#this is self compassion actually

[rosegeode]

You know, I’m well aware that Dark Academia is a subculture (actually it might just be an aesthetic) that’s garnered a lot of criticism. However, sometimes lighting a candle and writing with an expensive pen while listening to classical music is just the only way to make it through community college. This is my life and it is my god given right to romanticize it.

[maxiglow]

beeillustrates

[yourhealingjournal]

the time you spent healing is not wasteful and you can still feel sad about the things you missed out on because you took time to heal.

[eerna]

me explaining why Will/Elizabeth/Jack love triangle was a perfect little one-movie arc that wasn't present in the final movie because it was never about choosing and instead just about dynamics and character development so they all outgrew it by then

[thecruellestmonth]

Batman never argues for the sake of compassion or rehabilitation in UTRH. Batman was especially callous, punitive, and lacking compassion throughout that early 00s era. He was not championing compassion, rehabilitation, redemption, justice system reform, or (HA!) abolitionism in UTRH—he did not have faith in those things for *the kind of people* whom Red Hood murdered, and he did not have faith in those things for Jason himself.

Every single person that Jason hurt is someone that Batman would hurt. Every single person that Jason murdered is someone that Batman would've unhesitatingly thrown away to rot in prison (a prison system explicitly shown and stated to be outrageously inhumane even by the horrifying standards of the USA).

If the person was lucky, then prison would reform him sufficiently that he could be employed through Wayne Enterprises (Gotham City's biggest employer, seemingly a monopoly on legal employment options for the formerly incarcerated) once he got out after... however long he'd been sentenced. Non-violent felonies can earn years, decades of prison time. Or if he was unlucky he'd be killed by one of the regular prison-breaks staged by Batman's rogues (including Red Hood that one time when a Batman kept him in prison, but more consistently by other repeat rogues).

Red Hood's argument is ''blah blah my crime is not like the other crime‚ my new cycle of violence is totally better than the current 20-year-old cycle of violence.'' Batman's argument is not "we can't throw criminals away‚ they're people just like us :("‚ but instead more like ''ew Jason has succumbed to his inherent criminal nature‚ sucks how he needs to be thrown away with the rest of the susperstitious and cowardly lot.''

[recoverr]

may all of the things that lack gentleness and kindness fall away; i don't want the sharp edges of cruelty to shape life around me. i don't need tough and rough. i want people that know the tenderness of our bruises and choose not to weaponize hurt disguised as "tough love."

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Never expected this many notes and all the tags are breaking my heart so I want to say something—

I’m so sorry if you were not taken seriously in your youth. I’m so sorry if you were denied the care and treatment you needed.

Please give yourself so much credit for surviving that.

I hope you heal from it all. I hope you get your needs met.

[dragonmermaidcrossing]

[neuroticboyfriend]

I had a nasty emotional flashback today so, I'm going to use this post to write down a letter to myself - affirmations & hope. Maybe it can help others too:

It is not my fault that I am traumatized. My emotions and thoughts are my own, and I do owe it to myself to treat myself as best I can. Yet I can still not control a lifetime of conditioning from complex trauma. I cannot willpower or knowledge my way out of constantly being in survival mode. I have to take care of myself with that in mind.

I may be self-centered at times. I may lack gratitude. I may feel guilty, remorseful, and shameful over this. But it helps no one - not myself or others - for me to demonize myself, and tell myself I deserve to feel this pain. I don't; I have just as much a right to happiness and health as everyone else, simply by being alive.

Trauma isn't pretty. It causes me immense pain, distorts my view of reality, and my behavior can hurt those around me. This is an unfortunate result of being human. All of us have flaws, and mine are not especially horrible. They are born of all the suffering and pain that was inflicted upon me. I am not the only one responsible for any negative impacts that come from this traumatic situation; I can only claim my own flaws.

Even still, this is not my fault. This is not my fault. My nervous system, and my soul, are sick. I survived so much, and it's okay for me to accept myself as I am. It's okay for me to exist flawed. It's okay for me to simply focus on adding good to the word, regardless of if people think what I do is productive. I do not have to be anything but the person I already am - accepting who I am today is the only way I can grow.

I just have to go with the flow. As long as I act in accordance with the river of life, along the way, I will find joy, happiness, and peace. I just have to be open and mindful to see it, no matter how small it is. My trauma is deep, and dark, and scary - but all those faults I think I have are not as world-ending as I think they are. And one day, I'll turn them into the power to help someone else.

It will be okay.

[that-ghost-girl-6]

I love you autistics with high empathy. I love you autistics with average empathy. I love you autistics with low empathy. I love you autistics with no empathy.

Empathy and sympathy are emotional functions that don’t determine your morality or character. Compassion and kindness are skills that can be improved upon and constantly used no matter what your empathy status is.

Being a good person isn’t about feeling “right,” it’s about doing right.

[theduckopera]

As a marginalized person, sometimes I find myself worrying that my journeys of self-discovery and self-compassion are a little, well, selfish. That focusing so much on the battle for myself means I'm neglecting the wider fight.

