once you come down from it and start looking for a pattern. Not only will this help you to slow down and self reflect, you can begin to either avoid those triggers or find ways to regulate the effects. - SLOW DOWN. If something is making you want to hurt someone else or yourself, slow the FUCK down. Push against the grain, step back and let yourself have a good cry or scream into a pillow. Do whatever you can to (healthily) process the emotions, no matter how long it takes, before making major decisions. - Avoid self harm, substances or unhealthy habits like disordered eating or emotional self harm. It's so tempting, believe me, but it will only serve to make things worse. You might feel like you want it to get worse now, but in the future, you WILL regret it. If you start feeling these urges, refer to the urge surfing diagram below this. - Get outside advice. Think you're splitting but you can't tell? Run the situation by a close friend or loved one and see how they feel about it. Try to relay it with as little bias as possible and see if they agree with the decision you're about to make or if you perhaps need to reevaluate some things. - Take care of your heart. I know this is cliche, but a good sleep schedule, hearty food consumption habits, hydration, exercise routine and mental health care go a long way in helping you succeed in the above tips. You are struggling with an illness, and ill people need as much care as possible. Become your own parent. This works for anger in all Cluster B personality disorders, as well as with autism spectrum disorders! Urge surfing:

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Having survived abuse from people with mental illnesses, I know the urge to warn others to be wary of those mental illnesses. I know how often it can feel like that is your only power in life…the only action you can take against what you went through. But listen. Just because a mentally ill person caused you complex trauma, doesn’t mean you get to generalize and slander and malign every person with that mental illness.

You do not have to forgive your abusers. but you do have to heal without spreading stigma and misinformation. you do have to heal without antagonizing or dehumanizing others who are also just trying to heal. you have to help break the cycle. because nobody can heal alone.

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

me when my personality disorder actually impacts my life and doesn’t just make me a cool manic pixie dream girl (i will have this realization twice a week)

[fae-screams]

i cant look in the mirror because im not real and i can’t think about that

[silhouette-system]

[dragonwysper]

Seeing all these other pwASPD talk about how they hate socializing because they don't care about people's drama and they think it's all stupid is so interesting to me. I also dislike socializing, but like I DO wanna hear the drama. It has to be interesting, but I like sitting back and listening to these crazy-ass stories. It's entertaining as hell, and also saves me from the agony of trying to come up with a non-canned response for small talk.

[autopsyfreak]

me when i try to communicate with someone that my BPD will want to kill them and then myself if they leave me and they respond in an understanding manner instead of calling me toxic or insane.

[aspdculture-is]

ASPD + BPD culture is wanting to be left alone, prosocials don't get the fucking memo, and now oh! Now you're the bad guy for your brain defaulting to homicidal ideation to vent your frustration! Who could have fucking predicted this outcome? Obviously not me, the one motherfucker who wanted to be LEFT ALONE.

They say communication is a virtue, but god forbid I be direct <3

ASPD Culture is

[irequirealobotomy]

i love the fact that i am a real human person with the ability to learn and grow and become something amazing but god do i wish i was better at it

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

the urge to go out and ruin my life bc i’m bored

[fae-screams]

i want you to hate me. i want you to wish i’m dead. i want you to block me and never think of me again. so when i die, you won’t have to feel the pain.

i want you to love me. i want you to hold me. i want you to want to never let go. i want you to value me. i want you to love me. so when i live, you won’t have to feel the pain.