If you are part of a marginalised group, I'm here to tell you that learning who you are, how to love who you are, and how to step into your authentic self is *part of the wider fight*. If you are autistic, allowing yourself to be authentically autistic helps the whole autistic community, not just you. If you're bisexual, embracing your bisexuality benefits all bi people. This goes for every marginalized identity: disabled, queer, trans, BIPOC, indigenous, you name it. Being you--and loving you--is always valuable.

And you don't have to be doing it publicly, either. I am acutely aware of the privilege in my life that allows me to be out and proud about my disabilities and queerness. If it's not safe for you to be open to the world about these things, that doesn't mean you're not contributing just as much to the fight as someone who can. You going on these journeys of self-love and self-discovery still helps change the world.❤️

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

If you have AvPD, something you’re going to have to face is that, yes, plenty of people are going to dislike you. They’re going to hate you, they’re going to reject you. It’s a fact of life that everyone faces.

There isn’t a form you can beat yourself into that’s going to change that. You can’t bully yourself into being palatable to everyone, you won’t ever even be that palatable to most people, nothing is.

But you won’t get the connection you want if you reduce yourself to almost nothing. There has to be something real for people to connect to.

In the end, you have to be a version of yourself you’re comfortable with when nobody is looking. You are the only person you can’t avoid, make friends with yourself, I promise the rest will come if you let it.

You are important! You deserve to love yourself. You deserve to be yourself. You do NOT have to do anything before you’re allowed to show yourself compassion. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, you’re allowed to be you. You’re perfect.

I love you, exactly as you are, I’m excited to love the person you are when not hiding.

You’re doing great.

[whereserpentswalk]

I've chosen not to engage with the Gaza fundraisers for mental health reasons and I feel so selfish. Like, it's hard to justify not helping in a life and death situation just so I'll self harm less. Like, I should be able to just accept some amount of self harm by now. I'm not so important that my mental health can't take a hit. It just feels like when there's so much I can't do I don't have that many exuses.

Esepcially since there's an element of ethnic guilt to it. Like, I don't try to fall into that much. But when you're supposed to listen to marginalized people, and marginalized people are saying the world would be better if the genocide agasint your ansestors worked, it's hard to not think of it that way.

It's just another reason my inevitable scuicide will be praxis whenever it happens.

It's weird. I'm so forgiving about other people. On an intellectual level I know I deserve the same leeway I extend to everyone else. But it feels so wrong to give it to myself. I can't shake the feeling that I'm supposed to be punished when I don't help people enough.

[notalwayscommonsense]

Making Showering Easier w/ Executive Dysfunction

On this account we cover how to do things that are "common sense" or generally untaught for the people who dont know. Shame-free. Today, we'll be covering tips to help shower when you struggle with executive dysfunction, a depressive episode or something similar. Executive dysfunction can cause tasks that seem easy and simple for most look insurmountable to people who suffer with it. Sadly, there's no quick fix, but below will be tips on making bathing easier.

Tip 1: Taking away the pressure - A big reason bathing can feel like such a daunting task is because you're looking at the big picture. A list of things you need or feel like you have to do; washing your body, your hair, shaving, going about your regular routine. Simply put, simplify your shower. Gauge what you can manage and cut out the rest. If you can only wash your hair or only wash your body its far better than nothing at all. If you cant do either, just letting the water run over you is enough.

There isnt any hard and fast rules you must follow while showering. You dont have the energy to stand? Then sit. You can invest in a shower stool or just sit right on the floor. "I cant shower, its 3am!" Says who? When motivation strikes, its best to ride that wave no matter what time of day it is. Is the process of getting ready after you shower the daunting part? Pick out comfortable clothes, air dry your hair or even plan to reward yourself afterwards with something you've been wanting to do. Thinking of being able to curl up on the couch comfortable, clean and cozy may strike some motivation.

Tip 2: Make it fun - This tip definitely isnt for everyone, but it may be helpful for some. Try to indulge in some things to make your showers more fun and increase the motivation to do it. Some quick, free things you can do are playing music or even setting your phone or tablet a safe distance away to have your favorite show or movie on in the background. You can even bring a refreshing drink or snack (fruit will never get soggy and you dont need to worry about getting sticky from popsicles!). If you're open to spending some money, there's countless other ways you could increase the motivation to shower. Fancy soaps, body scrubs, fluffy new loofahs, bath bombs or shower steamers can all leave you feeling eager to try them out. Check out the kids section, seriously. Bath tints, bathtub crayons, markers and paint can all be fun for people with a creative side. Tip 3: Dont - If none of these options sound appealing to you, then simply dont shower. There are other ways to freshen up without having to go through all the motions. Using dry shampoo can leave your hair unwashed for longer. Dampen a wash cloth with warm water and wipe down your armpits. Keeping a pack of baby wipes by your bed can help when you feel a spark of motivation. Below will be linked a few more resources and products that could help when you're having trouble. Remember, no matter how hard it may feel right now, things will get easier. Products: Bathtub Markers & Crayons Affordable Shower Speaker B&BW Bath & Shower Products 15 Pack of Shower Steamers Resources: 15 Hygiene Hacks SAMHSA’s National Helpline

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[kaeyapilled]

i am still not over the fact arlecchino is referred to as "father" by the house of the hearth kids btw. the gender of it all